Short Story: The Memory Basket

The sun streamed through the kitchen window, casting a warm glow on the sage green woven basket on the table. Aisha Tan stared at it, her heart heavy with memories. Just days ago, she had lost her beloved grandmother, Mei Ling, who had filled their home with laughter and the aroma of delicious food. The basket was all that remained of her culinary legacy.

Aisha gently lifted the lid, revealing a collection of handwritten recipes carefully penned in her grandmother’s elegant script. There were dishes from various cultures—Nasi Lemak, Char Kway Teow, Roti Canai, and even Indian curries like Chicken Rendang and Dhal Curry. Each recipe was a testament to the multicultural tapestry that defined Malaysia.

As she sifted through the recipes, Aisha felt a pang of longing. She had always loved cooking but had never taken the time to learn from her grandmother. Now, with Mei Ling gone, Aisha felt an urgency to reconnect with her roots and honour her grandmother’s memory. “I’ll do it,” she whispered to herself. “I’ll cook every dish in this basket.”

The following weekend, Aisha decided to start with Nasi Lemak, a dish that held special significance in her family. It was often served during family gatherings and celebrations. She gathered the ingredients—coconut milk, pandan leaves, rice, sambal, fried anchovies, peanuts, and boiled eggs. As she cooked, memories flooded—her grandmother teaching her how to prepare the dish while sharing stories of their family’s history. Aisha could almost hear Mei Ling’s voice guiding her through each step.

“Add just the right amount of coconut milk,” she remembered Mei Ling saying with a twinkle in her eye. “It’s what makes the rice fragrant.”

Once the dish was ready, Aisha plated it beautifully and sat down at the dining table. She closed her eyes and took a deep breath, savouring the aroma that filled the air. With each bite, she felt connected to her grandmother and their shared heritage. That evening, as she enjoyed her meal alone, Aisha realised that cooking was more than just preparing food; it was a way to keep memories alive—a bridge between generations.

Inspired by her first culinary adventure, Aisha decided to invite her estranged relatives over for dinner. It had been years since they had gathered as a family; disagreements and misunderstandings had driven them apart. But now, she felt it was time to mend those bonds.

She sent out invitations to her aunties and uncles, promising them an evening filled with nostalgia and delicious food. As the day approached, Aisha prepared an array of dishes from the basket—Char Kway Teow for starters and Chicken Rendang as the main course.

On the night of the gathering, Aisha decorated the dining table with flowers and candles to create a warm atmosphere. When her relatives arrived, there were initial awkward moments filled with hesitant smiles and polite greetings. But as they sat down to eat and shared stories about their childhoods—about Mei Ling’s cooking and family traditions—the atmosphere began to shift. Laughter filled the room as they reminisced about old times and shared their favourite memories of Aisha’s grandmother.

“Remember when Auntie May tried to make Nasi Lemak for the first time?” one uncle chuckled. “She forgot to add salt!” Aisha laughed along with them, feeling the warmth spread through her heart as she watched her family reconnect over food. It was then that she realised how powerful cooking could be—a way to heal wounds and bring people together.

Encouraged by the success of her family dinner, Aisha continued exploring other recipes in the basket. Each dish came with its own story—her grandmother’s experiences in different kitchens around Malaysia and beyond.

One weekend, she decided to try making Roti Canai from scratch. As she kneaded the dough and flipped it on the hot pan, she thought about how this simple bread brought together Indian influences in Malaysian cuisine. While preparing Roti Canai, Aisha remembered visiting Little India with Mei Ling as a child—the vibrant colours of saris in shop windows and the tantalizing scents wafting from street vendors selling delicious snacks. Those memories made her smile as she rolled out each piece of dough.

When she finally served it alongside spicy curry for dipping, Aisha felt accomplished. The flavours transported her back to those joyful moments spent with her grandmother exploring their heritage together.

As months passed by, filled with culinary experiments, Aisha discovered more than just recipes—she uncovered stories embedded within each dish reflecting cultural traditions passed down through generations!

