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The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness – Jonathan Haidt

A must-read for all parents: the generation-defining investigation into the collapse of youth mental health in the era of smartphones, social media, and big tech—and a plan for a healthier, freer childhood.

After more than a decade of stability or improvement, the mental health of adolescents plunged in the early 2010s. Rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicide rose sharply, more than doubling on many measures. Why?

In The Anxious Generation, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt lays out the facts about the epidemic of teen mental illness that hit many countries at the same time. He then investigates the nature of childhood, including why children need play and independent exploration to mature into competent, thriving adults. Haidt shows how the “play-based childhood” began to decline in the 1980s, and how it was finally wiped out by the arrival of the “phone-based childhood” in the early 2010s. He presents more than a dozen mechanisms by which this “great rewiring of childhood” has interfered with children’s social and neurological development, covering everything from sleep deprivation to attention fragmentation, addiction, loneliness, social contagion, social comparison, and perfectionism. He explains why social media damages girls more than boys and why boys have been withdrawing from the real world into the virtual world, with disastrous consequences for themselves, their families, and their societies.

Most important, Haidt issues a clear call to action. He diagnoses the “collective action problems” that trap us, and then proposes four simple rules that might set us free. He describes steps that parents, teachers, schools, tech companies, and governments can take to end the epidemic of mental illness and restore a more humane childhood.

Haidt has spent his career speaking truth backed by data in the most difficult landscapes—communities polarized by politics and religion, campuses battling culture wars, and now the public health emergency faced by Gen Z. We cannot afford to ignore his findings about protecting our children—and ourselves—from the psychological damage of a phone-based life.

Sacred Stones, Spaces, and Stories: Shakthipeeta Part 7

Chandrabhaga Temple, Somnath, Gujarat
Located within the sacred complex of the Somnath Temple, the Chandrabhaga Temple stands as a unique and enigmatic Shakti Peetha. Unlike many other elaborate temples, this sacred site presents itself in a surprisingly modest form, challenging our conventional notions of what constitutes a temple.

The origins of the Chandrabhaga Temple are shrouded in antiquity, intertwined with the rich tapestry of myths and legends that surround the Somnath complex. While the exact date of its establishment remains elusive, its spiritual significance stretches back millennia, predating many of the structures in the area.
The temple’s name, Chandrabhaga, carries deep meaning. Chandra refers to the moon, while bhaga can be interpreted as a part or portion. This name is intimately connected to the legend of Chandra Dev, the Moon God and his interactions with Lord Shiva at Somnath.

According to tradition, the temple marks the spot where Sati’s Udara or stomach fell. What sets this Shakti Peetha apart is its unique form. Unlike most temples that house elaborate structures and idols, the Chandrabhaga Shakti Peetha is essentially the confluence of three rivers – Hiran, Kapila, and Saraswati. This Triveni Sangam or meeting point of three rivers, is considered the actual Shakti Peetha. At Chandrabhaga, the Bhairava is known as Vakratunda. The name Vakratunda, meaning one with a curved trunk, is intriguing, as it’s more commonly associated with Lord Ganesha. The goddess here is worshipped as Chandrabhaga, embodying the divine feminine energy in its cosmic form. However, it’s important to note that there is no specific idol or structure dedicated to the goddess at this site.

Unlike most Shakti Peethas, there is no dedicated temple structure for Goddess Chandrabhaga. The confluence of rivers itself is considered the sacred site. While the main shrine is absent, there are remnants of old temples in the vicinity. These include the Sitaleshwar Temple, Shiva Temple, Vishnu Temple, Kalika Devi Temple, also known as Navadurga Temple, and a Ganesha Mandapa. A banyan tree at the site is considered highly auspicious. It’s believed to symbolise the Trimurti of Lord Vishnu, Lord Shiva, and Lord Brahma, and is associated with life, fertility, and wish-fulfillment. The focus of devotion here is the river itself, with devotees considering the act of bathing in the Chandrabhaga as a sacred ritual. During the reconstruction of the Somnath Jyotirlinga, the trustees reportedly overlooked or chose not to rebuild the Devi shrine, leaving it in its current state. The month of Kartik sees a surge in devotees who come to bathe in the river and light lamps, following an ancient tradition.

