Chinese New Year

Gong Xi Fa Cai, Xin Nian Quai Le

With these words, the Chinese diaspora across the world welcomed the Year of the Sheep yesterday. This is also called the Spring Festival in China and is traditionally celebrated for 15 days. The Chinese New Year is also called the Lunar New Year.

The Lunar New Year is a time to honour both deities and ancestors and is celebrated not only in China, but also in countries with significant  Chinese populations like Singapore, Malaysia, Hong Kong, Macau, Taiwan, Indonesia, Thailand, Philippines etc.

Regional differences ensure differing customs across the diaspora, but cleaning the homes thoroughly before the new year, buying new clothes for everyone in the family, putting up auspicious sayings and calligraphy in the home, giving away ‘luck-money’ in the form of angpows or red packets and having a reunion dinner on the eve of the new year are common across different dialect groups.

According to tales and legends, the beginning of the Chinese New Year started with a mythical beast called the Nian. Nian would come on the first day of New Year to eat livestock, crops, and even villagers, especially children. To protect themselves, the villagers would put food in front of their doors at the beginning of every year. It was believed that after the Nian ate the food they prepared, it wouldn’t attack any more people. One day a villager decided to get revenge of the Nian. A god visited him and told him to put red paper on his house and to place firecrackers. The villagers then understood that the Nian was afraid of the color red. When the New Year was about to come, the villagers would hang red lanterns and red spring scrolls on windows and doors. People also used firecrackers to frighten away the Nian. From then on, Nian never came to the village again. The Nian was eventually captured by Hongjun Laozu, an ancient Taoist monk. The Nian became Hongjun Laozu’s mount. (source Wikipedia)

The first two days of the Chinese New Year is a public holiday in many countries, including Singapore and when it comes at the beginning or end of a work week, like this year, it means a long weekend!

Many workplaces will have a special Chinese New Year lunch and lio-hei or yusheng for their employees. Lo Hei or the Prosperity toss is something which is pretty unique to Singapore and Malaysia and maybe other parts of ASEAN. The lo hei usually has fish served with white radish, carrots, capsicum, turnips, red pickled ginger, sun-dried oranges, daun limau nipis (key lime leaves), Chinese parsley, chilli, jellyfish, chopped peanuts, toasted sesame seeds, Chinese shrimp crackers (or fried dried shrimp), five spice powder and other ingredients, laced with a sauce using plum sauce, rice vinegar, kumquat paste and sesame oil, for a total of 27 ingredients. While putting each ingredient, auspicious couplets are said, each with a special meaning, to increase your prosperity in the coming year. Then everyone in the table grabs a pair of chopsticks and toss the ingredients in the air, repeating the auspicious wishes while doing so, the reasoning being, the higher you toss, the better your luck for the year. Some people believe that if the ingredients fall on your head, you will be very lucky that year!

My workplace had a lo-hei earlier this week, but I was held up and by the time I reached the place for lunch, the lo-hei was over…

Festivals of India: Maha Shivaratri

This year, I have decided to blog about all the major Hindu festivals as well as those of other faiths which are celebrated in Singapore. This will serve mainly as a repository of knowledge for GG & BB, when I am not around…

So yesterday, Hindus across the world celebrated Maha Shivratri. This is an annual festival which is celebrated in honor of one of the triumvirate of the Hindu pantheon of Gods – Lord Shiva. This day, celebrated as the convergence of Shiva and Shakti (male and female) is the day Lord Shiva married the Goddess Parvati. It is also said this is the day when Lord Shiva performed the Tandava dance, a dance which is the source of the cycle of creation, preservation and dissolution.

Devotees celebrate this festival principally by fasting all day and offering bael leaves to the Lord as well as staying up the whole night in prayer and contemplation. It is said that the planetary positions in the Northern Hemisphere on this day act as a potent catalyst to help a person raise their spiritual energy. The benefits of powerful ancient Sanskrit mantras such as Maha Mrityunjaya Mantra increase greatly on this night.

This Wikipedia link has some nice stories on this day which is a nice read.

The holiest of the Shiva temples in India are called the Jyotirlingas. There are 12 such temples, spread across the country. More information is here

Personally, though Lord Shiva is the kuladevta (or family deity) of S’s family, we don’t really do anything special on this day. There are no special prayers or dishes we make to commemorate this day.

Little Boys and their Toys

Coming home from work today, suddenly I was struck with a thought – what is it with little boys and their toys? Every boy in the age group one to ten that I have seen, including BB till date loves their vehicle toys. Be it a bus, car, train or plane, they hold one in their hands, even while sleeping!

