Adulting 101: A Young Adult’s Guide to Dressing Smart and True

Starting a career, internship, or university life brings new challenges, including how to dress. Colour theory for clothes helps you make choices that fit your skin, personality, and work environment. It’s not just a style hack. It shapes how others see you and affects your confidence.

Colour theory is the study of how colours interact. It breaks down into three elements: hue (the colour itself), value (how light or dark it is), and intensity (how bright or dull). This matters because colours don’t look the same on every skin or when paired with different shades. For example, bright colours pop on deep skin tones but can overwhelm lighter skin. Pastels might look soft and flattering on one, but washed out on another. Colour theory teaches you to see these differences and use them to your advantage. Colours also split into warm (reds, yellows, oranges) and cool (blues, greens, purples). Warm colours give energy but can be too loud for formal settings. Cool colours feel calm and professional. Knowing this helps when choosing work-appropriate clothes.

Picking clothes for work isn’t just about looking good; it’s about fitting the environment. Colour theory guides you to dress professionally and still express yourself. Choose colours that send the right signals. Blue, for example, means trust and calm. It’s common in corporate wear for this reason. Navy suits, light blue shirts, or muted teal sweaters work well. Red is powerful and passionate, but can be too aggressive for everyday office wear. Use it as an accent, like a tie or scarf. Neutral colours like black, white, grey, beige, and navy are your foundation. They balance bold hues and keep outfits grounded. For interviews or formal meetings, sticking to neutrals with one subtle pop of colour is usually best. Using complementary colours (colours opposite on the wheel, like blue and orange) can create visual interest. But be careful; pairing two strong colours at full intensity can clash and feel unprofessional. Instead, try desaturated (muted) tones or mix different levels of brightness to soften contrasts. Accessories give you room to play. A bright scarf, colourful socks, or a statement watch adds personality without overpowering your look.

The secret to dressing well lies in knowing your skin undertone: warm, cool, or neutral. Warm undertones have a yellow, peachy, or golden hint. Greenish veins and gold jewellery flatter this group. Best colours include earthy tones like mustard, olive, coral, and warm browns. Cool undertones lean pink or blue with bluish veins and a silver jewellery preference. Jewel tones such as sapphire, emerald, and icy blue work well. Neutral undertones can wear a broad range, especially muted or toned-down colours. Wearing colours that clash with your undertone risks washing you out or making you look tired. For example, cool skin tones look better in blues than in yellow or orange. Personality also plays a role. If you’re bold and outgoing, brighter colours and contrasts might suit you. If you’re laid-back or formal, cooler, softer colours and monochrome schemes will likely feel more natural.

Colour schemes make it easier to build outfits without guesswork. Here are some top picks:

  • Monochrome: Different shades of the same colour. This looks sleek and professional. Imagine a navy sweater with lighter blue jeans.
  • Analogous: Colours next to each other on the wheel, like blue and green, or red and orange. These create harmony and are safe for offices.
  • Complementary: Opposite colours like blue and orange, or red and green. Strong contrasts work if one colour is muted or used in small amounts.
  • Neutral base with accent: Start with black, navy, grey, white, or beige, then add one bright colour like burgundy or mustard for personality without fuss.

For beginners, neutrals plus one accent colour is safest. You get variety, can mix and match easily, and stay within dress codes.

Here are some tips and tricks for mastering colour in your wardrobe:

  • Start with neutrals: Build your wardrobe on versatile basics: black, white, navy, grey. They mix with almost any colour and fit most workplaces. Once comfortable, add subtle colours.
  • Test colours in natural light: Colours look different indoors and outside. Use daylight when trying on clothes to select shades that really suit you.
  • Create capsule wardrobes: Choose a limited palette of 3 to 5 colours that suit your undertone and style. This makes dressing faster and ensures everything matches.
  • Use a colour wheel app or chart: Help visualise how colours relate, making it easier to create balanced outfits.
  • Learn to layer: Pair a neutral base with coloured layers like cardigans or scarves to adapt looks for different settings.
  • Don’t ignore texture: Matte vs shiny fabrics catch light and colour differently. This can add subtle accents even within one colour family.
  • Test accessories first: Before committing to coloured clothes, try bold accessories like belts, watches, and bags for a flavour of the colour.
  • Mix warm and cool neutrals: Some neutrals lean warmer (like camel or cream), others cooler (charcoal or icy white). Mixing both can add depth.
  • Keep a colour journal: Note which colours get compliments or make you feel confident. Over time, patterns will show what suits you best.
  • Be mindful of prints: Prints combine colours but can be intimidating. Start with simple, soft prints before experimenting with busy patterns.

