In My Hands Today…

I Seek a Kind Person: My Father, Seven Children and the Adverts that Helped Them Escape the Holocaust – Julian Borger

In 1938, Jewish families are scrambling to flee Vienna. Desperate, they take out adverts offering their children into the safe keeping of readers of a British newspaper, the Manchester Guardian. The right words in the right order could mean the difference between life and death. Eighty-three years later, Guardian journalist Julian Borger comes across the advert that saved his father, Robert, from the Nazis. Robert had kept this a secret, like almost everything else about his traumatic Viennese childhood, until he took his own life.

Drawn to the shadows of his family’s past and starting with nothing but a page of newspaper adverts, Borger traces the remarkable stories of his father, the other advertised children and their families, each thrown into the maelstrom of a world at war. From a Viennese radio shop to the Shanghai ghetto, internment camps and family homes across Britain, the deep forests and concentration camps of Nazi Germany, smugglers saving Jewish lives in Holland, an improbable French Resistance cell, and a redemptive story of survival in New York, Borger unearths the astonishing journeys of the children at the hands of fate, their stories of trauma and the kindness of strangers.

Rethinking Donald Super’s Life-Career Rainbow: A Theory That Still Speaks, Even If Life Has Outgrown It

Career theories often try to explain far more than they can. Donald Super’s Life-Career Rainbow is one of those ideas that has stayed popular long after its time. It has a simple appeal: our lives sit across many roles, and our careers grow and shift as these roles take shape. At a glance, the rainbow makes sense. It shows how childhood, work, family, and later life all blend into one long arc. And because the visual is clean, the idea feels clean. But life is not clean. And this is where the tension begins.

Super’s central point is that we move through life carrying different roles, each one taking up more or less space depending on age and circumstance. Child, student, worker, caregiver, partner, citizen. He treats these not as boxes but as changing identities that guide our decisions. This part of the theory still holds. Most of us have lived seasons where one role dominates everything else. And we’ve had moments where we realise that a role we once carried lightly has become heavy.

Super’s refusal to isolate “career” from “life” is one of his greatest contributions. Too many career models act as if work happens in a vacuum. It doesn’t. A crisis at home disrupts how you show up at work. A supportive family changes what you dare to attempt. A lack of resources shapes your path long before you realise it. Super saw all this early, and that makes the rainbow more honest than many newer models.

But once you move past the broad message, the details feel dated. Super imagined life unfolding in stages: growth, exploration, establishment, maintenance, and decline. The sequence may have made sense in mid-20th-century societies built on stable jobs and rigid roles. It does not map cleanly onto modern life. Many people today establish a career only to tear it down and rebuild it. Exploration is no longer a youthful phase; it’s a recurring part of adulthood. And the idea of “decline” in later years assumes that work becomes smaller rather than different. That assumption says more about the era than human potential.

Super also leaned heavily on self-concept: the idea that we choose careers based on how we see ourselves. This is true to a point. Identity influences the work we enjoy and the goals we chase. But Super underplayed how much our self-concept is shaped by forces outside us. Culture, class, gender expectations, race, and money all press in. They limit choices long before personal identity enters the conversation. Someone may know precisely who they are and what they want, yet be locked out of opportunities for reasons the theory barely addresses.

This is the first major crack: the rainbow shows roles but not power. It shows movement but not struggle.

Super also assumed a level of stability that many people do not have. His model suggests that people can make choices freely as they move across stages. But plenty of lives do not follow that arc. Some people shoulder adult responsibilities as children. Some have to work early to support their families. Some experience sudden disruptions that collapse multiple roles at once. And modern work does not stay still long enough for the rainbow to feel realistic. Industries shift faster than human development ever could.

Yet the theory still has one enduring strength: it treats career change as normal. Not a crisis. Not a personal failure. Just a part of being human. Super framed development as a cycle rather than a straight climb. Every time we face a transition, we revisit earlier phases. We explore again. We test again. We rebuild again. This cyclical view feels accurate today, especially when careers stretch across so many reinventions.

But here’s the part we often ignore: Super’s model still presumes choice at every turn. It does not fully account for exhaustion, burnout, caregiving strain, financial pressure, or structural inequality. It looks at roles from above, as shapes on a chart. It does not show how some people live in tension between roles for years. Or how some cannot grow one role without sacrificing another.

