Sacred Stones, Spaces, and Stories: Divya Desams Part 27

Thirukkalvanur Temple, Kanchipuram, Tamil Nadu
In Kanchipuram, where temples often sit inside other temples, and sacred stories overlap without fuss, Thirukkalvanur has a particularly unusual place. This Divya Desam is located within the Kamakshi Amman Temple complex in Kanchipuram, which already sets it apart from many other Vishnu shrines. The presiding deity here is generally identified as Aadhi Varaha Perumal, and the goddess is Anjilaivalli Thayar. The temple is small, almost hidden when compared to the larger sacred space around it, but that hidden quality suits its name. The word kalvan in Tamil means thief, and in this case, the meaning is not harsh or criminal. It refers to the divine thief, the one who quietly steals the heart of the devotee. That idea gives the temple its emotional tone. It is not a place of spectacle. It is a place of quiet recognition.

The central legend linked to Thirukkalvanur is simple but memorable. According to temple tradition, Goddess Parvati once referred to Vishnu here as Kalva, the thief. The story is usually understood in a devotional sense. Vishnu is the one who steals hearts, enters quietly, and takes away pride, restlessness and false certainty without making a dramatic show of it. In another layer of interpretation, the name reflects the playful intimacy often found in Tamil bhakti poetry, where the divine is not always approached with distance and formality but sometimes with familiarity, affection and teasing. That emotional nearness matters. It means that the relationship between devotee and deity is not cold or rigid. It is alive, personal and capable of tenderness.

The form of the deity deepens this feeling. Aadhi Varaha Perumal is worshipped here in a standing posture, and the Varaha association gives the shrine another layer of meaning. Varaha, the boar incarnation of Vishnu, is the one who lifted the earth out of danger and restored what had sunk into darkness. That image of rescue blends naturally with the gentler identity of Kalvan, the one who steals into the heart. Put together, the temple suggests that divine grace often works quietly. It does not always arrive with thunder. Sometimes it enters unnoticed and lifts what had become heavy, buried or forgotten. That is very much the mood of this shrine.

Historically, Thirukkalvanur belongs to the old sacred geography of Kanchipuram, a city shaped by Pallava, Chola and later Vijayanagara patronage. Over time, temples here grew in layers rather than in isolation. Shrines were built within larger complexes, and traditions lived side by side more naturally than later categories often suggest. Thirukkalvanur’s location within the Kamakshi Amman Temple reflects this older temple culture, where the presence of Vishnu within a Shakta setting did not seem strange but entirely possible. The shrine’s continued place in the Divya Desam tradition rests not on size or monumental architecture but on its recognition in the Alvar tradition and on the continuity of worship that kept it alive across generations.

Architecturally, Thirukkalvanur is modest to the point of almost being overlooked. It does not announce itself the way a large gopuram does. Instead, it sits within the larger Kamakshi complex as a smaller, quieter sacred presence. That actually strengthens the identity of the place. A hidden shrine suits a deity called Kalvan. Devotees often describe it as a place that must be sought rather than simply seen. The deity faces west and appears in a standing posture, while the associated theertham is known as Nithya Pushkarini and the vimanam is traditionally called Vamana Vimanam. These details matter because they anchor the shrine within the established language of Divya Desam worship, even though the physical space is small.

The experience of visiting Thirukkalvanur is shaped by that sense of discovery. Pilgrims entering the Kamakshi Amman Temple are often first absorbed by the scale and energy of the larger complex. To then find this smaller Vishnu shrine inside it creates a different rhythm. The mind shifts. The pace becomes slower. There is something intimate about standing before a deity who is not placed at the centre of public attention and yet carries the full weight of sacred presence. The shrine does not try to dominate its surroundings. It simply remains there, steady and inward. That is perhaps why the temple leaves a quiet impression rather than a dramatic one.
Ritual life here follows the ongoing rhythm of the larger temple complex. Because the shrine is located within Kamakshi Amman Temple, worship unfolds within a shared sacred environment. This also gives Thirukkalvanur a distinct character among the Kanchipuram Divya Desams. It is one of the two Divya Desams in Kanchipuram, located inside temples primarily associated with another tradition, the other being Nilathingal Thundam. That fact alone says something important about Kanchipuram. The city’s sacred map was never as narrow as people sometimes imagine. Devotion flowed through shared spaces, and shrines like Thirukkalvanur preserve that older memory.

