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My 100th Post

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This is my 100th post! Woohoo! When I started blogging, 100 posts seemed such a daunting task, and it was initially, because I didn’t blog often. Now that I am blogging regularly (aka five days a week), it’s not such a difficult task. Now 200 or even 500 does not seem so distant to me. Like a saying I’ve often heard when I was younger – little drops of a water make a mighty ocean! Now, if I can only translate this to other aspects in my life! Anyway…..

I wanted to actually write a post on how privileged I am to be a twin mom, but I read about something very similar from someone just last week and so I didn’t want to do that. I will, instead do a post on my twins – GG & BB and how amazing they are….

I’ve actually written a post on the twins, so this one is not so much about their individuality, but more about their twinness. 

BB & GG love being twins most of the time. BB has no issues, but at times GG does not like her brother taking away half her limelight. If she had her way, she would have been an only child and loved it.

They are partners in crime – anytime anything happens in the house, it’s always the other person’s fault. So much so, we can mostly never figure out who did it, unless the other twins tells on the perpetrator or the perpetrator confesses his/her crime.

They have built-in playmates, although it does not seem like that as the years go by and their interests and hobbies change. Intially they used to play together, but these days, what with GG playing with her dolls and BB playing with his cars, they don’t play as much as they used to, but they still like to watch youtube videos on my iPhone together – even if it is a barbie video which GG is watching or a car/plane video which BB is watching

No one can bully them in school, especially since GG is the more aggressive one. According to her, she loves pinching her brother, but woe anyone else who does the same thing, they will bear the brunt of her anger and let me tell you, she can get angry!

Mommy can get all the information about school even though each one gives some information. By pooling together all the fragmented pieces of information, I get the complete sense of what we are supposed to be doing. Also if someone gets in trouble at school, I will know it because the other one will be eager to finger the one in trouble. This will only work when they are in the same school, so I may have to revisit this in four years time when they reach secondary school.

They know they are special. Being twins, they are usually the centre of attention when they go to a new place as most people are fascinated by multiple children. So the first time they meet someone, that person is very keen to get to know them. 

They share a connection with each other that only they appreciate. They can’t be without each other for more than a short time. Even though they are not in the same class in school, they need to know the other is fine and safe, periodically checking up on each other. I hope and pray that this connection with each other stays with them for their whole lives.

Having a sibling of the opposite sex who is the same age as them will give them insights which will be invaluable

I read about the this from another site. I am going to copy it in it’s entity and say why I put this here:

Twin Predictions: Twins don’t only share psychic vibes with each other; they seem to put off some sort of sign that alerts others to their coming. Many a mom-to-be of twins has been told that she’ll have twins before she has that first sonogram or even knows she’s pregnant! There’s something about twins…people just KNOW!

When I went to the ob-gyn to confirm my pregnancy, the doctor did an ultrasound. When the doctor was doing the sonogram, I just blurted out, “Don’t tell me, we’re having twins!” and the doctor looked at me, smiled and said “Well, that’s what you’re going to have”. I had no reason to say this and who knows why I said that at that point – maybe the above point is true? Who knows??

Quarrelling, Fighting, Loving….You know, the usual…

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BB & GG fight. A. Lot. I don’t know if this is because they both are the same age and hence don’t like to give in to the other, or if it is because they are of different genders or some other reason. But some days, I am so close to snapping that I have to keep warning them that I will withdraw privileges if they continue to fight. Having said that, they also can’t live without each other. If one does not see the other for more than 30 minutes, they will consciously make an effort to go and find where the other is and what is it that they are doing. I remember saying this to people who used to ask me how they lived with each other – “They can’t live or live without with each other”. This line sums up GG and BB perfectly.

Most days when they fight, I try to keep out of it and intervene only when it gets physical. I usually tell them, “This is your problem/issue, sort it out between yourselves”, but lately they’re beginning to get physical with each other also, which is slightly disturbing to me.

When they were younger, GG was the aggressive one – she has always been the leader between the two and she used to lead in fighting also! If she wanted something, BB better give it to her, or God help him. I used to wonder what would happen to BB once he started school and if he faced any bullying, but these days, he gives as well as he gets. In fact, because he is heavier than GG, she is at the receiving end these days.

Today’s post is short because I don’t feel like writing anything. Feeling sleepy, so will catch up over the weekend. I am glad this stint of blogging is working out for me, I’ve blogged almost everyday in September, hope this continues. I’ll also post some more Chiki and Chica stories. Ever since I’ve started this, GG & BB ask me for a new story every night and also want to check if I have written it up here. So now I am about 2 stories behind and tonight will be number 3.

Twins

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Do they look alike? ….. Do they have same/similar natures/characters?

These two are the first questions that most new acquaintances ask when they hear I have fraternal twins. So here’s a crash course on twins followed by some of the idiosyncrasies of BB & GG

There are basically two types of twins – monozygotic and dizygotic.

Monozygotic twins are otherwise known as identical twins and are always the same sex. This occurs naturally and anyone can become an identical twin mom. The incidence of occurance is about three twin births for every 1000 births worldwide, although some countries and cultures may have a preponderance for identical twins compared to others.

Dizygotic or fraternal twins come about when there are two seperate pregnancies which happen at the same time. This means that most fraternal twins are nothing more than siblings who happen to be born at the same time. They would be just like any siblings, except that they share a birthday. The most common fraternal twins statistically speaking are the boy/girl twins with girl/girl and boy/boy being the other types. Incidentaly, most people react this way when they hear about BB & GG – “Wow, so lucky and rare!” Earlier I used to explain to them about how statistically a boy/girl is more common at 50% but now I just smile and take it as a compliment. The chances of someone having fraternal twins is however higher if you do happen to have twins in your maternal side of the family. This gene for twins is passed on through the mother and may pass generations before it appears again. Also even if you are a fraternal female twin, there is no guarantee that your pregnancy will result in twins.

This is what happened in my family – my maternal grandmother had twins in her family and my mom’s sister had fraternal boy/girl twins. However, my cousin (the girl twin) had a singleton baby and the gene skipped her to land in me for our generation.

Here is a link to an interesting page about twin myths from across the world. Now on to

GG: My first born, older by 2 minutes because she did not show a lot of growth in the uterus. In fact it was because of her that I had to have a caesarean to get the babies out as my ob-gyn felt she may not be able to ‘survive the trauma of birth’ . She is bossy, opinionated and very strong mentally. She’s a very girly girl and loves her dolls, animals, plush toys and the colour pink. She loves dancing and is currently learning ballet. She also goes to Indian classical music lessons. She wanted to be a doctor when she grew up, but now on learning the kind of hand work you need to put in to get to medical school, she is evaluating her options. Her hobbies include playing with her dolls, reading and playing on my iPhone and the computer. Her current favourites are the Winx Club girls and she just started on her first crush on Justin Beiber! I’m looking forward to her growing up so that we can be friends….

BB: He was born after GG and she rarely misses an opportunity to let him know. Of the two he’s more easy going and will agree to our wishes, but these days I see signs of a temper emerging. He is stronger academically, but lazy and his handwriting is a cause of concern for his parents and teachers! He is also a bit less mature than GG, but hopefully will catch up soon. He is very mechanically minded and finds maths very easy. Like most boys he loves vehicles, mostly cars and planes. He wanted to be a pilot earlier, but now has revised it to being either a plane or a car designer. BB also learns Indian classical music like his sister, but he goes under duress! His hobbies include playing with his cars. watching TV and playing with our iPhones & computers. His favourite shows are those which have cars/planes as the central theme and he’s all set to watch the Singapore leg of the Grand Prix with his dad this weekend. Testosterone alert in my house!