One evening while preparing Laksa—a spicy noodle soup popular among Malaysians—Aisha stumbled upon an old photo album hidden beneath some cookbooks on a shelf! Curiosity piqued; she opened it, revealing faded pictures capturing moments from family gatherings long forgotten…

In one photo stood young Mei Ling, surrounded by relatives, smiling brightly, holding bowls filled with steaming Laksa! Another image showcased festive celebrations during Hari Raya, where everyone gathered around tables laden with various dishes showcasing diversity within Malaysian cuisine! A wave of nostalgia washed over Aisha as she flipped through pages filled with laughter, the joy reminding everyone present of the importance of cherishing bonds forged through shared meals celebrating life itself!

Determined not only to preserve these memories but also to honour the legacy left behind, Aisha decided to host another gathering, inviting everyone once again, ensuring that traditions lived on to inspire future generations to embrace journeys undertaken together, forging connections deeper than ever imagined possible…

On the day of the Hari Raya celebrations, excitement buzzed through Aisha’s home as relatives began arriving adorned in colourful traditional attire, filling the air with laughter and joy celebrating a reunion long overdue! This time, however, instead of simply serving dishes prepared from the basket inherited, Aisha encouraged each member to contribute their favourite recipes, to share stories behind them, reminding everyone present of the importance of preserving cultural heritage intertwined throughout lives lived long ago…

As they gathered around tables laden with food; aromas wafted through the air, creating a symphony of flavours and inviting everyone to partake in discovering that beauty lies within stories shared connecting generations past present future alike, reminding all hope remains alive even in darkest moments faced along the way…

“Let me tell you about my mother’s special recipe for Beef Rendang!” said Auntie May, excitedly recounting tales passed down through families, showcasing the significance behind every ingredient used within the dish, reminding everyone present of the importance of cherishing bonds formed across generations…

As festivities continued late into the night, Emma found herself reflecting upon the journey undertaken since inheriting the sage green woven basket filled with handwritten recipes from her beloved grandmother. Each dish prepared not only served the purpose of nourishing their bodies but also their souls, creating connection and bridging gaps formed over years lost amidst misunderstandings and estrangements experienced throughout life.

Feeling the warmth radiate throughout the room, filled with laughter and joy surrounding loved ones gathered close together and sharing moments cherished forevermore, Emma realized cooking wasn’t merely about food—it was about love, a legacy passed down, intertwining lives forevermore, reminding everyone present of the importance embracing change while honouring past ensuring light would always shine bright, illuminating hearts and souls alike, guiding them homeward bound forevermore…

With newfound purpose igniting spirit within, Emma vowed to continue honouring ancestors, ensuring stories lived on, inspiring future generations to embrace journeys undertaken together, forging connections deeper than ever imagined possible…

And so they stood together, united by purpose celebrating life, love, and resilience, knowing together they’d overcome challenges faced, paving the path forward, ensuring light would always shine bright, illuminating hearts and souls alike, guiding them homeward bound forevermore…

2025 Week 20 Update

Hello from the sky! My grand adventure starts today, so join me for the ride! I am posting this from about 35,000 feet in the air on the way to the start of my sort of grand trip with my sisters. This trip has been in the planning for more than a year, and today the adventure begins. I will share more about this trip once I am back in Singapore.

Today’s insightful quote by Pablo Picasso speaks to the innate creativity and imaginative freedom found in children and how that natural artistic spirit often diminishes as people grow older. Spanish painter, sculptor, and one of the most influential artists of the 20th century, Pablo Picasso was known as a co-founder of the Cubist movement and a revolutionary force in modern art. His legacy endures not just through his artwork but through his belief in the power of the imagination. 

When we’re young, we’re curious, bold, and uninhibited. Children draw, build, paint, and dream without fear of judgment or failure. Their creativity flows naturally because they’re not constrained by rules, expectations, or the need for perfection. Picasso’s observation highlights a truth: everyone is born with creativity, but adulthood often teaches us to suppress it. As we grow, we begin to conform to societal norms, absorb criticism, and internalise the belief that being creative is only for the talented few. We start fearing mistakes or ridicule, which stifles the spontaneity and joy that once came so easily.