Common pitfalls while choosing colour and how to avoid them:

  • Wearing colours too close to your skin tone: This is a classic wardrobe mistake. Colours that mirror your skin tone too closely can make you look washed out, tired, or pale. For example, very light beige or peach hues might blend into light skin, while some browns might do the same for deeper skin tones. The solution is to choose colours that create contrast with your skin without being jarring, think medium shades that highlight your natural tones instead of blending in.
  • Overloading with bright colours: Wearing multiple bright colours full-strength at once can be overwhelming, especially in professional settings. This can make your outfit look uncoordinated or youthful in a way that might not fit your workplace. To avoid this, use bright colours as accents rather than the base of your outfit. For instance, pair a subtle neutral suit with a vibrant tie or scarf to add energy without distraction.
  • Colour burnout: Colour burnout is real, it’s when you stick to the same colour or palette so often that you get bored and your look becomes predictable. This stagnation affects how you feel and how others perceive you. Rotate your colours regularly, experiment with new shades, and use accessories to diversify your look.
  • Ignoring Your undertones: Many skip analysing their undertones and grab whatever is trending or popular. This often leads to colours that clash with the skin undertone, making the wearer look less vibrant or even sickly. Invest some time in identifying your undertones (warm, cool, or neutral) and choose colours accordingly. It pays off immediately.
  • Too much matchy-matchy: Matching every item perfectly (shoes, belt, bag, shirt) may seem polished, but can feel boring or overly rigid. Mixing colours and textures thoughtfully creates visual interest and shows personality. For example, a navy blazer with a light blue shirt and tan belt is more engaging than navy everything.
  • Overlooking the work environment’s dress code: Not all workplaces welcome bold colour choices. Some industries or offices prefer muted, conservative palettes. Ignoring this can make outfits feel out of place or unprofessional. Research your workplace culture and adapt. Add colour wisely where allowed, and keep the overall look appropriate.
  • Failing to consider lighting: Clothes often look different indoors, especially under artificial light, compared to natural daylight. A colour that pops in the store might dull down in the office or vice versa. Always test clothing colours in different lighting conditions to avoid surprise disappointments.
  • Forgetting the impact of fabric and texture: Fabric changes how colour appears. Shiny satin reflects light and looks brighter, while matte cotton absorbs light and softens colours. Two pieces in the same colour but different fabrics can look very different. Understanding this helps in mixing and layering colours without clashes.
  • Underestimating the power of neutral colours: Young adults often rush to buy colourful wardrobes, forgetting how vital neutrals are for balance. Too few neutrals can make dressing more complicated and your looks less versatile. Invest in solid neutrals like black, grey, navy, and white; they anchor your outfits and make colours pop.
  • Relying too much on trends: Trendy colours come and go. Building a wardrobe relying only on the latest popular colours can date your clothes fast. Focus on classic and flattering colours that fit you well and integrate trends through small additions like ties or scarves.

Thinking about colour as just “like or don’t like” isn’t enough. Use the colour wheel, know your undertones, and pick shades that send the right messages for your setting. Your look builds confidence. If you feel good in what you wear, you perform better. If your outfit blends well with the environment but lets you shine subtly, you make positive impressions.

Consider these extras:

  • Accessories as punctuation marks, small, punchy colour hits.
  • Don’t match everything perfectly; contrast adds interest.
  • Hair, makeup, and jewellery also play roles in your colour story.

Colour theory in fashion isn’t about rigid rules but smart choices. For young adults stepping into new roles, mastering it means looking polished and feeling authentic. Choose your colours to suit your skin, personality, and career stage. There is no need to follow trends blindly. Build a wardrobe you can wear confidently. And remember, a little colour knowledge goes a long way.

2026 Week 06 Update

I’m back in Singapore, landed early this morning and after three weeks of being with my parents, I am happy to be back home. It’s times like these that I realise that yes, Singapore is now home. I have a deep, almost spiritual connection to India, but after being away for so long, I realise I can’t live in the country anymore. It’s noisy, chaotic, and rushed, and I can take it in small doses. But back in Singapore, I do miss the family connections, the food, and the shopping. 

Today’s quote is by one of the greatest English novelists of the Victorian era, known for works such as A Christmas Carol, Great Expectations, and Oliver Twist: Charles Dickens. His writing combined sharp social criticism with deep compassion for the poor, the vulnerable, and the overlooked. Dickens believed strongly in moral responsibility, human kindness, and the redemptive power of empathy, values that echo clearly in this quote. 

