2025 Week 13 Update

To all those celebrating, Eid Mubarak! May the moon’s brightness this Eid bring you and your loved ones endless blessings, happiness, and success.

Today’s quote is a simple but profound reminder to live in the present moment. Attributed to Ram Dass, who was born Richard Alpert, a spiritual teacher, psychologist, and author known for bringing Eastern philosophy to the Western world, Ram Das was a Harvard professor who became deeply involved in psychedelic research before traveling to India, where he studied under Neem Karoli Baba and embraced Hindu spiritual teachings. The quote encourages us to let go of past regrets and future anxieties and fully immerse ourselves in the now, where life truly happens.

In modern society, many people struggle with overthinking and distractions, either dwelling on past mistakes or worrying about what lies ahead. This tendency keeps them from fully experiencing the richness of life. Ram Dass suggests that true peace and fulfillment come from being completely present in whatever moment we are in, without resistance or attachment.

When we focus on the present, we become more aware of our thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. This awareness allows us to engage with life more deeply and authentically rather than being caught in the endless cycle of mental chatter. “Be here now” is not just about passivity; it’s about actively embracing the moment, appreciating its beauty, and responding to life with clarity and wisdom.

This philosophy aligns with many spiritual traditions, including Buddhism, Hinduism, and meditation practices, where being present is considered the key to enlightenment and inner peace. Instead of trying to control or resist life, Ram Dass teaches that true happiness comes when we surrender to the now, accepting things as they are. In a practical sense, this quote encourages us to slow down, breathe, and fully engage in whatever we are doing, whether it’s having a conversation, eating a meal, or simply observing the world around us. By being fully present, we can reduce stress, enhance our relationships, and find deeper meaning in everyday experiences. The quote is an invitation to live life with awareness, gratitude, and a sense of presence. It reminds us that the past is gone, the future is uncertain, but the present moment is always within our reach.

GG is amid project submissions and prepping for her final exams. So, even if she is at home, I barely get to see her. Once her exams are done, she has a break for a couple of weeks, after which she starts her summer internship. So a very busy few weeks for her.

BB is busy with his work too, having to work overtime many days as well as having to do overnight guard duty. But the end is near, and that’s what matters.

This week also marked the one-year mark when I was told by my hiring manager that they would be letting me go, not because I was underperforming, but because the project I was hired for didn’t get its funding renewed. I was very upset initially, but now I have gotten over it and can look at it objectively. I also know that the universe has a plan for me and this was part of the plan. To get something good, you need to reach rock bottom and then climb up.

That’s all from me this week. Stay happy, stay positive, and keep smiling!

2025 Week 12 Update

Today’s quote is from one of my favourite authors, one whom I read when I was in school, Louisa May Alcott. An American novelist, poet, and reformist, Alcott is best known for her classic novel, Little Women. Alcott worked as a nurse during the Civil War and wrote stories to support her family. Her works, often inspired by her own life, emphasise family values, resilience, and female empowerment. She was also an advocate for women’s rights and abolitionism, leaving behind a literary legacy that continues to inspire readers worldwide.

Alcott’s quote serves as a guiding principle for a meaningful and well-balanced life. It highlights the importance of surrounding oneself with positivity, continuous learning, appreciation for life, and self-care. Our thoughts, attitudes, and personal growth are often shaped by our relationships. Positive, kind, and supportive individuals encourage us to become the best versions of ourselves, while toxic influences can hinder our growth. Alcott suggests that choosing uplifting and virtuous companions helps cultivate a life filled with joy, wisdom, and integrity.

Books serve as windows to new perspectives, knowledge, and emotional depth. Reading well-written, insightful, and inspiring works expands the mind, nurtures empathy, and strengthens one’s sense of identity and purpose. For Alcott, who was both an avid reader and a writer, good books were not just entertainment but a means of self-improvement and enlightenment. The quote also encourages one to appreciate life’s beauty and find joy in meaningful, simple pleasures. Whether it is art, nature, kindness, or creativity, loving what is good fosters gratitude and contentment. This aligns with Alcott’s belief in living a rich, fulfilling life not through material wealth but through experiences and values.