The most prominent legend associated with this site is that of Chandra Dev or the Moon God. Cursed by his father-in-law Daksha Prajapati to lose his luster, Chandra came to Somnath and prayed to Lord Shiva. Pleased with his devotion, Shiva partially lifted the curse, allowing Chandra to wax and wane rather than remain permanently dimmed. In gratitude, Chandra built the first temple to Shiva at Somnath. The name Chandrabhaga is believed to have originated from this legend, representing the portion or bhaga of the moon or Chandra that was saved by Lord Shiva’s grace. One intriguing tale speaks of a Nataraja idol in the temple complex that supposedly floated in a hall with the help of magnetic walls. This was said to be part of the temple’s reconstruction in 1169 by King Kumarapala. The confluence of the three rivers – Hiran, Kapila, and Saraswati – at this spot is considered highly sacred. Each river is associated with different aspects of spirituality and purification.

The absence of a grand temple at the Chandrabhaga Shakti Peetha might initially seem perplexing, but it is this very absence that invites a deeper contemplation of the nature of divinity and worship. The sacred rivers flowing into each other, the ancient banyan tree standing sentinel, and the echoes of centuries of devotion create an atmosphere that transcends the need for man-made structures.

Bhadrakali Temple, Kurukshetra, Haryana
Located in the historic city of Kurukshetra, the Bhadrakali Temple, also known as Shri Devi Koop Temple, is dedicated to Goddess Bhadrakali, one of the eight forms of the Goddess Kali. The origins of the temple and its spiritual significance stretch back into unrecorded times. Archaeological evidence and ancient texts suggest that this location has been a place of worship since the times of the Mahabharata, making it one of India’s ancient temples.

The temple’s history is deeply intertwined with the epic Mahabharata. It is said that the Pandavas, the heroes of the epic, sought the blessings of Goddess Bhadrakali here before the great battle of Kurukshetra. According to tradition, it is believed that the right heel or ankle of Goddess Sati fell here.

The temple is also known by several other names, each highlighting its significance in the pantheon of Shakti worship. It is referred to as Savitri Peeth, Devi Peeth, Kalika Peeth, or Aadi Peeth. These various appellations underscore the temple’s importance in different traditions of goddess worship.

The temple is built around a well, known as Devi Koop, which is believed to be the exact spot where Sati’s ankle fell. A marble representation of the goddess’s ankle is installed in the temple, serving as a tangible reminder of the site’s Shakti Peetha status. One of the most unique aspects of this temple is the tradition of offering miniature horses. Devotees who have their wishes fulfilled offer terracotta or metal horses to the deity. The temple houses terracotta and metal horses offered by the Pandavas after their victory in the Mahabharata battle, adding to its historical significance.

The temple is open daily from 5 am to 1 pm and then again between 4 and 9 pm. One of the most significant daily rituals is the aarti, which is performed twice a day, the morning aarti between 6 and 6:40 am and the evening aarti between 7 and 7:40 pm.

The temple comes alive during its numerous festivals and special occasions. The Navratri festival sees a surge in devotees, and special pujas are performed, especially on the day of Durga Puja. The temple hosts special celebrations during Raksha Bandhan and it is believed that visiting the temple on Saturdays and worshipping the Goddess is particularly auspicious and fulfils the wishes of devotees. The temple is popular for the hair-removing ceremony of young children, believed to be connected to a similar ceremony performed for Lord Krishna and Balram at this site.

According to local lore, the Pandavas sought the blessings of Goddess Bhadrakali before the Kurukshetra War. After their victory, they returned to offer thanks and presented terracotta and metal horses to the deity. This story is the origin of the unique tradition of offering miniature horses at the temple. It is believed that the mundan or hair removal ceremony of Lord Krishna and his brother Balram was performed at this temple. This legend has made the temple a popular site for similar ceremonies for young children. A tale from the Dvapara Yuga speaks of King Mayurdhwaj, who ruled this area. Lord Krishna and Arjuna visited the king to test his charity. Krishna asked for the meat from the right side of the king’s son to feed his lion. As the king and queen prepared to fulfil this request, the Goddess appeared, blessing them with their devotion.

The temple’s significance extends beyond its religious importance. It serves as a cultural centre, preserving ancient traditions and fostering community bonds. The Bhadrakali Temple of Kurukshetra stands not just as a place of worship, but as a living link to India’s rich mythological past and a vibrant centre of contemporary devotion.

Jwaliji Temple, Kangra, Himachal Pradesh
Nestled in the picturesque Kangra valley of Himachal Pradesh, the Jwalaji Temple, dedicated to the Goddess of Light, is not just a place of worship but a powerful symbol of divine feminine energy.