If the rainbow wants to represent real lives, it needs to show constraint alongside possibility.

The rainbow also struggles with the speed of modern change. People now move between roles quickly. A person can be a student, freelancer, caregiver, and volunteer within the same week. Technology amplifies the pace, and careers shift almost as fast as personal identity. The rainbow’s arcs feel too slow for that reality. They assume predictable movement in a world that rarely gives us anything predictable.

Still, the model gives us something useful: a reason to pause and look at which role is driving our life right now. Not the role we’re supposed to prioritise. The one that actually takes our time, energy, and mental space. Many people get stuck because their lived reality does not match their self-image. They think they are still in an “establishment” mode when they are actually deep in exploration again. Or they act as if they have endless capacity when another role has already consumed half of it.

Super’s theory helps name that gap, even if it cannot solve it.

What do we do with a theory that is partly true, partly outdated, and partly blind to the world we live in? We use it with clear boundaries. We take what helps: the view of life as multi-layered, the idea that identity evolves, and the acceptance that career paths are not linear. And we challenge the rest. We reject the timelines that no longer match reality. We question the idea that exploration belongs only to the young. We expand the concept of roles to include the complexity of modern work, migration, caregiving, and economic survival.

Super didn’t foresee global movement, gig work, AI, or the collapse of lifetime employment. He couldn’t. But his theory still gives us a way to think about the long arc of living and working. It reminds us that careers don’t start and end at the office door. They stretch into our personal lives, our values, our responsibilities, and our hopes. And they are shaped by both our choices and our limits.

If we were to update the rainbow today, we would soften the edges, blur the lines, and allow overlap without implying sequence. We would acknowledge that some roles grow not by desire but by necessity. We would show that identity shifts not once but many times. And we would treat life not as stages, but as seasons that return in different forms.

But even without rewriting it, the rainbow still asks a useful question: Who are you becoming, and how is that influencing your choices? It’s a question worth revisiting at every major change, not to fit ourselves into a model, but to understand the model we’re unconsciously living.

Super’s rainbow is not perfect. It isn’t even close. But it gives us language for moments we don’t always know how to describe: the unease of outgrowing roles, the tension of conflicting responsibilities, and the need to rebuild ourselves midstream. If a career theory can help us see these things more clearly, it remains valuable, even with its flaws.

And that may be the most practical way to use it today: take the clarity, leave the assumptions, and keep your eyes on the real world, the one where no rainbow runs in a straight line.

In My Hands Today…

Story of a Murder: The Wives, the Mistress, and Dr. Crippen – Hallie Rubenhold

This is the story of a murder, not a murderer . . .

In Story of a Murder, bestselling author of The Five and celebrated historian Hallie Rubenhold reexamines the events leading up to the infamous Crippen murder from the perspectives of the three women at the center of it all.

When Belle Elmore’s remains were discovered in the basement of London’s 39 Hilldrop Crescent in July 1910, the larger-than-life vaudevillian performer was launched into stardom she never achieved on the stage.

Story of a Murder provides an intricately plotted, intimate look into the lives of three multifaceted women living during a time of electric progress and stifling Crippen’s first wife, Charlotte, who died under mysterious circumstances; his mistress, Ethel, who claimed ignorance of his crime even as she escaped with Crippen disguised as his son; and Belle, the woman whose life Crippen took.

Throughout the twentieth century, the infamous Crippen murder was told in such a way as to cast doubt on Crippen’s guilt and to victim-blame his wife Cora for her own murder. It also astonishingly depicted Crippen’s younger mistress, Ethel, as innocent of any involvement in the killing of her love rival.

But new evidence unearthed by Rubenhold completely subverts this famous history, unravelling assumptions about the crime and deconstructing Edwardian beliefs about women, class aspiration, and the transatlantic world, ultimately proving that Charlotte, Belle, and Ethel were so much more than the passive victims history has portrayed them as.

Recipes: Chikkad Chole

I had come across Chikkad Chole in a few reels and videos and had been intrigued by it enough that I wanted to try it. Also known as Chikkar Chole, Chikkad Chole is a traditional Punjabi chickpea curry beloved across the India-Pakistan border, with deep historical roots and cultural significance.

