Today’s quote by former American President and one of the men I look up to, Barack Obama, resonates with me, given my state of mind these days. The quote emphasises the importance of using failures as a learning opportunity rather than allowing them to negatively impact one’s self-perception. It suggests that instead of viewing failures as a reflection of one’s identity, one should see them as valuable experiences from which to gain wisdom and improve. It’s about shifting the perspective from a fixed mindset, where failures are seen as insurmountable, to a growth mindset, where challenges are embraced as chances to develop and strengthen one’s abilities.

So how can you do that? Instead of brushing off failures, you should take the time to reflect on them. Ask yourself what went wrong, what could have been done differently, and what lessons can be learned. Embrace the idea that abilities and intelligence can be developed. See challenges as opportunities to grow, rather than obstacles that define you. After a failure, identify specific areas for improvement and set goals to develop those skills. Don’t hesitate to ask for feedback from others. Constructive criticism can provide valuable insights into areas you may not have considered. Persistence is key. When faced with setbacks, remind yourself of the progress you’ve made and the lessons learned along the way. Recognise and celebrate your progress, no matter how small. This helps build confidence and reinforces a positive association with learning from mistakes. And lastly, remember that it’s about shifting your perspective to view failures not as a negative reflection of your abilities, but as stepping stones to success. Now all I need to do is remember this. Should I print this out and put it above my desk? Maybe I will!

This week, as a way to reframe my failure, I did something I have never done. I reached out to a career coach and will have my initial introductory session next week. And if I am convinced this is the right thing to do, I will pay for a few sessions to see if I can turn things around.

GG just finished her second-semester exams and it’s been a hit-and-miss so far. Some papers went well and some were not so good. BB is fine at camp and is now in his second month of training. After three months of training here, he will move to his unit for a month of on-the-job training. He is happy at camp, because not only is it close to home, but since he is doing engineering work, he feels he is learning something useful.

Please send positive energies my way as I attempt to find a new job in my fifties!