“I Am My Own Best Friend” – Embracing Self Love

In the Bollywood film “Jab We Met,” the female lead, Geet, delivers a line that resonates deeply with many, including yours truly! After I saw this movie, this line became my statement. What was the line? The line was, “I am my own best friend.” This simple yet profound statement encapsulates the essence of self-love and the importance of finding contentment within oneself. For introverts, who often find solace in solitude and introspection, this line serves as a powerful reminder of the value of self-companionship.

Being your own best friend means developing a deep and nurturing relationship with yourself. It involves recognising your worth, embracing your strengths and weaknesses, and treating yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would offer to a close friend. This concept is particularly relevant for introverts, who often thrive in environments that allow introspection and self-reflection.

When you become your own best friend, you build a strong foundation of emotional resilience. You learn to rely on yourself for comfort and support, which can be especially valuable during challenging times. Embracing self-companionship fosters self-acceptance. You learn to appreciate your unique qualities and quirks, and you become more forgiving of your imperfections. Being your own best friend cultivates a sense of independence. You become less reliant on external validation and more confident in your ability to navigate life’s ups and downs on your terms. Developing a positive relationship with yourself leads to inner peace. You create a safe and nurturing space within your mind, where you can retreat and recharge.

Introverts often find themselves energised by solitude and introspection. They derive strength from within and are more attuned to their inner world. For introverts, being their own best friend is not just a choice but a necessity. It allows them to thrive in a world that often values extroverted qualities.

Introverts recharge their energy through solitude. Being their own best friend means they can fully embrace and enjoy their alone time without feeling lonely or isolated. Solitude provides introverts with the opportunity for self-discovery. They can explore their thoughts, feelings, and passions without external distractions. Many introverts find that their creativity flourishes in solitude. Being their own best friend allows them to tap into their creative potential and express themselves authentically. Introverts are naturally inclined towards mindfulness and introspection. Developing a positive relationship with themselves enhances their ability to stay present and mindful.

Cultivating self-companionship is a journey that requires intentional effort and practice. Self-care is the foundation of self-companionship. It involves taking deliberate actions to nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

Physical self-care or a regular physical activity that you enjoy, whether it’s yoga, walking, dancing, or any other form of exercise, boosts your mood and energy levels. Nourish your body with healthy and balanced meals. Pay attention to how different foods make you feel and choose those that energize and sustain you. Prioritise rest and sleep. Create a bedtime routine that promotes relaxation and ensures you get enough restorative sleep.

Emotional self-care includes journaling, where you can keep a journal to express your thoughts and emotions. Writing can be a therapeutic way to process your feelings and gain clarity. Practice mindfulness techniques such as meditation, deep breathing, or guided imagery. These practices help you stay present and reduce stress. Set healthy boundaries in your relationships and activities. Learn to say no when necessary and protect your emotional well-being.

To care for yourself mentally, engage in reading books that inspire and uplift you. Reading can be a great way to expand your knowledge and stimulate your mind. Pursue hobbies and activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or playing a musical instrument, make time for activities that nourish your soul. Continuously seek opportunities for learning and personal growth. Take up new courses, attend workshops, or explore new interests.

The way you talk to yourself has a profound impact on your self-esteem and overall well-being. Cultivate positive self-talk by being mindful of your inner dialogue and replacing negative thoughts with affirming ones.

Start your day with positive affirmations. Repeat statements that reinforce your self-worth and capabilities, such as “I am enough,” “I am capable,” and “I am deserving of love and happiness.” Practice gratitude by acknowledging the things you appreciate about yourself and your life. Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you’re grateful for each day.

Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would offer to a friend. When you make a mistake, remind yourself that it’s okay to be imperfect. Forgive yourself for past mistakes and shortcomings. Let go of self-criticism and embrace self-acceptance.

The Danish concept of hygge, pronounced “hoo-gah” is all about creating a cosy and inviting atmosphere that promotes well-being and contentment. Incorporating hygge into your daily life can enhance your sense of self-companionship.

Use soft, warm lighting such as candles, string lights, or lamps with dimmers to create a cosy ambience. Add plush blankets, pillows, and rugs to your living space. These elements create a sense of warmth and comfort. Incorporate natural elements like plants, flowers, and wooden decor to bring a touch of nature indoors.

Indulge in comforting food and drink, such as a cup of hot cocoa, a bowl of soup, or freshly baked bread. Savour these simple pleasures mindfully. Take time to enjoy the present moment. Whether it’s sipping your morning coffee, reading a book, or taking a walk in nature, be fully present and appreciate the experience.

Creative activities provide a therapeutic outlet for self-expression and can be a wonderful way to connect with yourself. Explore painting, drawing, or other forms of visual art. Allow yourself to create without judgment or expectations. Write stories, poems, or personal reflections. Writing can be a powerful way to process your thoughts and emotions. Engage in knitting, crocheting, or other crafting activities. These hobbies can be relaxing and satisfying. Take on DIY projects that interest you, such as home decor, gardening, or upcycling old items.

Mindfulness and meditation are powerful practices that can help you stay grounded and connected to yourself. Set aside time each day for meditation. Focus on your breath, observe your thoughts without judgment, and cultivate a sense of inner peace. Practice deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold for a few seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth. Perform a body scan meditation to bring awareness to different parts of your body. This practice can help you release tension and promote relaxation.