The problem Picasso refers to is not that creativity disappears; it’s that we stop nurturing it. We become more self-conscious and overly analytical, losing touch with the playful, expressive part of ourselves. Maintaining artistic freedom in adulthood requires deliberate effort. It means embracing vulnerability, being open to experimentation, and permitting ourselves to create without expectations or limitations. This quote is not just about being a painter or a musician. It’s about retaining the spirit of creativity in all forms: thinking outside the box, dreaming big, taking risks, and seeing the world through fresh eyes. Whether designing, problem-solving, or telling stories, keeping that childlike sense of wonder is crucial to innovation and fulfilment. In essence, Picasso challenges us to reclaim our creative selves, to break free from fear, judgment, and rigidity, and return to the imaginative, expressive nature we were all born with. Creativity is not something we lose with age; it is something we must choose to preserve.

GG has started her internship this week and is super busy. She leaves early in the morning and comes home exhausted in the evening. BB is busy with his work in camp, and life is as usual for him.

That’s all from me this week. Hopefully, I will have more to share next week, but if not, no worries; once I am back in Singapore, I will share more about the trip. Stay positive and keep smiling!

In My Hands Today…

The Woman in Me – Britney Spears

In June 2021, the whole world was listening as Britney Spears spoke in open court. The impact of sharing her voice—her truth—was undeniable, and it changed the course of her life and the lives of countless others. The Woman in Me reveals for the first time her incredible journey—and the strength at the core of one of the greatest performers in pop music history.

Written with remarkable candor and humor, Spears’s groundbreaking book illuminates the enduring power of music and love—and the importance of a woman telling her own story, on her own terms, at last.

Sacred Stones, Spaces and Stories: Shakthi Peetas Part 2

The first Shaktipeeta temples we will first learn about are the four Adi Shakta Peethas which are sites where most of the energy is. These include the Kamakhya Temple in Assam where the genitals fell, the Dakshina Kalika or Kalighat Temple in West Bengal, where the toes of the right foot fell, the Vimala Temple in Odisha where the feet fell, and the Tara Tarini Temple, also in Odisha housing the breasts.

Kamakhya Devi Temple, Guwahati, Assam
Perched atop the Nilachal Hills in Guwahati, the Kamakhya Devi Temple stands as one of the most revered and enigmatic spiritual sites in India. This ancient temple, dedicated to the Goddess Kamakhya, is not just a place of worship but a powerful symbol of feminine energy, fertility, and creation. As one of the 51 Shakti Peethas, it holds a special place in Hindu mythology and Tantric traditions. It is believed that Sati’s yoni or female reproductive organ fell at the site where the Kamakhya Temple now stands. This event gave the location its sacred status as a Shakti Peetha, symbolising fertility and the power of creation.

The Kamakhya Temple is considered one of the most important among the 51 Shakti Peethas. Ancient Hindu texts such as the Kalika Purana and Devi Purana regard Kamakhya as the supreme Shakti Peetha of all the 51 sites. The Shakti here is known as Maa Kamakhya, and the associated Bhairava, a form of Lord Shiva, is called Umananda or Umanath. What sets Kamakhya apart from other Shakti Peethas is its unique representation of the divine feminine. Unlike most Hindu temples that house idols of deities, the Kamakhya Temple does not contain an anthropomorphic image of the goddess. Instead, the primary object of worship is a yoni-shaped stone over which a natural spring flows. This distinctive feature emphasises the temple’s focus on the primal aspect of feminine energy and fertility.

The Kamakhya Temple complex is a marvel of architecture and spiritual significance. It showcases a blend of styles, with elements of Nilachal and Ahom architecture. The temple features seven oval spires, each capped with three golden pitchers. The intricate carvings and patterns adorning the walls and ceilings reflect Assam’s rich cultural heritage.

The sanctum sanctorum, or the garbhagriha, is located in a cave-like structure below ground level. This is where the yoni-shaped stone, the primary object of worship, is located. The temple complex houses several other shrines dedicated to various forms of the goddess and other deities. A natural spring flows over the yoni-shaped stone in the garbhagriha, which is believed to turn red during the goddess’s menstrual cycle. Kamakhya Temple is renowned as a major centre for Tantric practices and rituals.

