Adulting 101: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships

Relationships are an integral part of human life. Whether they are friendships, romantic partnerships, family bonds, or professional connections, relationships significantly impact our happiness, mental health, and overall well-being. However, building and maintaining healthy relationships requires effort, understanding, and a commitment to mutual respect.

What is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship fosters mutual respect, trust, communication, and support between individuals. It is characterised by a sense of balance where both parties feel valued and heard. Healthy relationships are not free from conflict but rather manage disagreements constructively without resorting to manipulation or control.

Key characteristics of healthy relationships include the following:

  • Trust: Trust forms the foundation of any strong relationship. It involves being honest with each other and having confidence in one another’s intentions.
  • Respect: Respect means valuing each other’s opinions, boundaries, and individuality.
  • Open communication: Healthy relationships thrive on honest and transparent communication. Both parties should feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.
  • Support: A healthy relationship provides emotional support during both good times and bad.
  • Boundaries: Establishing and respecting boundaries ensures that both individuals feel safe and comfortable.
  • Equality: Power dynamics should be balanced in a healthy relationship; decisions should be made collaboratively rather than unilaterally.

Why are healthy relationships important?

  • Mental health benefits: Healthy relationships contribute to better mental health by reducing stress, anxiety, and feelings of loneliness. Being surrounded by supportive people can increase self-esteem and provide a sense of belonging.
  • Physical health benefits: Research has shown that strong social connections can lead to improved physical health outcomes, such as lower blood pressure, reduced risk of heart disease, and stronger immune function.
  • Personal growth: Healthy relationships encourage personal growth by providing constructive feedback and opportunities for self-improvement.
  • Enhanced communication skills: Engaging in healthy relationships helps individuals develop better communication skills that can be applied in various aspects of life.
  • Conflict resolution skills: Navigating challenges in healthy relationships teaches valuable conflict resolution skills that are essential for personal and professional success.

How can someone build healthy relationships? Building healthy relationships requires intentional effort and a willingness to invest time and energy into meaningful connections.

Develop self-awareness: Understanding yourself is the first step in building healthy relationships. Identify your needs and reflect on what you value in a relationship and what you need from others to feel supported. Recognise your strengths and acknowledge your strengths as well as areas where you can improve as a friend or partner. Set personal boundaries and define your limits regarding what behaviours you find acceptable or unacceptable.

Practice active listening: Active listening involves fully focusing on the speaker without interrupting or judging. Show empathy and try to understand the other person’s perspective by putting yourself in their shoes. Ask questions and clarify points if needed to ensure you understand what the other person is saying. Avoid distractions and give the speaker your undivided attention by putting away phones or other distractions.

Communicate openly: Clear communication is essential for building trust. Be honest and share your thoughts and feelings honestly while being mindful of how you express them. Use “I” statements by framing your concerns using “I” statements (e.g., “I feel upset when…”) rather than blaming the other person. Practice assertiveness and express your needs confidently without being aggressive or passive.

Show appreciation: Expressing gratitude strengthens relationships. Acknowledge efforts and let others know you appreciate their actions or support. Celebrate milestones by recognising important events or achievements in each other’s lives.

Build trust gradually: Trust takes time to develop but can be nurtured through consistent actions. Keep promises and follow through on commitments to demonstrate reliability. Be transparent and share information openly to build confidence in your intentions.

So how to maintain healthy relationships? Once established, maintaining healthy relationships requires ongoing effort. Prioritise quality time by spending quality time together, as it strengthens bonds. Schedule regular check-ins and make time for meaningful conversations about each other’s lives. Engage in shared activities and participate in activities you both enjoy to create positive memories. Respect boundaries, as respecting boundaries ensures that both individuals feel comfortable. Ask for consent and always seek permission before crossing personal boundaries. Avoid overstepping limits and be mindful not to push someone into situations they’re uncomfortable with.

Manage conflict constructively because disagreements are inevitable but can be resolved healthily. Stay calm and approach conflicts with a calm demeanor rather than reacting emotionally. Focus on solutions and work together to find solutions rather than dwelling on problems. Apologise when necessary and take responsibility for mistakes sincerely without making excuses. Support each other’s growth to encourage personal development within the relationship. Celebrate achievements and recognise accomplishments and milestones together. Provide constructive feedback and offer feedback that helps the other person grow without being overly critical. Adapt to change because relationships evolve; adapting ensures they remain strong. Be flexible and embrace changes in circumstances or dynamics within the relationship. Reassess goals together and periodically discuss shared goals or expectations as they evolve.

Tips for Building and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Here are some additional tips for fostering strong connections:

  • Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges or resentment; forgiveness fosters healing within relationships.
  • Be present and focus on being fully present during interactions rather than multitasking or thinking ahead.
  • Celebrate differences and embrace diversity within relationships by appreciating differing viewpoints or experiences.
  • Seek help when needed. If challenges arise that seem insurmountable alone, consider seeking guidance from counselors or therapists specialising in relationship issues!
  • Practice self-care because taking care of yourself physically & emotionally ensures you bring your best self into every interaction.