This quote gently challenges how we usually define intelligence and success. In a world that often prizes logic, achievement, and sharp thinking above all else, Dickens reminds us that wisdom is not just something we learn with the mind, but something we live through the heart. A loving heart reflects empathy, compassion, and the ability to see beyond one’s own concerns. It understands people not as problems to be solved, but as human beings shaped by circumstance, pain, and hope. This kind of wisdom allows us to respond with kindness rather than judgment, patience rather than anger. It doesn’t deny reason, but it balances it with humanity. Without love, intelligence can become cold or self-serving. With love, even a simple understanding becomes powerful.

Dickens suggests that love helps us grasp truths that logic alone cannot. A loving heart recognises suffering quickly and responds instinctively. It knows when to forgive, when to listen, and when to act with gentleness instead of force. This wisdom often shows itself quietly; in everyday choices, in generosity, and in moral courage. It is less about being right and more about being humane. The quote also implies that love deepens perspective. When we care, we learn. When we open ourselves to others, we gain insight into life’s complexity. True wisdom, then, is not detached cleverness but engaged understanding, the ability to live well with others, not just think well about things.

Today’s verse from the Bhagavad Gita describes a person who moves through the world with emotional steadiness. Not detached in a cold way, but centred, grounded, and balanced. Such a person doesn’t provoke unnecessary conflict, nor do they crumble when the world is chaotic. Krishna isn’t asking us to suppress emotions. He’s showing us a higher way to relate to them. Instead of being pushed around by praise, blame, fear, or envy, the wise person remains anchored in inner clarity. That anchor creates a calm presence that others instinctively trust. This verse also flips a common belief: spirituality isn’t about escaping the world. It’s about living fully in it without losing yourself. People who are internally stable uplift others simply by existing; they create safety. Their calm doesn’t shrink the world; it softens it. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s awareness and balance. When you know who you are and what matters, you don’t get pulled into every storm. You become the still point in your own life.

Today’s motivation is about loving oneself. Love yourself so deeply that you don’t need to rely on others to feel complete. You’re a beautiful soul. You have so much tenderness and compassion within you. You do everything with so much sincerity. Remember, you always have yourself. You deserve your own love more than anyone else. When you truly love yourself, you naturally attract people who are good for you. There’s mutual respect and genuine admiration, rather than a constant need for approval or reassurance. Those who can’t see your worth don’t deserve to hold any power over you.

And that’s all I have for you this week. Stay strong, stay positive, and remember to love yourself so much you don’t need anyone else to feel complete. As I wrote some time back, be your own best friend!

In My Hands Today…

Waste Wars: The Wild Afterlife of Your Trash – Alexander Clapp

Dumps and landfills around the world are overflowing. Disputes about what to do with the millions of tons of garbage generated every day have given rise to waste wars waged almost everywhere you look. Some are border skirmishes. Others hustle trash across thousands of miles and multiple oceans. But no matter the scale, one thing is true about almost all of few people have any idea they’re happening.

Journalist Alexander Clapp spent two years roaming five continents to report deep inside the world of Javanese recycling gangsters, cruise ship dismantlers in the Aegean, Tanzanian plastic pickers, whistle-blowing environmentalists throughout the jungles of Guatemala, and a community of Ghanaian boys who burn Western cellphones and televisions for cents an hour, to tell listeners what he has figured out: While some trash gets tossed onto roadsides or buried underground, much of it actually lives a secret hot potato second life, getting shipped, sold, re-sold, or smuggled from one country to another, often with devastating consequences for the poorest nations of the world.

Waste Wars is a jaw-dropping exposé of how and why, for the last forty years, our garbage—the stuff we deem so worthless we think nothing of throwing it away—has spawned a massive, globe-spanning, multi-billion-dollar economy, one that offloads our consumption footprints onto distant continents, pristine landscapes, and unsuspecting populations. If the handling of our trash reveals deeper truths about our Western society, what does the globalized business of garbage say about our world today? And what does it say about us?

Sacred Stones, Spaces, and Stories: Jyotirlingas Part 5 – Omkareshwar Temple

The Omkareshwar Temple is one of India’s twelve revered Jyotirlinga temples dedicated to Lord Shiva, standing majestically on Mandhata Island amid the tranquil and sacred flow of the Narmada River in Khandwa district, Madhya Pradesh. The island itself is said to be naturally shaped like the sacred syllable Om, a symbol of the cosmic sound and creation in Hindu tradition. Both the region’s geography and mythology infuse this site with deep spiritual resonance, making it a crucial place of pilgrimage for seekers, saints, and historians alike. Omkareshwar’s importance stretches far beyond religious devotion; it is a site of harmony where legend, landscape, and architecture unite in eternal homage to Lord Shiva.