Culturally, the temple carries the flavour of Tamil bhakti at its most intimate. The idea of the divine as thief appears often in devotional literature. It does not suggest wrongdoing but rather irresistible grace. The Lord steals the mind away from distraction. He steals the heart away from attachment. He steals the ego away from its own certainty. In this sense, Thirukkalvanur is not merely about one local legend. It reflects a much larger religious imagination in which God is not only ruler, protector or teacher, but also the beloved presence who enters quietly and changes a person from within.

This temple also says something about scale. Not every Divya Desam needs towering walls or vast courtyards to leave a mark. Some are remembered because of the mood they hold. Thirukkalvanur belongs to that kind of sacred place. It is smaller, more inward and easy to miss if one is rushing. But if one pauses, its meaning becomes clearer. The hidden shrine within a larger temple, the Lord called the thief, the Varaha form associated with rescue, and the atmosphere of stillness all work together. The result is a temple that feels less like public declaration and more like a private conversation.

In modern times, Thirukkalvanur continues to draw devotees who follow the Divya Desam circuit through Kanchipuram. Many come specifically looking for it because of its unusual location inside Kamakshi Amman Temple. Others discover it during a broader visit and are struck by the way the shrine holds its own within a much larger complex. Its physical modesty has not erased its devotional importance. If anything, it has made the temple’s identity more memorable. It remains one of those sacred places that teaches by tone rather than argument.

Thirukkalvanur ultimately represents the quiet, inward movement of grace. Aadhi Varaha Perumal as Kalvan, is not the Lord of dramatic conquest but the Lord who enters without noise and takes hold of the heart. In the wider Divya Desam journey, this temple adds something subtle but essential. It reminds us that not all transformation arrives with visible force. Sometimes it comes gently, almost unnoticed, like a divine theft. And by the time you realise what has happened, the heart has already been claimed.

Thiruppavalavannam Temple, Kanchipuram, Tamil Nadu
In Kanchipuram, where one temple often leads quietly into another, and each shrine seems to hold a different mood of the divine, Thiruppavalavannam stands out because of its colour. The presiding deity here is Pavalavannar Perumal, with Pavalavalli Thayar as the goddess. The name itself gives the temple its character. Pavalam means coral, and the Lord here is worshipped in a coral-red form. In a sacred town where Vishnu is seen as light, rain cloud, messenger, teacher and protector, this temple presents him through colour and the idea that the divine appears differently in different ages and for different needs. That makes Thiruppavalavannam quietly distinctive. It is not only about the form of the deity but about what that form suggests.

The mythology of the temple is tied to the belief that Vishnu appeared in different colours across the yugas. In Satya Yuga, when truth and order were said to be strong, he appeared in white. In the Treta Yuga, he was seen in a coral-red form. In Dvapara Yuga, he appeared in an emerald or green hue, and in Kali Yuga, he is often associated with a dark cloud-like colour. Thiruppavalavannam preserves the memory of that coral form. The symbolism is simple but layered. Colour here is not decorative. It reflects mood, era and the state of the world. The coral-red tone suggests warmth, life, energy and a certain immediacy. It is gentler than fire but more vivid than stillness. The temple, therefore, becomes a place where devotees encounter Vishnu in a form that feels alive, alert and present.

There is also a local legend connected with sage Bhrigu. According to tradition, Bhrigu once wished to test the patience and greatness of the Trimurti. When he approached Vishnu and behaved with disrespect, Vishnu did not react with anger. Instead, he responded with calmness and compassion. Ashamed of his own conduct, the sage was asked to continue his penance at Kanchipuram, where Vishnu later appeared before him in the coral-hued form of Pavalavannar. This story gives the temple another emotional layer. It is not just about colour, but about the grace that follows correction. The sage arrives in ego and leaves with humility. The Lord does not humiliate him. He simply reveals himself. That tone matters. It makes this temple feel less like a place of judgment and more like a place of inward softening.

Historically, Thiruppavalavannam belongs to the long religious life of Kanchipuram and carries clear traces of Chola and later Vijayanagara patronage. The temple is generally believed to have been built or expanded under the Cholas, and inscriptions on its walls date to the reigns of rulers such as Kulothunga Chola I and Rajadhiraja Chola. These records point to an active temple culture supported through endowments, ritual practice and continued upkeep. Later rulers added to that continuity rather than replacing it. Like many temples in Kanchipuram, Thiruppavalavannam was not frozen in one era. It grew through care, additions and repeated acts of preservation. That layered history gives the temple a steady dignity. It feels lived in rather than merely remembered.