Chikkad Chole’s history is intertwined with Punjabi and Lahori culinary traditions. The name “chikkad” or “chikar” refers to the dish’s thick, mud-like consistency, achieved by mashing the chickpeas during cooking. It’s believed that the use of chickpeas, native to the Indian subcontinent and the Middle East, spread through ancient trade routes and became a staple in North Indian cuisine. Over centuries, chickpeas were adopted into Mughal kitchens, where the combination of spices and slow-cooking techniques developed into rich gravies that define today’s Chole recipes.

Many culinary legends suggest chole recipes gained prominence during the Mughal era, especially as royal cooks experimented with locally available pulses and spices. As communities moved due to the partition of India in 1947, food traditions like Chikkad Chole also migrated and became popular in cities like Delhi and Lahore, bringing comfort to families amidst upheaval. Famous eateries and individuals, such as Peshori Lal Lamba of Kwality Restaurant or street vendors in Paharganj, Delhi, played pivotal roles in popularising variations of Chole across urban India after the partition.

Chikkad Chole is more than just a dish; it’s a symbol of Punjabi hospitality and celebration. It’s a staple during festivals, gatherings, and community events, often enjoyed alongside bhature, naan, or rice. The tangy, spicy flavours, achieved with amchur, anardana, cardamom, and black salt, reflect the agricultural richness and multicultural influences of the Punjab region.

In Lahore, Chikar Cholay is cherished as a popular street food, with vendors serving thick, aromatic chickpea curry on bustling corners. Culinary techniques, such as adding black tea and dried amla, have become characteristic of the region’s style, giving the curry its unique colour and depth of flavour.

While the dish’s core ingredients remain chickpeas and spice blends, every household and city has its nuanced twist, from the amount of mashing to the combination of souring agents. The addition of anardana (pomegranate powder) and amchur (dried mango powder) is a relatively modern adaptation, providing the requisite tang available in today’s kitchens. With changing times, the recipe continues to evolve, adapting to personal preferences and regional ingredients while maintaining its legacy of bold taste and comforting texture.

Chikkad Chole

Ingredients:

  • 1.5 cups dried chickpeas (white kabuli or black chana), soaked overnight
  • 2 tea bags (for colour, optional)
  • 4 pieces dried Indian gooseberry (amla), optional
  • Salt to taste
  • 2 medium onions, finely chopped
  • 3 medium tomatoes, pureed
  • 2 medium-sized potatoes, peeled
  • 1-2 green chillies, slit
  • 1 inch ginger, cut into julienne plus extra for garnish
  • Oil for frying
  • ¼ tsp garam masala (optional, for garnish)

For the Chikkad Chole Masala

  • 1 black cardamom
  • 3 cloves
  • 1-inch cinnamon stick
  • ¼ tsp ajwain (carom seeds)
  • 1 tsp cumin powder
  • 1 tbsp coriander powder
  • ½ tsp red chilli powder
  • ¼ tsp black pepper powder
  • 1 tsp kasuri methi (dried fenugreek leaves)
  • 1 tsp amchur (dry mango powder)
  • 1 tsp anardana (pomegranate powder; optional, skip if avoiding)
  • 1 tsp kala namak (black salt)

Method:

  • For the masala, dry roast the spices until aromatic, then cool and grind into a fine powder.
  • Soak chickpeas overnight in plenty of water.
  • Drain and transfer to a pressure cooker. Add tea bags (for deep colour), potatoes and dried amla (if using) with water and salt.
  • Pressure cook until soft (usually 15-20 minutes, or 4-5 whistles).
  • In a heavy-bottomed pan, heat oil and sauté onions until golden brown.
  • Add julienned ginger and green chillies. Sauté for a minute.
  • Add pureed tomatoes and cook until the oil separates and the tomatoes are fully cooked.
  • Add the prepared Chikkad Chole masala blend and sauté for 2-3 minutes until fragrant.
  • Once the pressure reduces, drain the boiled chickpeas, reserve the water, and take about 3-4 tbsp of the cooked chole into a blender along with the boiled potatoes and blend into a smooth paste.
  • Add the paste into the pan and stir well.
  • Once it comes to a boil, add the cooked chickpeas, and mix everything together.
  • Add salt to taste and pour in some of the reserved water to achieve a thick consistency.
  • Simmer on low heat for 20-30 minutes, mashing some chickpeas to make the gravy thick.
  • Add garam masala and kasuri methi and mix before serving.
  • Add more ginger julienne and chopped coriander leaves before serving.
  • Serve piping hot with bhature, kulcha, naan, or rice for an authentic experience.