Building & maintaining healthy relationships is an essential aspect of leading fulfilling lives. By fostering trust, practicing open communication, and respecting boundaries, young adults can cultivate meaningful connections that enrich their lives personally & professionally. Remember, it’s not about perfection but rather progress. With patience & dedication, you’ll find yourself surrounded by supportive individuals who uplift & inspire you every step along life’s journey!

Adulting 101: How to Become More Visible at Work

In the modern workplace, visibility is key to career advancement. Being noticed for your contributions, ideas, and efforts can open doors to new opportunities, promotions, and recognition. However, many young adults entering the workforce struggle with making themselves visible, especially in environments where competition is high or where they feel overshadowed by more experienced colleagues.

Why is workplace visibility important? Visibility ensures that your efforts are acknowledged. When you’re visible at work, managers and colleagues recognise your value to the team. This recognition can lead to rewards such as promotions, bonuses, or leadership opportunities. Being visible can fast-track your career growth. Employers are more likely to consider individuals who consistently demonstrate their skills and make an impact when assigning high-profile projects or leadership roles. Visibility fosters stronger relationships with colleagues and supervisors. When people know who you are and what you contribute, they’re more likely to collaborate with you and advocate for your success. Visibility helps establish your credibility and expertise in your field. By showcasing your knowledge and skills, you position yourself as a reliable and valuable team member. Lastly, when you’re visible at work, opportunities often come your way organically, whether it’s being invited to join important projects, representing the company at events, or taking on new responsibilities.

What challenges do young adults face on the way to becoming visible?

  • Lack of confidence: Entering the workforce can be intimidating, especially when surrounded by more experienced colleagues. Young professionals may doubt their abilities or hesitate to speak up.
  • Fear of rejection: The fear of being judged or rejected can prevent young adults from sharing ideas or seeking recognition.
  • Workplace hierarchies: In hierarchical workplaces, junior employees may feel overshadowed by senior staff or believe their contributions are less valued.
  • Introversion: Introverted individuals may find it challenging to assert themselves in group settings or actively seek visibility.
  • Unclear goals: Without clear career goals, young adults may struggle to identify how they want to be seen or recognised at work.

So how can you become more visible at work? Becoming visible at work doesn’t mean being loud or attention-seeking; it’s about demonstrating value and building meaningful connections within your organisation. Here are strategies young professionals can use:

Excel in your role: The foundation of workplace visibility is performing well in your job. Consistently delivering high-quality work ensures that people notice your contributions. Meet deadlines and always complete tasks on time, and exceed expectations when possible. Take the initiative and volunteer for projects or responsibilities that align with your skills and interests. Pay attention to detail and ensure accuracy and thoroughness in everything you do, whether it’s crafting a report or organising a presentation.

Communicate effectively: Effective communication is crucial for making yourself known at work. Speak up in meetings and share ideas confidently during discussions or brainstorming sessions. Ask questions, show curiosity, and be engaged by asking thoughtful questions about projects or company goals. Provide updates and keep supervisors informed about your progress on tasks or projects without waiting for them to ask.

Build relationships: Networking within your organisation is essential for visibility. Connect with colleagues by building rapport with coworkers across departments. Engage with supervisors and schedule one-on-one meetings with your manager to discuss goals, feedback, and career development. Participate in social events by attending company gatherings or team-building activities to strengthen relationships outside work tasks.

Showcase your expertise: Demonstrating your knowledge and skills helps establish credibility. Share knowledge and offer insights during meetings or discussions based on your expertise. Volunteer for training sessions by leading workshops or training sessions on topics you’re skilled in. Contribute ideas by suggesting innovative solutions or improvements that add value to the organisation.

Take ownership: Taking ownership of tasks shows initiative and accountability. Lead projects and volunteer to take charge of small projects or assignments. Solve problems by identifying challenges within the workplace and propose actionable solutions. Follow through and ensure that any task you take is completed successfully and professionally.

Develop a personal brand: Creating a personal brand helps distinguish yourself from others in the workplace. Identify your strengths and reflect on what makes you unique, whether it’s creativity, technical skills, or problem-solving abilities. Be consistent and ensure that your actions align with the values and strengths you want to be known for. Leverage social media by using professional platforms like LinkedIn to share achievements, articles, or insights related to your field.

Seek feedback: Feedback provides valuable insights into how others perceive you and where you can improve. Ask for constructive criticism by regularly seeking feedback from supervisors about your performance. Implement suggestions and show that you value feedback by acting on recommendations for improvement. Request recognition and if appropriate, ask managers for public acknowledgment of successful projects or contributions.

Network beyond your team: Visibility isn’t limited to your immediate team; building connections across the organisation broadens your reach. Collaborate across departments and volunteer for cross-departmental projects that expose you to new teams. Attend company-wide meetings and participate actively in meetings involving multiple teams or divisions. Introduce yourself, and don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to senior leaders during events or casual interactions.

