Little Boys and their Toys

Coming home from work today, suddenly I was struck with a thought – what is it with little boys and their toys? Every boy in the age group one to ten that I have seen, including BB till date loves their vehicle toys. Be it a bus, car, train or plane, they hold one in their hands, even while sleeping!

Is this something that is genetically embedded in them? While minoring in Psychology aeons ago, I learnt of the “Nature versus Nurture Theory” and when I realised I was pregnant with twins, I was determined that in my case, it will be nature which determines BB & GG’s individual and specific character and personality traits and not nurture as both will be brought up in the exact same environment.

Toys used to be gender neutral and had to be shared. There was nothing really that called out to gender-specific toys, but we could see nature fighting her way through quite early. BB loved vehicles – anything with a wheel, he wanted. When we left the house to go out, he would quickly come carrying as many cars,/trains as his little hand could hold and insist he wanted all of them to come out with him. He went through a  ‘Thomas the Tank Engine’ where he managed get almost all the major characters. It does not help that S is an equal, enthusiastic partner, who loves to buy these toys for his son. He even had some cars which he had kept all these years! Big boys and their toys!! Now BB has graduated to playing with his cars and planes on an online world.

So is it our environment and the external world which reinforces gender stereotypes? Maybe that’s true as advertisements almost always show boys playing with more aggressive toys and girls being shown as more gentle. Why can’t boys be the more gentle ones? While reading for this post, I came across some very good articles which highlight this gender imbalance. Here’s one and another. And they wonder why girls don’t go in for STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Maths) subjects in school!

PSLE Year Week 5 Updates


Another week has gone by. This week has been marked by sickness in the house. BB started it last week, followed by S and then GG who had it the worst of the three.

BB bounced back with a one-day course of Panadol, but when GG started coughing last Sunday, I gave her some Panadol and cough syrups that night and though she seemed a bit warm on Monday morning, she felt ok enough to go to school.

Back from school she was miserable. Coughing, a bad throat and even difficulty in breathing. Took her to the doctor who gave her two days of medical leave. But she insisted on only staying at home for a day. She didn’t want to miss school as its the PSLE year. My gut feeling is that yes she caught it from GG and S, but it’s also stress-related from the big exams she will be facing in October.

Not even 12 and stress like this! How i hate this system for making our children go through this at this age!! But we don’t really have a choice, but to make the best of the situation and equip the children to be resilient and to be able to face everything they encounter…I’m sure now I sound like one of the official government adverts 😉

PSLE Year Week 4/Month 1 Updates

And we’re in February! Where did January go and that too so quickly! Now the countdown to the PSLE exams is just eight months! Yiikes!!!

BB & GG will their first Continous Assessment (CA1) in week 6, which is next week. They have English on the 9th, Maths on the 10th, Mother Tongue on the 12th (which BB & GG will sit out as their school does not offer their choice) and Science on the 13th.

This test will be followed by a Parent-Teacher meeting just before they close the term. We have to go on two different days as both BB & GG’s classes have PTM on different days. This means taking time off work twice. Well, we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.

This test is important for all of us as it will show where our children are and what course corrections we can do so that they shine at the PSLE exams…

PSLE Year Week 3 Update

Other than the pace really picking up, this has been a fairly quiet week for BB & GG. They do have homework every single day – even on Thursdays, the CCA day – when teachers used to go easy on them as they would be in school for almost 11 hours that day!

Teachers have started testing the students already – every week, both come back with some test paper to sign. I see this as a good sign, keeping the students on their toes!

PSLE Year Week 2 Update

On Thursday, I was in BB & GG’s school to talk to their teachers about their DSA plus attend the P6 Curriculum Talk. It was very illuminating to say the least. GG & BB also joined me after their CCA ended and it was a long day for all us!

I took copious notes and photographed the key slides. My take-aways from this talk were these:

  • This is a very short, hence action-packed year for us. Curriculum has be completed by mid-year and term 3 will be the start of the exams (orals and listening comprehension) plus revisions for the main exam which will happen in term 4.
  • The t-score is such a secretive thing that no one, not schools, not parents know how it is calculated. Yes the formula is open to everyone, but the cohort mean score for the subject and the standard deviation is something that only the good folks at MOE know. Without these magical numbers, whatever we do and calculate is only speculation!
  • If a child gets a U (below 20) in any subject, he may be retained back in P6. This is especially worrying for us for BB since everyone knows how his Hindi is…

  • Important dates for us
    • March: Register for PSLE
    • April: Pay PSLE fees
    • August 20-21: Oral exams
    • 18 September: Listening Comprehension
    • October 1-7 Written exams
    • October 19 – 22: Marking
    • November: Results
    • December: Posting to Secondary schools
  • Direct School Admissions or DSA is an alternate method of entry into a secondary school, especially if the child is skilled in the niche area of the school. Some schools however, take in their entire cohort through DSA.
  • The DSA exercise happens something like this:
    • Applications May to June
    • Selection by schools June to August
    • Selection outcomes in the form of letters in September
    • Exercise school option in October
    • Secondary school posting in November/December

  • The school also gave us some study strategies for the different subjects. It was nothing really new, but since there were loads of students in the audience on Thursday and this is something that parents keep reiterating, hopefully, now that these things are endorsed by the school, it will seep into their heads!
  • Strategies for English included reading a lot, including newspapers and books in various genres, speaking and discussing using stimulus and using language correctly.
  • For Maths, it was nothing more than Practice, Practice and more Practice, especially under test conditions!
  • Strategies for Science included a thorough knowledge of the content, basically everything you’ve learnt from Primary 3 onwards as each year builds up the knowledge of the preceding year, understand the process and apply the process skills. Children should also read the exam question thoroughly, including all diagrams to understand what it is they are expected to be answering using key words to answer the question.

We also had a presentation a school which is BB’s dream school (not putting the name down fear, for fear of being jinxed, though if (fingers crossed) he gets in, I’ll definitely put the results and the school name here). He loved the presentation and I am going to do all I can to ensure that he makes it in! The school is perfect for him. Since he is interested in one aspect of science (mainly aeronautics), the school will be able to nurture it. Also Additional Math is compulsory as is Pure Sciences in Upper Secondary. This is great as because of his Hindi marks, it is possible that he may not get these subjects in Upper Secondary and without them, an engineering degree or even a diploma is out of the question! The school also spoke about a school trip to NASA and at that point I turned to look at BB and you should have seen his face! They also have the Singapore Flying Club as one of their CCA’s, which is another place BB wants to get to as soon as he is able! So all-in-all his “Dream School”. Please pray hard for my boy that he is able to get into the school of his choice!

For GG, our original choice may not be the best one for her. One, it is super far (at the fringes of the CBD area) and so getting there will be a minimum one hour bus ride. To get to school by 7:30, would mean leaving home by 6:15. Not sure if this is best for a girl who loves her sleep! Plus the educational system is something where students have to be self-driven. Not 100% sure if this learning style will be suitable for her. So brainstorming with the teacher, we’ve come up with some other schools. Now have to keep an eye on their open houses and see which one excites her the most!

OK, long post already, so going to stop here. Will talk more about the DSA process as we go through it.