Notes:

  • Pomegranate powder (anardana) adds a distinct tang. If omitting, increase the dry mango powder slightly for tartness, or use just amchur instead.
  • The black tea bags and dried amla are for colour only, not essential for flavour.
  • For an even thicker, richer gravy, mash some chickpeas directly in the pan as the curry simmers.

2026 Week 17 Update

Today’s quote from the German-born theoretical physicist best known for developing the theory of relativity and for his equation E = mc², Albert Einstein, reframes how we think about mistakes. Instead of seeing them as failures, Einstein presents them as evidence of effort, curiosity, and growth. If you’re never making mistakes, it likely means you’re staying within what is familiar and safe, repeating what you already know, rather than stretching into something new. Trying anything new comes with uncertainty. Whether it’s learning a skill, changing direction, or taking a risk, mistakes are part of the process. They are not signs that something has gone wrong, but signs that something is being attempted. In that sense, mistakes are not the opposite of success; they are often the pathway to it.

The quote also challenges perfectionism. Many people hold back because they want to get things right the first time. But this desire to avoid mistakes can quietly limit growth. When we accept that errors are inevitable, we become more willing to experiment, explore, and push boundaries. Progress becomes less about avoiding failure and more about learning from it. There’s also a deeper confidence embedded in this idea. When you’re not afraid of making mistakes, you free yourself to engage fully with life. You stop hesitating at every step and start trusting that you can handle whatever comes next, including setbacks.

Today’s verse from the Bhagavad Gita acknowledges reality. The mind is restless. That is not a weakness. That is human. But it gives two tools: practice and detachment. Practice is repetition. Showing up again. Returning again. Detachment is loosening the grip. Not clinging to outcomes. Not over-identifying with thoughts. Together, they create steadiness. The month does not end in intensity; it ends in maturity. Not to fix the mind, but to train it patiently.

I recently read this and thought I should share it with you all. This is something I struggle with, and if it helps someone, I would be happy. Don’t hold yourself back when you’re stepping into a new experience. Even if it doesn’t work out, you’ll move forward with valuable lessons. You won’t have any regrets, knowing you showed up wholeheartedly and gave it your all. Life is about choosing growth and stepping beyond what feels comfortable. Every new experience strengthens your spirit. Take that chance, embracing the thought that no matter what happens, you can always rise again.

We’re staring at the end of another month of the year. April has felt like a month lived slightly underwater, not heavily or overwhelmingly, but in that quiet, slowed-down rhythm where everything takes a little more effort than usual. The days have moved, and responsibilities have been met, but there has also been a constant undercurrent of tiredness, a kind of sleepiness that doesn’t quite lift. And yet, life hasn’t paused. BB and GG have slipped back into their own routines: busy, independent, and moving forward in their own worlds, while I’ve continued in mine. There’s a quiet shift here, one that feels both natural and slightly bittersweet, watching our lives run in parallel more than they overlap. At the same time, April has also carried that familiar sense of time speeding up. The first quarter is already behind us, the second is quietly unfolding, and days are folding into weeks before they’ve fully registered. There have been small pockets of progress, moments of clarity, and the steady, unglamorous work of simply keeping things going. Not dramatic, but real.

Beyond our personal spaces, the world has continued in its usual, complex way. There have been moments that call for attention, like the ongoing Middle East conflict, uncertainty, and the human cost that sits behind headlines, alongside quieter signs of resilience and everyday continuity. Life everywhere seems to be holding both at once: difficulty and endurance, disruption and routine.

Perhaps that has been the underlying theme of April: a coexistence of things. Tiredness and movement. Distance and connection. Noise and quiet persistence. It hasn’t been a month of sharp highs or clear turning points but one of gentle transitions and ongoing adjustment. And maybe that’s its own kind of significance, the reminder that not every phase needs to be defined by momentum. Sometimes, simply moving through, even slowly, is enough.

Here’s looking forward to a better May, a chance to step into the month with a little more energy, a little more clarity, and perhaps a steadier rhythm than before. The hope of lighter days, renewed focus, and the space to move forward with a bit more ease. Happy May, everyone!