While being your own best friend is important, fostering meaningful connections with others can also enhance your sense of well-being. Spend quality time with family and friends engaging in activities you enjoy together, such as cooking, hiking, or playing games. Have meaningful conversations with loved ones. Share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, and listen actively to theirs. Surround yourself with supportive and positive people who uplift and encourage you. Get involved in your community by joining clubs, groups, or organizations that align with your interests and values.

Embracing solitude and reflection allows you to connect with your inner self and gain clarity. Keep a journal to reflect on your thoughts, experiences, and goals. Journaling can provide insights and help you process your emotions. Take solitary walks in nature to clear your mind and connect with the natural world. Use this time for introspection and self-discovery.

Dedicate time each day to unplug from digital devices and social media. Use this time for self-reflection, relaxation, and meaningful activities. Be mindful of the content you consume online. Choose content that inspires, educates, and uplifts you.

Being your own best friend is a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-love. For introverts, this journey is especially meaningful, as it aligns with their natural inclination towards introspection and solitude. By practising self-care, cultivating positive self-talk, creating a hygge-inspired environment, engaging in creative pursuits, prioritizing mindfulness, fostering meaningful connections, and embracing solitude, you can develop a deep and nurturing relationship with yourself.

Remember, the journey to self-companionship is unique for each individual. Embrace the process with patience and compassion, and celebrate the small victories along the way. As you become your own best friend, you’ll find that you are better equipped to navigate life’s challenges, cultivate inner peace, and create a fulfilling and joyful life.

Self-Love: You alone are Enough

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There is a line in the 2007 Bollywood movie, “Jab We Met” where the female lead, Geet, played by Kareena Kapoor, tells the male lead, Aditya, played by Shahid Kapoor, that “Main to apni favourite hoon”, translated to “I am my favourite”. This iconic line is, to me, the essence of what self-love is.

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s all too easy to lose sight of the most important relationship we’ll ever have — the one with ourselves. Self-love, a concept often misunderstood or overlooked, holds the key to personal growth, resilience, and a life of fulfilment.

Self-love, defined as the love of self or regard for one’s happiness or advantage, has been conceptualised both as a basic human necessity and as a moral flaw akin to vanity and selfishness,  synonymous with amour-propre, conceitedness, egotism, narcissism, etc. However, today, self-love has adopted a more positive connotation as well through the increase in mental health awareness that promotes self-love as intrinsic to self-help.

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others, and it means not settling for less than you deserve.

Self-love is not narcissism, arrogance, or self-indulgence. Rather, it is the deep appreciation, acceptance, and compassion we nurture towards ourselves. It’s about recognising our worth, valuing our unique qualities, and embracing our imperfections as part of our journey of growth. Self-love is the foundation upon which we build a life that aligns with our values, passions, and aspirations.

Self-love is important to every one of us. When we cultivate self-love, we develop a strong sense of self-acceptance. This allows us to be authentic, honour our true selves, and live in alignment with our core values. Through this process, we discover inner peace as we release the need for external validation and embrace our innate worthiness. Self-love creates a nurturing environment for mental and emotional well-being. By practising self-compassion, we develop resilience in the face of challenges and setbacks. We learn to manage stress, anxiety, and self-doubt with kindness, empowering ourselves to bounce back stronger and cultivate a positive mindset. The foundation of any healthy relationship begins with self-love. When we love and respect ourselves, we set healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, and attract relationships that uplift and support us. By valuing our own needs and desires, we create space for deeper connections built on mutual respect and understanding.

So how do we develop, cultivate and nurture self-love? There are various ways one can become more in love with ourselves. Developing self-love begins with self-awareness. Take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and patterns of behaviour. Notice your inner dialogue and challenge self-critical thoughts. Journaling, meditation, and therapy can be powerful tools for self-discovery and nurturing self-awareness. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want. They take actions based on need rather than want, and by staying focused on what they need, they turn away from automatic behaviour patterns that get them into trouble, keep them stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.

One also needs to practice self-compassion and treat oneself with the same kindness and compassion they would extend to a dear friend. Embrace your flaws, celebrate your successes, and acknowledge your efforts. Embracing self-compassion helps us break free from the grip of perfectionism and fosters a nurturing environment for personal growth.

Self-love requires actively prioritising self-care. You should engage in activities that bring joy, recharge energy, and support your overall well-being. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions. Start truly caring for yourself by mirroring that in what you eat, how you exercise, and what you spend time doing. Do stuff, not to get it done or because you have to, but because you care about yourself.

Boundaries are essential for self-love. Learn to say no when your well-being is at stake, and establish limits that honour your time, energy, and emotional capacity. Setting boundaries allows you to create space for self-care, pursue your passions, and protect your mental and emotional health. Surrounding yourself with positive influences—whether it be supportive friends, inspiring mentors, or uplifting content—can reinforce self-love. Choose relationships and environments that foster growth, encouragement, and acceptance.

Lastly, to practice self-love, start by being kind, patient, gentle and compassionate to yourself, the way you would with someone else that you care about.

Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have many different ways to take care of ourselves. Figuring out what self-love looks like for you as an individual is an important part of your mental health. Self-love is a lifelong journey that requires conscious effort, patience, and compassion. By embracing our worth, nurturing self-acceptance, and prioritising self-love, we can unlock our true potential and create a life of authenticity, inner peace, and fulfilment.