The legends that suffuse Omkareshwar Temple are as vibrant and multi-layered as the Narmada’s current, each weaving together divine drama, cosmic symbolism, and human aspiration. The most prominent legend tells of Vindhya, the mountain deity who, overflowing with pride, desired to surpass Mount Meru. The sage Narada detected this pride and advised Vindhya to pray for liberation from his arrogance and its attendant sins. Vindhya’s intense penance to Shiva led to the creation of a sacred geometrical diagram and a linga fashioned from sand and clay. Pleased by Vindhya’s devotion, Shiva manifested in two forms: Omkareshwar and Amaleshwar. The island gained recognition as Omkareshwar because the mud mound appeared in the form of “Om”.

Another legend centers around King Mandhata, a devout ruler from the Ikshvaku dynasty, ancestors of Lord Rama, who performed intense penance atop Mandhata Parvat. His unwavering devotion attracted the grace of Lord Shiva, who incarnated as the Jyotirlinga at Omkareshwar, blessing the land and its people. Mandhata’s sons, Ambarish and Muchukunda, undertook their own spiritual practices here, further amplifying the site’s sacred aura.

Hindu scriptures also recount an epic cosmic battle in which the Devas or gods were defeated by the Danavas or demons. Bereft and seeking salvation, the Devas performed severe austerities, praying to Shiva at Omkareshwar. Pleased by their prayers, Shiva manifested as the Jyotirlinga, in Omkareshwar, vanquished the demons, and restored balance to the cosmos, reaffirming Omkareshwar’s position as a place of divine intervention and protection.

Omkareshwar is deeply tied to the Advaita Vedanta philosophy and the eternal mantra “Om.” It symbolises non-duality, the unity of creation and creator, and the boundless resonance of the cosmic sound. Tradition holds that Adi Shankaracharya met his guru, Govinda Bhagavatpada, in a cave near the temple, a pivotal moment in Indian philosophical history that continues to impact spiritual seekers worldwide.

The spiritual and historical canvas of Omkareshwar Temple is rich, stretching over hundreds of generations. Historical accounts suggest that the original temple was commissioned by the Paramara Kings of Malwa in the 11th century CE. Over the centuries, it faced destruction and restoration, changing hands between rulers and dynasties. The Chauhan Kings administered the temple in later centuries. During the 13th century, Muslim invasions, starting with Mahmud Ghazni, led to periods of destruction and looting, but local rulers and devotees ensured restoration and continued worship. In the 18th century, Queen Ahilyabai Holkar, a renowned patron of Hindu temples, undertook extensive reconstruction and added significant architectural embellishments.

The temple and Mandhata Island feature prominently in the Skanda Purana, Shiva Purana, and other ancient scriptures, which extol the spiritual power of its location. The sacred geography is highlighted as a tirtha, or crossing place where heaven and earth meet, amplified by the confluence of the Narmada and Kaveri rivers.

The island’s natural shape, resembling the word “Om,” sets Omkareshwar apart from all other Jyotirlinga sites, while the surrounding ghats, forests, and riverbanks combine wild beauty with meditative calm. Adi Shankaracharya’s visit and extended meditation here serve as a bridge connecting Omkareshwar to the broader philosophical, sannyasa, and devotional traditions throughout India.

Omkareshwar Temple is as much a marvel of ancient architecture as it is a centre of spiritual energy. The temple is built in classic Nagara style with intricately carved spires and shikharas, merging gracefully with the island’s contours and riverbanks. The sanctum sanctorum or garbhagriha houses the revered lingam. The temple’s structure is predominantly stone, shaped to withstand centuries of monsoon and river flooding, reflecting both resilience and architectural innovation. Mandapas or pillared halls, circumambulatory paths, and subsidiary shrines dedicated to Goddess Parvati and Lord Ganesh enhance the spiritual and functional aspects of the site. Elaborate carvings on pillars, ceilings, and external walls depict scenes from Shiva’s lore, nature motifs, and floral designs emblematic of the Malwa region. The temple’s ornamentation honors both royal patrons and local artistic traditions, contributing to Omkareshwar’s vibrant visual identity.

The Mamleshwar Temple, located on the opposite bank, considered by some traditions as equally sacred. Adi Shankara’s Cave is where Adi Shankaracharya met his guru, is marked by an image and often visited by spiritual aspirants. Archaeological remains of Jain and Hindu temples, known as the 24 Avatars Group, showcase the island’s multi-faith heritage.