Architecturally, the temple reflects the classic grammar of South Indian temple design while remaining manageable in scale. A granite enclosure surrounds the shrine, and the Rajagopuram rises above the entrance with enough presence to mark the temple clearly without overwhelming the neighbourhood around it. Inside, the sanctum houses Pavalavannar in a standing posture, facing west, which already gives the shrine a slightly different orientation from many other Vishnu temples. The roof above the sanctum is known as the Vedasara Vimanam, and the temple tank is called Chakra Theertham. There are also shrines for the Alvars and other Vaishnavite figures within the complex, which helps situate the temple firmly within the larger Divya Desam tradition. The pillars and halls carry images linked to Vishnu’s stories, but the focus remains where it should be—on the coral-hued Lord in the sanctum.

What makes the architecture work is not ornament for its own sake but proportion. The temple feels balanced. The path inward is clear, the sanctum remains the emotional center, and the atmosphere supports attention rather than distraction. Pavalavalli Thayar’s shrine adds warmth to the temple’s tone. Her presence softens the visual intensity of the coral imagery and makes the space feel complete. As with many Kanchipuram temples, there is a sense that the deity and the goddess must be understood together. One brings radiance, the other reassurance.

The daily ritual life of the temple follows the Vaishnavite tradition, with six daily pujas said to be observed throughout the day. Worship unfolds in an ordered rhythm, and the temple becomes especially active during annual festivals, of which the Brahmotsavam in the Tamil month of Vaikasi is considered one of the most important. These observances keep the temple rooted in living practice rather than only literary memory. Devotees continue to come not just because the temple is old or celebrated in the Prabandham, but because it remains part of an active spiritual routine. That continuity matters more than grand claims. It is what keeps a sacred place alive.

The pilgrimage experience at Thiruppavalavannam feels very Kanchipuram in the best sense. The temple is woven into the town rather than set apart from it. You approach it through ordinary streets, and then, quite suddenly, the coral association begins to shape the way you see the shrine. Even before one thinks deeply about symbolism, the temple leaves an impression of warmth. It is not loud, and it is not severe. It feels approachable. For pilgrims moving through the Kanchipuram Divya Desam circuit, Thiruppavalavannam adds a different note after temples associated with cosmic strides, philosophical clarity or fierce protection. Here, the emphasis shifts toward tone and presence. The temple does not ask you to think only in terms of event or miracle. It asks you to notice the mood.

Culturally, the temple is also linked in popular memory with Thiruppachai Vannar, another Vishnu shrine in Kanchipuram associated with the green form of the Lord. Together, the two temples are often understood as paired reminders of Vishnu’s many colours across the yugas and moods of devotion. That pairing enriches Thiruppavalavannam’s place in Kanchipuram’s sacred map. It is not an isolated temple but part of a larger theological imagination in which colour, form and emotion all matter. The Alvars recognised this, and their hymns ensured that the temple remained within the living current of Tamil Vaishnavite devotion.

In modern times, the temple continues under the administration of the Hindu Religious and Charitable Endowments framework in Tamil Nadu, while still retaining the devotional atmosphere that gives it meaning. Pilgrims following the Divya Desam circuit continue to visit, and the temple remains an active stop rather than a forgotten one. Its inscriptions, ritual calendar and sustained worship all point to continuity rather than nostalgia.

Thiruppavalavannam ultimately represents the grace of divine presence as something vivid, changing and deeply responsive. Pavalavannar Perumal is not simply the Lord in one more temple form. He is the reminder that the divine can appear in different colours because human life itself moves through different moods, ages and needs. Sometimes grace comes like cool rain, sometimes like clear light, and sometimes, as here, like coral—warm, bright and unmistakably alive. In the larger Divya Desam journey, this temple adds a beautiful and subtle truth. The divine does not remain fixed in one shade. It meets the world as the world needs to see it.

In My Hands Today…

The New Silk Roads: The Present and Future of the World – Peter Frankopan

‘All roads used to lead to Rome. Today, they lead to Beijing.’