Is this something that is genetically embedded in them? While minoring in Psychology aeons ago, I learnt of the “Nature versus Nurture Theory” and when I realised I was pregnant with twins, I was determined that in my case, it will be nature which determines BB & GG’s individual and specific character and personality traits and not nurture as both will be brought up in the exact same environment.

Toys used to be gender neutral and had to be shared. There was nothing really that called out to gender-specific toys, but we could see nature fighting her way through quite early. BB loved vehicles – anything with a wheel, he wanted. When we left the house to go out, he would quickly come carrying as many cars,/trains as his little hand could hold and insist he wanted all of them to come out with him. He went through a  ‘Thomas the Tank Engine’ where he managed get almost all the major characters. It does not help that S is an equal, enthusiastic partner, who loves to buy these toys for his son. He even had some cars which he had kept all these years! Big boys and their toys!! Now BB has graduated to playing with his cars and planes on an online world.

So is it our environment and the external world which reinforces gender stereotypes? Maybe that’s true as advertisements almost always show boys playing with more aggressive toys and girls being shown as more gentle. Why can’t boys be the more gentle ones? While reading for this post, I came across some very good articles which highlight this gender imbalance. Here’s one and another. And they wonder why girls don’t go in for STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Maths) subjects in school!

Why are Mondays so Difficult?

Monday morning to me is a classic paradox! One on hand, I wake up, bright-eyed and eager to get started on the week. Then get to work and start on my To Do List and then bam! somewhere along the line, things slowly start to slow down and by 10 -10:30 am, my engine comes to a stop!

It’s a downhill all the way then. I keep on procrastinating, fighting sleep and doing everything else, except the most important task for the day, all the while waiting for the clock to hit the going home time!

One reason could be this – I sleep around 6-7 hours per night, which should be reasonable for a working adult, but is clearly not enough for me. To be at my optimal best, I need close to 8 hours of sleep, of which atleast 5-6 should be deep or REM sleep. But I average around half of that per night. So when Friday evening rolls, I have a huge sleep deficit which I try to even out by sleeping in over the weekend and also taking afternoon naps. The result of all this oversleeping is that I have a troubled sleep on Sunday nights, which makes Monday mornings a real b**ch

What can I do about this? Any suggestions to make my Mondays better?

Festivals of India: Pongal O Pongal

This week all over India, various communities will be celebrating/would have celebrated their Harvest festivals. In the southern part of India, specifically Tamil Nadu, today is the day that is celebrated as Pongal.

Not to be confused with the yummy sweet and salt Pongal dishes, the festival of Pongal is a harvest festival celebrated by Tamil people all over the world around 13-16 January each year. This is a four day festival which is according to the Gregorian calendar, unlike most Hindu festivals, which are based on the lunar calendar and marks the start of the sun’s six-month long journey northwards or Uttarayan as it’s called in Sanskrit. This is also celebrated as Makar Sankranti in other parts of India.

The word Pongal in Tamil means ‘overflowing’ and signifies abundance and prosperity. The celebrations for the four day festival start with ‘Bhogi Pongal’ with the worship of Lord Indra, the ruler of clouds and rains to thank him for a season of good rainfall and to make sure he blesses the farmer with just enough rain to ensure abundant harvest. The next day is ‘Thai Pongal’ which is the main festival day. People wake up before sunrise and bathe and get ready and at the time of sunrise, ritually boil fresh milk and let it overflow the earthern pot it is being boiled in. When the boiling happens, people shout “Pongalo Pongal” which means “Let there be prosperity and abundance everywhere”.  The third day is set aside for the animals in the household called ‘Mattu Pongal‘ to give them thanks for the work they do helping the farmer with his harvest. The farm animals, specifically the bulls and cows are scrubbed up and decorated and treated with goodies. The last day is a time for family reunions, called ‘Kaanum Pongal‘ where brothers give their married sisters special gifts and employers gift their employees. This marks the end of the Pongal festivities for the year.

Other harvest festivals celebrated in India include Bihu in Assam, Lohri in Punjab and Makar Sankranti in Gujarat, my home state of Maharashtra and other states in India

This is basically a festival meant to thank the Sun God  for a good harvest and has been celebrated for more than 1000 years, though some historians say it’s older than that.

Culture is important for a human being. You need to know where you come from, what your values are, so that, as custodians of the next generation, you are able to pass it on. This post is so BB & GG know where they come from and are able to pass it to their children and grand-children!