The quote also emphasises the importance of both physical and spiritual well-being. A healthy body supports a healthy mind, and taking care of oneself through exercise, rest, and nourishment leads to a balanced life. Similarly, cultivating the soul through kindness, compassion, faith, or introspection ensures that personal growth is not just external but deeply rooted in character and values. Overall, Alcott’s quote is a timeless piece of wisdom, reminding us that a truly fulfilling life is built upon meaningful relationships, intellectual and personal growth, appreciation for life’s goodness, and a commitment to self-care.

I took this week easy. I had a bunch of things on my to-do list that kept getting pushed to the next week because of my work and writing commitments, so I thought I should take a week or two off to tick off items from my long list. The good news is that I managed to get quite a few items off the list. The coming week will also be quieter as I try and clear more items so that when April rolls in, I have the bandwidth and motivation to tackle my writing head-on.

GG has been very busy and stressed this week because of project submissions, exams, and tests. She finally finished a bunch of those but has her end-of-semester exams to look forward to in early April. GG is busy with his work in camp, and his life flows on as usual. I have been nagging him for the past few weeks to take more interest in life after national service, but so far, all this has fallen on deaf ears!

That’s all from me this week! Stay positive and let the brightness of spring coat your soul!

 2025 Week 11 Update

This week’s quote is attributed to the ancient Chinese philosopher, poet, and founder of Taoism, Lao Tzu. Tao, or Laozi, is best known for his classic work, the Tao Te Ching, a foundational text that explores themes of harmony, balance, humility, and effortless action, or wu wei. Lao Tzu’s quote conveys the power of inner peace and stillness in unlocking a deeper understanding of life and the universe. It suggests that when the mind is free from distractions, worries, and unnecessary thoughts, it gains a sense of clarity and alignment with the natural order of things. 

A still mind is calm, unshaken by external chaos, and free from excessive attachment to desires and fears. In today’s fast-paced world, people are consumed by stress, ambition, and endless distractions. This mental restlessness creates resistance and struggle, making it difficult to see things clearly or make wise decisions. However, when one cultivates inner stillness, through meditation, mindfulness, or simply being present, they become more receptive to wisdom, insight, and the natural flow of life. 

Instead of fighting against circumstances or forcing outcomes, a still mind allows things to unfold naturally. Just as a calm lake reflects the sky without distortion, a peaceful mind perceives reality more clearly, making it easier to respond with wisdom rather than impulsively. Lao Tzu’s philosophy is deeply rooted in Taoism, which emphasises harmony with nature, effortless action, and the balance of opposites. This quote encourages individuals to let go of resistance and align themselves with the natural rhythm of life. In practical terms, this quote teaches us that patience, mindfulness, and acceptance bring greater success and fulfillment than constant striving or worry. Whether in personal relationships, careers, or challenges, those who cultivate inner calm often find that solutions appear effortlessly, and life unfolds with greater ease. Lao Tzu’s message is a reminder that peace and clarity come not from controlling the world, but from mastering one’s mind. When we achieve this, life begins to work in our favor, and we move through the world with wisdom, ease, and grace. 

This week has been a mixed bag, with some productive days and some days when all I wanted to do was laze in bed. But that’s the circle of life where one has ups and downs. BB is busy with his work and has now started seriously thinking about what he wants to do after his national service. GG is very busy with school and her studies. 

That’s all from me this week. Have a wonderful week and stay positive!

2025 Week 10 Update

Yesterday was International Women’s Day, and my social media feed has been filled with IWD posts. While I am all for celebrating the day, I just wish all this posting on social media is not just for show on this day and is something people commit to the whole year.

Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor best known for his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor E. Frankl’s quote highlights the idea that success is not something that can be directly chased or forced. Instead, it is a byproduct of meaningful work, purpose, and dedication to something greater than personal achievement. Frankl suggests that when people make success their primary goal, they often become too fixated on outcomes, leading to stress, disappointment, and ultimately failure. This happens because success is not a tangible object that can be grabbed; it is a natural result of pursuing something with passion, purpose, and integrity.