Stay positive: A positive attitude contributes significantly to workplace visibility. Be approachable and maintain an optimistic demeanor that encourages colleagues to engage with you. Support others and celebrate coworkers’ successes, and offer help when needed. Handle criticism gracefully and accept constructive criticism with humility, using it as an opportunity for growth.

Document your achievements: Keeping track of accomplishments ensures that they don’t go unnoticed during performance reviews or promotions discussions. Maintain a portfolio by creating a portfolio showcasing successful projects, reports, presentations, or other contributions. Highlight results and quantify achievements where possible (e.g., “Increased sales by 20%”). Share success stories so you can discuss accomplishments during one-on-one meetings with supervisors.

Introverted individuals often face unique challenges in becoming visible at work but can leverage their strengths effectively. Focus on one-on-one interactions and build relationships through individual conversations rather than large group settings. Prepare ahead of time and plan talking points before meetings so you feel confident sharing ideas when opportunities arise. Leverage written communication by using emails or reports as tools for showcasing ideas clearly without needing verbal presentations. Play to your strengths and highlight qualities like active listening, thoughtfulness, and analytical thinking during discussions or problem-solving sessions. Choose strategic opportunities and participate selectively in activities where visibility aligns with comfort levels such as leading small projects rather than public speaking engagements.

While striving for visibility is important, certain behaviours can undermine efforts. Don’t overpromise with delivering, and avoid taking on too many tasks if it compromises quality; focus on delivering consistent results instead of spreading yourself thin. Don’t seek attention excessively because visibility should stem from genuine contributions rather than attention-seeking behavior that detracts from professionalism. Don’t ignore feedback by dismissing constructive criticism, as your growth can be hindered; embrace feedback as an opportunity for improvement instead. Don’t neglect relationships by focusing solely on tasks while ignoring interpersonal connections limits long-term visibility potential within organisations.

Becoming more visible at work is not about shouting louder than everyone else: it’s about consistently demonstrating value while building meaningful relationships! By excelling in their roles, communicating effectively, showcasing their expertise, and developing personal brands, young adults will position themselves favorably within competitive workplaces. Remember, it’s not merely about being seen; it’s about ensuring that what others see reflects authenticity and professionalism. Embrace these strategies today and watch as new opportunities unfold tomorrow!

In My Hands Today…

Green Island – Shawna Yang Ryan

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February 28, 1947: Trapped inside the family home amid an uprising that has rocked Taipei, Dr. Tsai delivers his youngest daughter, the unnamed narrator of Green Island, just after midnight as the city is plunged into martial law. In the following weeks, as the Chinese Nationalists act to crush the opposition, Dr. Tsai becomes one of the many thousands of people dragged away from their families and thrown into prison. His return, after more than a decade, is marked by alienation from his loved ones and paranoia among his community — conflicts that loom over the growing bond he forms with his youngest daughter. Years later, this troubled past follows her to the United States, where, as a mother and a wife, she too is forced to decide between what is right and what might save her family — the same choice she witnessed her father make many years before.

As the novel sweeps across six decades and two continents, the life of the narrator shadows the course of Taiwan’s history from the end of Japanese colonial rule to the decades under martial law and, finally, to Taiwan’s transformation into a democracy. But, above all, Green Island is a lush and lyrical story of a family and a nation grappling with the nuances of complicity and survival, raising the question: how far would you be willing to go for the ones you love?

In My Hands Today…

How the Light Gets In – Katy Upperman

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Since her sister’s tragic death, seventeen-year-old Callie Ryan has basically given up. Her grades have plummeted, she’s quit her swim team, and she barely recognizes the people her parents have become.

When she returns to her aunt’s run-down coastal Victorian one year after Chloe’s death, Callie resigns herself to a summer of guilt and home renovations. She doesn’t expect to be charmed by the tiny coastal town or by Tucker Morgan, a local boy brimming with sunshine.

But even as her days begin to brighten, Callie’s nights are crowded with chilling dreams, unanswered questions, and eerie phenomenon that have her convinced she’s being haunted. Will Callie be able to figure out what her sister is trying to communicate before it’s too late?

In My Hands Today…

The Candle and the Flame – Nafiza Azad

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Fatima lives in the city of Noor, a thriving stop along the Silk Road. There the music of myriad languages fills the air, and people of all faiths weave their lives together.

However, the city bears scars of its recent past, when the chaotic tribe of Shayateen djinn slaughtered its entire population — except for Fatima and two other humans. Now ruled by a new maharajah, Noor is protected from the Shayateen by the Ifrit, djinn of order and reason, and by their commander, Zulfikar.

But when one of the most potent of the Ifrit dies, Fatima is changed in ways she cannot fathom, ways that scare even those who love her. Oud in hand, Fatima is drawn into the intrigues of the maharajah and his sister, the affairs of Zulfikar and the djinn, and the dangers of a magical battlefield.