The Kamakhya Temple is known for its unique rituals and festivals, the most famous being the Ambubachi Mela. This annual festival, held in June, celebrates the menstruation cycle of Goddess Kamakhy. During this time, the temple remains closed for three days, symbolising the goddess’s menstrual period. The event attracts thousands of devotees and tantra practitioners from across India and abroad. The temple follows a strict schedule of daily pujas and rituals, performed by specially trained priests. As a hub of Tantric practices, the temple is known for its esoteric rituals involving mantras, yantras, and complex ceremonies. Historically, the temple was known for animal sacrifices, though these are now mostly symbolic. Many couples visit the temple seeking blessings for conception and childbirth.

The Kamakhya Temple has a rich history dating back several centuries. Archaeological evidence suggests that the site may have been a centre for Tantric practices as early as the 5th century. Over time, it has been patronised by various dynasties and rulers. The Mleccha dynasty of Kamarupa was among the first to patronise the temple and the Pala dynasty continued the patronage. King Nara Narayana of Cooch Behar rebuilt the temple in the 16th century after it was destroyed while the Koch dynasty made significant contributions to the temple’s development. The temple’s prominence grew significantly during the colonial era, particularly in the 19th century, when it became an important pilgrimage destination for devotees from Bengal.

The Kamakhya Temple has had a profound impact on the cultural and spiritual landscape of Assam and beyond. It attracts millions of devotees annually, contributing significantly to the local economy and tourism. The temple has played a crucial role in preserving and propagating Tantric traditions and practices. By celebrating menstruation as a sacred process, the temple challenges taboos and promotes a positive view of women’s biological processes. The temple’s unique architecture and legends have inspired numerous works of art, literature, and music. Despite its Hindu origins, the temple attracts devotees from various faiths, fostering interfaith understanding and respect.

Like many ancient structures, the Kamakhya Temple faces several challenges. Maintaining the ancient structure while accommodating increasing numbers of pilgrims is an ongoing challenge. The temple’s location on a hill poses challenges related to erosion and environmental preservation. Balancing the need for modern amenities with the preservation of traditional practices and architecture is a delicate task. Many of the temple’s ancient practices and histories are oral traditions, and efforts are being made to document these for future generations.

Kalighat Kali Temple, Kolkata, West Bengal
The Kalighat Kali Temple is one of the most revered Shakti Peethas in the bustling city of Kolkata. Dedicated to the fierce goddess Kali, the temple is believed to be where Sati’s right toe fell. At Kalighat, Shakti is known as Dakshina Kali, or the benevolent mother, and the associated Bhairava is called Nakuleshwar Mahadev. What sets Kalighat apart is its status as one of the four Adi Shaktipeethas, considered the oldest and most significant Shaktipeethas. The name of the city of Kolkata is believed to originate from Kalikshetra, meaning the place of Goddess Kali.

The history of the Kalighat Temple stretches back several centuries, with references dating to the 15th century. The original temple is believed to have been established by a devotee named Kalapahad. However, the current structure is not that old. The temple underwent significant reconstruction in the 19th century. Raja Basanta Roy, the King of Jessore, is credited with building the original temple. Around 1570, Padmabati Devi, the mother of Laksmikanta Roy Choudhury of the Sabarna Roy Choudhury family, claimed to have a divine vision and discovered Sati’s right toe in a lake called Kalikunda in Kalighat. During the British colonial period, the area around Kalighat was part of the Dihi Panchannagram, which the East India Company purchased from Mir Jafar in 1758 after the Battle of Plassey. As Calcutta, now Kolkata, grew, the forested suburbs around Kalighat were gradually cleared and assimilated into the expanding city.