Similarly, he compares success to happiness, emphasising that both are not things that can be pursued directly. Happiness, like success, arises when we engage in meaningful activities, form deep connections, and contribute to something larger than ourselves. If one only focuses on success, they risk missing the joy and fulfillment that come from the journey itself.

Frankl’s quote also aligns with his philosophy of logotherapy, which emphasises that humans find true fulfillment not by seeking pleasure or success but by finding purpose and meaning in life. When we shift our focus from personal gain to serving a cause, helping others, or creating something valuable, success will naturally follow as a consequence. Ultimately, his message is a call to action: instead of chasing success, focus on what truly matters, be it learning, growing, creating, or contributing, and success will come as a natural result of living a meaningful life.

This week, I was able to see a doctor for my ankle pain that had been bothering me for the last five months. At the peak of the pain, I was unable to walk more than 10 minutes at a time and was hobbling along. After seeing my GP, who gave me pain medications, the pain subsided to a large extent, but I used to get pain on and off, especially if I walked for a long time. So this week, I could finally see a specialist for this. I was told to get an x-ray done, and the good news is that there is nothing wrong with the bones. I have been told to attend a few physiotherapy sessions and also given medication, both oral and topical, and will have to go back later this year. If the pain does not subside, I will need to get an MRI scan done. Hopefully things will get better by the time I need to go back to see the doctor and I don’t need to do the MRI!

This was my biggest news of the week. It’s just GG and me at home this week as S was away on a trip with his mom and BB was in camp. So, GG and I have been cooking less, only cooking what we need, and I enjoyed not making complete meals. Next week, it is back to normal.

That’s all from me this week. Again, wishing all the women who read this space a happy women’s day. I just hope that it didn’t take a day to remind the world how amazing us women are, but I’ll take what I get for now.

2025 Week 08 Update

Today’s quote is by Yvon Chouinard, an American rock climber, environmentalist, and businessman best known as the founder of Patagonia. It emphasises the significance of the journey rather than just the end goal. It suggests that the way we approach challenges, our ethics, and the experiences we gain along the way are far more valuable than simply achieving success. Many people are fixated on reaching their goals, whether in business, personal development, or life ambitions. However, if success is achieved through shortcuts, unethical means, or without personal growth, it can feel hollow. The journey shapes who we are: the struggles, failures, and perseverance required to overcome obstacles are what truly define us, not just the final achievement.

While climbing a mountain, one could theoretically reach the peak by being carried or taking an easy, unearned route. However, doing so would take away the lessons, experiences, and personal growth gained from the climb. Similarly, in life, focusing solely on the destination can cause us to miss out on valuable learning experiences. This philosophy applies to various aspects of life. Business & leadership, ethical and sustainable business practices matter more than just making profits. In our personal growth, becoming a better person is about the effort, discipline, and experiences that shape our character, not just the result. In sports & adventure, winning is not the only goal; how you play the game, your dedication, and your sportsmanship define true achievement.

Ultimately, Chouinard’s message reminds us to focus on integrity, effort, and the lessons learned rather than simply chasing an outcome. True success is not measured by where we end up but by who we become.

Earlier in the week, we realised that GG & BB’s names had been added to the electoral rolls since the voting age in Singapore is 21. So when elections are announced sometime this year, GG & BB will be able to vote. I wanted us to go down together to vote, but since S is on election duty this year, it will be just us. I hope elections are not declared when I am away on my big holiday later in the year! Well, it will be what it will be, so I just need to wait and see.

My days are filled with writing, cooking, and cleaning, so that’s my life in a nutshell. GG is busy with school, and BB is busy with work in camp. He’s done a few overtimes now and also a guard duty on a Friday, which meant he only came home on Saturday morning!

That’s all from me this week. Stay positive and keep smiling!