When The Silk Roads was published in 2015, it became an instant classic. A major reassessment of world history, it compelled us to look at the past from a different perspective. The New Silk Roads brings this story up to date, addressing the present and future of a world that is changing dramatically.

Following the Silk Roads eastwards, from Europe through to China, by way of Russia and the Middle East, The New Silk Roads provides a timely reminder that we live in a world that is profoundly interconnected. In an age of Brexit and Trump, the themes of isolation and fragmentation permeating the Western world stand in sharp contrast to events along the Silk Roads since 2015, where ties have been strengthened and mutual cooperation established.

With brilliant insight, Peter Frankopan takes a fresh look at the network of relationships being formed along the length and breadth of the Silk Roads today, assessing the global reverberations of these continual shifts in the centre of power – all too often absent from headlines in the West. This important – and ultimately hopeful – book asks us to reassess who we are and where we are in the world, illuminating the themes on which all our lives and livelihood depend.

Why Everyone Is Tired, Even When Life Is Easier

There is a strange contradiction at the heart of modern life. In so many practical ways, life is easier than it has ever been. We have washing machines, food delivery, ride-hailing apps, digital banking, online shopping, Google Maps, YouTube tutorials, WhatsApp, household appliances, remote work, medical technology, easier travel, and more information than any generation before us could have imagined. And yet everyone is tired.

Not just physically tired, though there is plenty of that, too. This is a different kind of tiredness. Mental tiredness. Emotional tiredness. Social tiredness. Decision fatigue. Digital exhaustion. Financial stress. The kind of tiredness where nothing is exactly wrong, but everything feels like too much. The kind of tiredness that does not always go away after one night of sleep, because it does not come only from the body. It comes from the mind being permanently switched on.

We are tired even when life is easier because convenience has not given us rest. It has given us more things to manage. This is not to romanticise the past. I have no desire to return to a world without washing machines, online banking, reliable transport apps, or medical advances. Some things are genuinely easier now. Compared with my childhood, and certainly compared with my parents’ generation, everyday life has become convenient in countless ways. We can order groceries from our phones, transfer money in seconds, find directions anywhere, learn how to fix almost anything online, and speak to family across countries without waiting for expensive trunk calls or letters. These are not small things. They matter.

But ease is not the same as rest. Comfort is not the same as peace. Convenience is not the same as lightness. In fact, many conveniences have removed one kind of labour while adding another. Food delivery means we do not have to cook, but now we must scroll through two hundred options, compare prices, check delivery fees, wonder if it is too expensive, and feel mildly guilty for not making something at home. WhatsApp makes communication instant, but now everyone can reach us instantly. Online shopping saves time, but it also creates endless comparisons. Digital banking saves a trip to the bank but adds passwords, OTPs, app updates, portals, and the quiet fear of scams. Google Maps helps us navigate, but perhaps also makes us less patient when the journey is not optimised.

The work has changed shape. It has moved from our hands into our heads. Maybe this is why so many of us feel tired in a way that is hard to explain. We are not always doing more physically, but we are thinking more constantly. Remembering more, comparing more, deciding more, tracking more, responding more, planning more, and worrying more.

I feel this myself. Some days I am more tired than others, but the tiredness is there. I am tired of trying to be a productive member of society. Tired from job searching, tired from managing health, tired from overthinking, tired from always being the planner, tired from long-distance caregiving, tired from ageing, and tired from holding too many tabs open in my head.

The sentence that describes it best is this: I am not tired because I do too much, but because I am always thinking about what still needs to be done. That is the modern condition, isn’t it? The unfinished list follows us everywhere. Even when we sit down, the list sits beside us. Even when we sleep, it waits. Even when we rest, part of us is scanning the horizon for what we have forgotten.

When I am tired, I become irritable and cranky. Sometimes I dissociate from things and simply want to be left alone. I lose interest even in things I love, including writing. I watch mindless content, not because it truly rests me, but because real rest feels too difficult. This too is a modern pattern. We choose fake rest because it asks less of us. Scrolling, watching videos, online browsing, half-reading, half-listening, half-existing. It distracts us, but it does not restore us. Real rest is harder. Real rest requires us to stop performing usefulness, even to ourselves.