Also known as the Jwala Devi Temple or Jwalamukhi Temple, the Jwalaji Temple is located on Kalidhar hill in the Kangra district. The temple’s exact date of establishment remains unknown, with legends tracing its origins to various eras of Hindu mythology. The temple’s construction is attributed to Raja Bhumi Chand, the Katoch ruler of Kangra, who was a great devotee of Goddess Durga. However, the present structure of the temple was completed in 1835 by Maharaja Ranjit Singh and Raja Sansar Chand. According to tradition, it is believed that the tongue of Goddess Sati fell here, making it a powerful centre of Shakti worship.

The most unique aspect of this temple is the presence of nine natural flames that have been burning continuously for centuries. These flames emerge from the earth through fissures in the rock and are considered manifestations of the goddess. Unlike most Hindu temples, no deity or idol is worshipped here. The eternal flames themselves are considered the embodiment of the goddess. The nine flames are known by different names: Annapurna, Chandi, Hinglaj, Vindhyavasani, Mahalakshmi, Saraswati, Ambika, Anjidevi, and Mahakali. The temple features a series of domes covered with gold, creating a striking visual against the backdrop of green hills.

Navaratri is celebrated with great fervour at the temple. It attracts thousands of devotees from across India. During Navaratri, Ashtami and Navami are considered particularly auspicious for worship at the temple. Ceremonial fire sacrifices known as havans are performed in the Chachar Chowk, an open square surrounding the temple.

According to local lore, a cowherd noticed that one of his cows always returned without milk. Upon following the cow, he saw a girl emerging from the forest to drink its milk before disappearing in a flash of light. This led to the discovery of the sacred site. The Mughal Emperor Akbar, skeptical of the temple’s miraculous flames, attempted to extinguish them. He tried covering them with an iron disk and even channeling water towards them, but all attempts failed. Impressed by this divine display, Akbar presented a golden parasol or chattar to the shrine, which is said to have transformed into an unknown metal due to his initial skepticism. The mystery of the eternal flames has attracted scientific attention. Despite digging nine kilometers deep, researchers have been unable to locate the source of the natural gas fueling these flames.

Some legends associate the temple with the Pandavas, heroes of the Mahabharata epic. It is said that they renovated the temple, as evidenced by the folk song Panjan Panjan Pandavan Tera Bhawan Banaya. The temple has been mentioned in various historical accounts. Firoz Shah Tughlaq is said to have translated a book from the temple’s library of 1300 volumes. Emperor Jahangir, after capturing Kangra fort in 1620 AD, also visited and mentioned this temple.

As one stands in the temple courtyard, surrounded by centuries of devotion and the mesmerising sight of the eternal flames, one can’t help but feel a connection to the spiritual heritage.

Vajreshwari Temple, Nagarkot, Himachal Pradesh
Located in the picturesque town of Nagarkot in Kangra district, the Vajreshwari Temple, dedicated to Goddess Vajreshwari is also known as Kangra Devi Mandir or Nagarkot Devi Temple. While the exact date of the temple’s establishment remains unknown, legends trace its roots to the epic era of the Mahabharata.

According to tradition, the original temple was built by the Pandavas. As the legend goes, the Goddess appeared to the Pandavas in a dream, revealing her presence in Nagarkot and instructing them to construct a temple for her protection. The Pandavas promptly built a magnificent shrine on the site, establishing what would become one of the most revered temples in the region.

However, the temple’s history is not one of uninterrupted peace. Over the centuries, it faced numerous challenges and destructions. Most notably, the infamous ruler Mohammed Ghazni is said to have looted the temple at least five times, drawn by its immense wealth of gold and silver. Despite these setbacks, the temple’s spiritual significance never waned, and it was always rebuilt and restored.

The present structure of the temple dates back to 1920. In 1905, a powerful earthquake had reduced the previous temple to ruins. However, it was reconstructed and restored to its former glory. According to tradition, this site marks the spot where the right breast of Goddess Sati fell. The name Vajreshwari is significant, literally meaning the lady of the thunderbolt, hinting at the goddess’s fierce and protective nature. The bhairava associated with the temple is Abhirunatheshwar, while the Shakti is Jayadurga Devi.