The Kalighat Kali Temple is a classic example of Bengal architecture, which emulates the mud and thatch-roofed huts of rural Bengal. The main temple is a four-sided building with a truncated dome, topped by a smaller identically-shaped projection. Key architectural features include a Chala Temple design with each sloping side of the roof called a Chala, giving the temple its designation as a Chala temple. The two roofs bear a total of eight separate faces, creating a distinctive stacked, hut-like appearance common in Bengali temples. Both roofs are painted with shiny, metallic silver and adorned with bright bands of red, yellow, green, and blue where they join the building at the cornice. The uppermost roof is topped by three spires, with the tallest central spire bearing a triangular pennant flag. The outer walls are decorated with a diamond chessboard pattern of alternating green and white tiles. A recent addition to the temple complex is an elaborate lighting system that creates a novel atmosphere, causing the temple to glow with vibrant colours throughout the night.

The idol of Goddess Kali at Kalighat is distinct from other Kali images in Bengal. Created by two saints, Brahmananda Giri and Atmaram Giri, the idol is made of black touchstone and has several unique features. The idol has three enormous eyes symbolising omniscience, a long, protruding tongue made of gold, representing the goddess’s fierce aspect, and four arms, with two hands holding a scimitar and a severed head of the asura king Shumbha, while the other two are in the abhaya and varada mudras or gestures of protection and blessings. The scimitar symbolises divine knowledge, while the severed head represents the human ego. The blessing gestures indicate that devotees worshipping with a true heart will receive the goddess’s guidance and protection. Interestingly, the Kali idol originally only had a face. The tongue and hands made of gold and silver were added later.

A fascinating aspect of the Kalighat Temple is the presence of another image of Goddess Kali that is never displayed to the public or seen by priests. This hidden image is believed to be svayambhu or self-manifested and extremely powerful. Identified as Sati’s toe, this adirup or original form is concealed within the pedestal upon which the visible Kali idol stands. Adjacent to the temple lies a sacred tank called Kundupukar. The water in this pond is considered as holy as the river Ganga and is believed to have the power to bestow the boon of a child.

The Kalighat Temple is known for its unique rituals and festivals. The temple follows a strict schedule of daily worship rituals performed by specially trained priests. The Snan Yatra is an annual ritual that involves a ceremonial bath of the goddess. Interestingly, the priests perform this ritual with their eyes covered with cloth. Kali Puja is celebrated in October or November, coinciding with Diwali and is one of the most important events at the temple. The temple is beautifully decorated, and thousands of devotees gather to offer prayers and participate in the festivities. Historically, the temple was known for animal sacrifices, though these are now mostly symbolic. Many couples visit the temple seeking blessings for conception and childbirth. The sacred tank, Kundupukar, is believed to have special powers in this regard.

The Kalighat Temple has had a profound impact on the cultural and spiritual landscape of Kolkata and beyond. It attracts millions of devotees annually, contributing significantly to the local economy and tourism. The temple’s unique architecture and legends have inspired art, literature, and music. The Kalighat painting style, characterised by bold lines and vibrant colours, originated in the vicinity of this temple.

In our modern world, where gender dynamics and women’s empowerment are at the forefront of social discourse, the Kalighat Temple’s celebration of feminine power takes on new significance. It reminds us of the timeless wisdom embedded in Hindu traditions and invites us to reflect on the balance of energies in the universe and within ourselves.

In My Hands Today…

When Things Don’t Go Your Way: Zen Wisdom for Difficult Times – Haemin Sunim, translated by Charles La Shure

Have you ever felt like life has thrown you a curveball? Are you struggling to overcome unexpected challenges and setbacks?

While loss, heartbreak, and loneliness are all part of the human experience, in this warm guide, internationally bestselling author Haemin Sunim shows us that these moments can actually be rare opportunities for self-discovery, serving as stepping stones to greater things in life.

Drawing on Zen Buddhist philosophy and Sunim’s own experiences, When Things Don’t Go Your Way helps you navigate life’s challenges with resilience and grace. Whether you’re dealing with rejection, uncertainty, loneliness, conflicts in relationships, or burnout–or simply seeking to improve your mental and emotional well-being–Sunim offers a new spiritual perspective, one that helps us face life’s challenges with greater ease and understanding, and offers solace and courage when we need it the most.