Our parents’ generation was tired too, though perhaps in different ways. Their lives were physically harder. Fewer appliances, less convenience, more social obligations, fewer choices, and more rigid roles. Women, especially were expected to ignore tiredness. They carried on. They cooked, cleaned, cared, hosted, remembered, and swallowed exhaustion because saying “I am tired” was not always allowed. Tiredness could be dismissed as weakness. Weakness could be called laziness.

Children, too were not usually allowed to be tired. We were told to study, help, behave, and stop complaining. “Don’t waste time” was a common enough message. “Do something useful” was another. The idea that rest could be necessary rather than indulgent did not always exist in the language we grew up with.

But while the older generations had fewer conveniences, they may also have had less mental clutter in certain ways. There was no social media feed carrying the world into their minds every morning. No constant news alerts. No endless comparison with everyone’s holidays, homes, children, careers, bodies, meals, and achievements. No apps telling them to track every step, calorie, rupee, dollar, hour, and habit. Their lives were not easy. But perhaps their attention was less fragmented.

Today, information overload is part of our tiredness. We know too much, all the time. News, wars, elections, scams, climate anxiety, health advice, job market changes, school admissions, university pathways, investment options, AI developments, parenting opinions, diet debates, productivity hacks, skincare routines, travel warnings, and the latest thing we are apparently supposed to worry about.

Knowing more can be empowering. It can help us make better decisions. But it can also be exhausting. I often feel that the human brain was not designed to carry the whole world before breakfast. And yet many of us begin the day by reaching for the phone and doing exactly that.

The phone is both a tool and a tormentor. It helps us communicate, read, plan, bank, order, check health data, navigate, work, and stay connected. I would not want to give it up. But it also makes us reachable, distracted, anxious, comparative, and unable to fully switch off. Most of us reach for it first thing in the morning and keep it near us until we sleep. It sits beside us like a demanding little rectangle of obligation and temptation.

Work has also changed. Modern work expects too much emotional and mental availability. Emails, WhatsApp messages, Teams chats, “quick calls,” urgent requests, meetings, follow-ups, performance reviews, networking, personal branding, upskilling, and the unspoken expectation that one should be responsive at all times. Work follows people home now. It travels in pockets and handbags. It lights up on screens at dinner. It enters weekends disguised as something that will “only take five minutes.”

For those of us managing multiple streams, this becomes even more tiring. Work, freelancing, job searching, writing, family, health, and organisational responsibilities do not sit neatly in separate boxes. They overlap. A job application is mentally different from paid work, but it is tiring in its own way. The tailoring of resumes, the cover letters, the online forms, the silence, the ghosting, and the sense of wondering whether there is any point in applying anymore. It is not only effort. It is emotional exposure repeated again and again.

Then there is the achievement treadmill. Singapore makes this especially visible. It is efficient, safe, connected, and convenient, and I am grateful for many of those things. But it is also tiring. The cost of living, work expectations, school pressure, comparison, crowds, commuting, and the constant sense that everyone is progressing, upgrading, investing, studying, planning, and optimising can make life feel practically easier but mentally heavier. Everything works, but everyone is running.

India, in contrast, is tiring in different ways. The India I grew up in may have been physically harder but emotionally more spacious in some ways. But it was also noisy, bureaucratic, socially demanding, and full of gendered expectations and family interference. When I visit India now, I initially feel rested, perhaps because of memory and familiarity. But then the noise, pollution, chaos, and sheer effort of moving through daily life begin to exhaust me. Bangalore, especially, can be an exercise in patience. Travelling across the city is not a commute so much as a character-building programme nobody signed up for. So no, the answer is not that one place is restful and another is not. Modern tiredness has many geographies.

A large part of this tiredness is emotional labour, and here gender cannot be ignored. Women are often more tired than they admit because they are not only doing tasks but also managing emotional labour. They are remembering, anticipating, planning, noticing, soothing, managing moods, maintaining relationships, and keeping family life moving. Appliances may have made housework easier, but they did not remove the responsibility of noticing what has to be done.

Someone still has to know that the groceries are running low, the appointment needs booking, the child needs a form signed, the parent needs checking on, the helper needs instructions, the birthday needs remembering, the meal needs planning, the message needs replying to, the festival needs preparing for, and the family rhythm needs holding together. In many families, that person is still a woman.

I know this in my own life. I am the planner in the family and perhaps also the natural doer, so many things fall to me. Some of this is personality. Some of it is habit. Some of it is patriarchy, wearing comfortable home clothes and pretending it’s common sense.