The temple is surrounded by a stone wall, reminiscent of a fort. This unique architectural feature not only adds to the temple’s grandeur but also speaks to its historical importance and the need for protection in turbulent times. Unlike many Hindu temples with elaborate idols, the main deity in the Vajreshwari Temple is present in the form of a Pindi. This abstract representation of the goddess adds to the mystical atmosphere of the shrine. Within the temple complex, there is a small shrine dedicated to Bhairav. This presence of Bhairav, a fierce manifestation of Lord Shiva, is typical of Shakti Peethas and symbolises the union of Shiva and Shakti energies.

In front of the main temple, an idol of Dhayanu Bhagat stands. According to local lore, Dhayanu Bhagat offered his head to the Goddess during the time of Akbar. Uniquely, the temple compound houses three tombs. While the significance of these tombs is not explicitly mentioned in the available sources, their presence adds an intriguing historical element to the temple complex.

One unique ritual associated with this temple occurs during Makar Sankranti, which falls in the second week of January. According to legend, after slaying the demon Mahishasura in battle, the Goddess sustained some injuries. To heal these wounds, she applied butter to her body in Nagarkot. To commemorate this event, the Pindi of the Goddess is covered with butter during Makar Sankranti, and the festival is celebrated for a week in the temple.

As mentioned earlier, the temple’s origin is linked to a divine dream of the Pandavas. This connection to the heroes of the Mahabharata adds a layer of epic significance to the shrine. Another legend speaks of a demon named Kalikala or Kalikut who terrorised humans, saints, and even gods in the region. The gods and sages, led by sage Vashista, performed a Chandi yajna to please Goddess Parvati. During this yajna, an offering was not given to Indra, enraging him. Indra hurled his Vajra or thunderbolt at the yajna, terrifying everyone. The Goddess then appeared, swallowed Indra’s weapon, and killed the demon. From this event, she came to be known as Vajreshwari Devi.

In a variation of the above legend, it’s said that when Indra hurled his Vajra at the demon Kalikala, the demon broke it into pieces. From these pieces, Vajra Devi appeared and slew the demon, hence earning the name Vajreshwari. The temple’s history of being looted multiple times by Mohammed Ghazni speaks to its immense wealth and importance. Despite these setbacks, the temple’s spiritual significance never diminished, and it was always restored. The presence of Dhayanu Bhagat’s idol in the temple complex hints at another intriguing story. It’s said that Dhayanu Bhagat offered his head to the Goddess during the time of Mughal Emperor Akbar.

As one stands in the temple courtyard, surrounded by centuries of devotion and the echoes of ancient rituals, one can’t help but feel a connection to the spiritual heritage that has shaped this land for millennia. The temple’s resilience in the face of natural disasters and human invasions is a testament to the enduring power of faith.

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The Way She Wears It: The Ultimate Insider’s Guide to Revealing Your Personal Style – Dallas Shaw

You are your own brand. But to market yourself well, you need the best package, and that’s your own authentic style.

In The Way She Wears It, fashion illustrator and It girl Dallas Shaw shows you how to mix up your closet and shop like a rock star.

The most highly sought-after fashion illustrator/luxury project designer working today uses her sketches, styling skills and visual expertise to help you develop your eye, define your aesthetic, banish the predictable, stock your wardrobe, and make heads turn in this highly visual and lavishly designed & illustrated personal fashion guide.

Working backstage, in showrooms, and alongside creative directors and iconic designers, Dallas learned from the best. In this sophisticated, illustrated handbook, this go-to girl for clients ranging from Chanel, Donna Karan, Oscar de la Renta, Kate Spade, Christian Louboutin, and Ralph Lauren to Anthropologie, Target, Maybelline, and Neutrogena shares her insider tricks—expert layering hacks, the secrets to print pairing, bold color choices—and something you won’t find off the confidence.

Organized around a range of challenges, this lookbook-meets workbook-is a must for every woman, whether you’re a fashion novice trying to figure out your signature style, a fashionista who wants to step up her game, or the most stylish presence in the room looking to stay ahead of the competition. Mixing breathtaking creative visuals—hundreds of photos and drawings, including 100 original pieces of art—and a little bit of girl talk, Dallas teaches every woman how to banish the predictable and develop and maintain their own unique look. She also busts fashion myths, serves up insider industry tricks and expert picks, and most important, inspires you to live beautifully.