The spiritual life at Omkareshwar pulses with daily rituals and annual festivals that unite devotees in worship and celebration. Daily pujas include the abhisheka when the linga is bathed with water from the Narmada, milk, honey, and fragrant flowers, accompanied by the rhythmic chanting of mantras. Multiple times each day, ceremonial lamps, music, and prayers unfold, invoking the blessings of Omkareshwar. Devotees present coconuts, incense, silk, and garlands, often completing a circumambulation of the temple and island, a rite said to bestow merit and purification.

Mahashivaratri is the most important festival, marked by vigil, fasting, grand processions, and elaborate worship attended by tens of thousands of pilgrims. The fifth lunar month, Shravan, is filled with special pujas, communal singing, and heightened devotion. Local customs reflect both Malwa and broader Indian traditions, with community involvement spanning from offering food to maintaining cleanliness and hosting guests.

A pilgrimage to Omkareshwar is as much a journey of spirit as one of landscape. Omkareshwar is connected by road and rail from Indore, Khandwa, and Ujjain. The nearest airport is Indore, about 80 km away. After arriving in the bustling town, pilgrims cross the Narmada by ferry or foot bridges to reach Mandhata Island, with its serene ghats, steps, and forested terrain. Eateries, dharamshalas (pilgrim hostels), lodges, and ashrams cater to all travelers, offering simple vegetarian fare and local delicacies. The town radiates a welcoming spirit with locals, priests, and volunteers supporting visitors in their search for spiritual solace and ritual guidance.

The sounds of water, bells, and chanting intermingle, creating a meditative ambiance that resonates with ancient stones and smiling faces. Many share tales of healing, inner peace, inspiration, and unexpected blessings, the island’s energy and landscape accentuate the sense of divine presence.

Omkareshwar’s reach goes far beyond its physical boundaries, shaping literature, music, art, and local identity. The temple is extolled in classical Sanskrit and vernacular poetry; devotional songs and stories celebrate Shiva’s victories, Mandhata’s penance, and the island’s mystical power. Regional and national artists compose bhajans and ragas inspired by the temple and the chanting reverberating across the river. Stone sculptors and local artisans produce icons, carvings, and paintings reflecting the temple’s motifs. Fairs and festivals feature dance, drama, and crafts, sustaining Omkareshwar as a vibrant cultural hub in the region. Omkareshwar shapes community pride for residents and the Malwa region, fostering a sense of belonging. Spiritual anecdotes and legends are shared with every visitor, passed down through generations and etched into local folklore.

Today, Omkareshwar Temple is a dynamic pilgrimage and tourist destination, managing ancient traditions amid contemporary needs. The temple is administered by local trusts and authorities, maintaining daily rituals, festival calendars, and infrastructural upgrades. Digital registration, security enhancements, guided tours, and heritage conservation reflect ongoing adaptation.

Visitor numbers swell during Mahashivaratri, the Shravan month, and holidays, with improved travel facilities and hospitality. Environmental stewardship ensures preservation of the river, forests, and historical monuments. Major conservation efforts include repairs after monsoon damage, safeguarding sculpture, and archaeological work. Pilgrims and tourists hail from across India and the globe, reflecting the temple’s universal spiritual magnetism.

The Omkareshwar Temple, held tenderly in the embrace of the Narmada’s waters and the shape of Om, stands as a testament to the unity of creation and consciousness embodied in Lord Shiva. Its tapestry of legend, sanctity, history, and landscape offers a sanctuary for reflection, transformation, and transcendence. In the grand circuit of Jyotirlinga temples, Omkareshwar is both a spiritual and philosophical anchor, inviting every seeker to listen to the eternal sound within and without, in every stone, wave, and breath.

In My Hands Today…

In the Land of Invented Languages: Esperanto Rock Stars, Klingon Poets, Loglan Lovers, and the Mad Dreamers Who Tried to Build a Perfect Language – Arika Okrent

Just about everyone has heard of Esperanto, which was nothing less than one man’s attempt to bring about world peace by means of linguistic solidarity. And every Star Trek fan knows about Klingon, which was nothing more than a television show’s attempt to create a tough-sounding language befitting a warrior race with ridged foreheads. But few people have heard of Babm, Blissymbolics, and the nearly nine hundred other invented languages that represent the hard work, high hopes, and full-blown delusions of so many misguided souls over the centuries.

In In The Land of Invented Languages, author Arika Okrent tells the fascinating and highly entertaining history of man’s enduring quest to build a better language. Peopled with charming eccentrics and exasperating megalomaniacs, the land of invented languages is a place where you can recite the Lord’s Prayer in John Wilkins’s Philosophical Language, say your wedding vows in Loglan, and read Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland in Lojban.