Parenting adds another layer. Parenting today is mentally tiring in ways previous generations may or may not have experienced to the same degree. There is more information now, and with information comes anxiety. School choices, tuition, enrichment, screen time, food, safety, identity, mental health, university admissions, careers, social media, friendships, independence. Every decision feels loaded.

Parenting BB and GG was more mentally tiring than I expected, especially because they are twins. When children are young, tiredness is physical: feeding, bathing, school runs, homework, logistics. When they grow older, the tiredness changes. It becomes emotional. You worry about choices, studies, jobs, relationships, independence, and the future. You are less physically needed but not necessarily less mentally involved. The work moves inward.

Ageing changes tiredness too. Things I could do even five years ago feel harder now. Energy is no longer something I can assume will appear on command. I try to rest more willingly, but I also push myself at times. Midlife brings its own strange combination of urgency and fatigue. There is still so much one wants to do, but the body is no longer willing to be treated like an unpaid intern.

Health adds another background hum. Managing diabetes, using a CGM, thinking about food, readings, walking, sleep, stress, medical appointments, and how the body is responding. None of these may seem dramatic on their own, but together they create a constant layer of awareness. It is another form of invisible daily management. The body becomes one more thing to monitor, interpret, and negotiate with.

And then, as if all this were not enough, we live in an age of relentless self-improvement. We are told to eat better, sleep better, move more, earn more, invest smarter, build a brand, write more, declutter, meditate, journal, network, learn AI, regulate our emotions, have a side hustle, age well, dress well, parent well, rest well, and become the best version of ourselves. It is exhausting just listing it. The pressure to improve turns life into a permanent project. We are never simply people living our lives. We are always under renovation.

Even rest becomes something to do correctly. This is where comparison enters. I try not to compare myself with others, but sometimes it creeps in. Someone else seems to have the career sorted, the children sorted, the house sorted, the health sorted, the holidays sorted, the face glowing, the meals plated, and the life beautifully arranged. Of course, we know social media is curated. We know this intellectually. But emotionally, the comparison still slips through. We look at our ordinary, unfinished, slightly messy lives and wonder why everyone else seems to be managing better.

Perhaps they are not. Perhaps they are tired too. Maybe everyone is tired because nothing ever feels finished anymore. In the past, many tasks had clearer endings. Wash the clothes, cook the meal, clean the house, and finish the errand. Today, so much of life is endless. Email never ends, messages never end, news never ends, content never ends, job applications never end, self-improvement never ends, health tracking never ends, financial planning never ends, and social obligations never end. There is always more. The endlessness is tiring.

What people need less of, I think, is pressure, comparison, pretending, and the expectation of constant availability. Less noise. Less optimisation. Less of the idea that every moment must be useful and every person must be improving. What people need more of is sleep. Real sleep, not revenge bedtime scrolling until the brain gives up. More meaningful work, because meaningless work exhausts the spirit in a way even physical labour does not. More kindness, because a tired world becomes harsher when kindness disappears. And perhaps more boredom, too. Boredom gives the mind room to wander. It creates space where not everything is input, output, or performance.

For me, the rest that actually helps is simple. Sleep first, then reading and writing. Being alone in silence, meditating, praying, and talking to the divine. These things restore rather than merely distract. They return me to myself. The problem is that we often treat tiredness as a personal failure. If we are tired, we assume we are not organised enough, disciplined enough, resilient enough, grateful enough, or productive enough. But perhaps tiredness is also information. It tells us that the load is too heavy, even if parts of the load are invisible. It tells us that convenience has not solved the deeper problem. It tells us that human beings were not meant to be reachable, measurable, comparable, and improvable every waking minute.

Life is easier now, but it is also harder because everyone is stressed, worried, and overall tired. The tools have improved. The pressure has multiplied. The physical load may have reduced, but the mental load has expanded to fill the space convenience created.

So what do we do? I do not think the answer is to reject modern life. I like my washing machine; I like online banking, being able to order groceries, messaging my family, checking a map, reading on my phone, and monitoring my health. The answer is not to pretend the past was better. It was not, at least not for everyone.