Sustainable Gastronomy Day

Sustainable Gastronomy Day, celebrated annually on June 18, is an initiative established by the United Nations to raise awareness about the importance of sustainable food practices. This day emphasises the role of gastronomy in promoting food security, preserving biodiversity, and fostering agricultural development. It serves as a platform to highlight how sustainable gastronomy can contribute to achieving sustainable development goals (SDGs) globally.

Sustainable gastronomy is a concept that intertwines culinary practices with environmental consciousness. It refers to food systems that prioritise local sourcing, seasonal ingredients, and traditional cooking methods. This approach not only minimises waste but also supports local economies and preserves cultural heritage.

Key elements of sustainable gastronomy include local sourcing and emphasising the use of ingredients that are grown or produced in the local area; seasonal eating by the encouragement of the consumption of foods that are in season, which reduces the carbon footprint associated with transportation, waste reduction by implementing practices that minimise food waste throughout the supply chain, and conserving biodiversity by supporting agricultural practices that protect diverse ecosystems and promote the conservation of local species.

The significance of sustainable gastronomy has become increasingly apparent in light of global challenges such as climate change, food insecurity, and biodiversity loss. By adopting sustainable culinary practices, individuals and communities can contribute to a healthier planet and a more equitable food system.

The relevance of sustainable gastronomy is underscored by several pressing global issues:

  • Food Security: An estimated one-third of all food produced globally is wasted, so sustainable gastronomy plays a vital role in addressing food security challenges. Reducing waste can help ensure that more food reaches those in need, thereby alleviating hunger.
  • Environmental Impact: The food production system is a significant contributor to greenhouse gas emissions, deforestation, and water pollution. Sustainable gastronomy encourages practices that mitigate these impacts, such as organic farming and responsible sourcing.
  • Cultural Heritage: Gastronomy is not just about food; it is a reflection of cultural identity and heritage. Sustainable gastronomy promotes the preservation of traditional cooking methods and local cuisines, fostering cultural diversity.
  • Health Benefits: Eating locally sourced and seasonal foods often leads to healthier diets rich in nutrients while reducing reliance on processed foods laden with preservatives.

Sustainable Gastronomy Day was officially established by the United Nations General Assembly on December 21, 2016. The first observance took place on June 18, 2017. This initiative was launched to recognise gastronomy as a form of cultural expression linked to the natural and cultural diversity of the planet. The day aims to promote awareness about how sustainable gastronomy can contribute to achieving various SDGs, including poverty reduction, health and well-being, responsible consumption, and climate action. The collaboration between organizations such as UNESCO and the Food and Agriculture Organization (FAO) ensures that Sustainable Gastronomy Day is observed globally with educational initiatives and events.

Looking ahead to 2025, the theme for Sustainable Gastronomy Day is “More Taste, Less Waste.” This theme emphasises the importance of flavour while promoting innovative approaches to reduce food waste within culinary practices. The initiative will encourage chefs, restaurants, and consumers to explore creative ways to utilise all parts of ingredients and minimise waste through thoughtful meal planning and preparation techniques. The theme aligns with ongoing efforts to highlight the economic and environmental benefits of reducing food waste while celebrating culinary creativity. Events such as Sustainable Gastronomy Restaurant Week will be part of this initiative, showcasing how chefs can offer delicious meals without compromising sustainability principles.

Sustainable Gastronomy Day reminds us of the interconnectedness between our food systems, cultural heritage, and environmental sustainability. By embracing sustainable gastronomic practices, we can contribute to a healthier planet while enjoying diverse culinary experiences.

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The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story For Work and Life – Paul Millerd

Paul thought he was on his way. From a small-town Connecticut kid to the most prestigious consulting firm in the world, he had everything he thought he wanted. Yet he decided to walk away and embark on the “real work” of his life – finding the things that matter and daring to create a life to make them happen.

This Pathless Path is about finding yourself in the wrong life, and the real work of figuring out how to live. Through painstaking experiments, living in different countries and the goodwill of people from around the world, Paul pieces together a set of ideas and principles that guide him from unfulfilled and burned out to the good life and all of the existential crises in between.

The Pathless Path is not a how-to book filled with “hacks”; instead, it is a vulnerable account of Paul’s journey from leaving a path centered around getting ahead and towards another, one focused on doing work that matters. This book is an ideal companion for people considering leaving their jobs, embarking on a new path, dealing with the uncertainty of an unconventional path, or searching for better models for thinking about work in a fast-changing world.