But perhaps we need to stop confusing efficiency with ease. We need to stop assuming that because something is convenient, it is restful. We need boundaries around phones, work, comparison, and self-improvement. We need to see women’s invisible labour before we can share it. We need workplaces that do not treat constant availability as commitment. We need families where planning is not silently assigned to one person. We need to stop treating tiredness as weakness.

Most of all, we need permission to be ordinary human beings. Not always optimised. Not always productive. Not always reachable. Not always improving. Not always strong. Not always cheerful. Not always holding everything together. Maybe what we need is not another app, hack, system, or productivity method. Maybe what we need is the courage to admit that being human was never meant to be this constantly managed.

So perhaps the next time tiredness arrives, instead of asking, “What is wrong with me?”, we can ask a better question. What am I carrying? And perhaps, even more importantly, what can I finally put down?

In My Hands Today…

The Nazi Mind: Twelve Warnings from History – Laurence Rees

How could the Nazis have committed the crimes they did? Why did commandants of concentration and death camps willingly – often enthusiastically – oversee mass murder? How could ordinary Germans have tolerated the removal of the Jews? In THE NAZI MIND, bestselling author Laurence Rees combines history and the latest research in psychology to help answer some of the most perplexing questions surrounding the Second World War and the Holocaust.

Ultimately, he delves into the darkness to explain how and why these people were capable of committing the worst crime in the history of the world. Rees traces the rise and eventual fall of the Nazis through the lens of ‘twelve warnings’ – from talk about ‘them’ and ‘us’ to the escalation of racism – whilst also highlighting signs to look out for in present day leaders.

Rees uses previously unpublished testimony from former Nazis and those who grew up in the Nazi system, and in-depth psychological insights including cutting edge work on obedience, authority and the brain. THE NAZI MIND is a revelatory new way of understanding how so many people committed the most appalling crime of the 20th century.

Poem: The People Who Love Libraries

There has always been something quietly comforting about libraries and bookstores. Perhaps it is the silence, the scent of paper, or the feeling that entire worlds are waiting patiently on shelves to be discovered. For some of us, these places become more than buildings filled with books. They become sanctuaries. Spaces where we can escape, wander, reflect, and feel understood without having to explain ourselves. This poem is a love letter to libraries, bookstores, and to the people who find pieces of themselves hidden among the shelves.

The People Who Love Libraries

There is a certain kind of person
who walks into a library
and immediately breathes easier.

You can spot us quietly.

We wander slowly between shelves
without needing help.
We run our fingers across spines
as though greeting old friends.
We stand in corners reading blurbs
for books we may never borrow,
yet somehow still feel grateful exist.

Libraries are strange places.

Thousands of voices live there,
yet nobody raises their volume.
Entire wars, love stories, heartbreaks,
adventures, philosophies and confessions
sit quietly beside one another
without demanding attention.

And somehow,
inside all that silence,
some of us feel understood.

Maybe it is because books do not judge.

They do not ask
whether you are successful enough,
healed enough, confident enough,
certain enough.

They simply open.

Growing up,
libraries were not woven
into the fabric of my childhood.
There were school libraries, yes.
Later, the British Council in Mumbai.
The American Centre.
Places that felt almost magical then.

But it was in Singapore
that libraries became part of my life.
Public libraries tucked into malls,
neighbourhoods and quiet corners of the city.
Cool air.
Soft footsteps.
The familiar scent of paper and possibility.

I visited them often.
Sometimes for books.
Sometimes for escape.
Sometimes because the world outside
felt too loud.

There is comfort
in being surrounded by stories.

Comfort in knowing
that somewhere on a shelf,
another person once felt
exactly what you are feeling now.

And bookstores carry
their own kind of romance.

Grand libraries awaken awe,
their towering shelves reminding us
how small one lifetime really is.

Tiny independent bookstores
feel like acts of faith.
Proof that people still believe
stories matter.

And secondhand bookstores…
those may be the saddest
and most beautiful of all.

A folded corner.
A handwritten name.
A forgotten receipt tucked between pages.

Evidence that a stranger
once held this exact book
in their hands
years before you did.

Two readers connected
without ever meeting.

Perhaps that is why
people like us love libraries so much.

Not because we are lonely, necessarily.
But because libraries understand
the quiet ways humans search for refuge.

Some people find peace in crowds.
Others find it in prayer.
Some in music.

And some of us find it
standing between shelves,
holding a borrowed book,
while the rest of the world
waits patiently outside.