Positive Thinking

If you have been reading about me for a while, you’d know that for the past few months, I’ve not been very happy at work. My boss changed and the new guy who came in is not as positive about me as the previous one. I’ve been feeling very demoralized lately and in the past few weeks have been starting to look for newer positions.

In the midst of all this, I realized I needed some words of encouragement and started searching for some nice quotes to cheer me up. This one popped out and resonated with me.

I am one of those people who want to think positively, but immediately start thinking of what is the worst that can happen. It can be any situation; I veer between 100% and 0% with 100% being best possible outcome and 0% being the worst possible outcome. I really want 100% to happen, but am scared I will jinx myself, so start planning for 0%!

Reading the above quote made me think maybe my thinking is all wrong – what if I only had positive thoughts, will it make a difference? I read a couple of articles on the Power of Positivity and well, they all say the same thing which is that when you think negatively, your thoughts and emotions narrow your mind and focus on these negative thoughts. They do not allow you to see other, maybe better options which are also open and available. This is a basic survival instinct which has stayed on over the years, even though most of us don’t need it in day-to-day life these days.

On the other hand, having positive thoughts opens up your mind, allowing you to see more possibilities in life which actually allow you to have a broader view of life, one filled with more positive options.

For someone like me, who is not normally a positive person, to cultivate and increase positive thinking in our lives, you could think of anything that sparks these feelings. Or things like meditating daily for a few minutes builds mindfulness and a general sense of calm which will help with bringing forth the positive emotions when you need them. Writing daily, especially a positive experience daily will help reinforce that feeling; a daily gratitude book where you look for things that you are grateful for will also help. Another thing that helps is doing things you enjoy – whatever it may be – this helps you zone out and kick up those positive endorphins!

I’m glad I saw this quote and read the articles. I am going to seriously do this and what better day to start this than next Thursday which is Dusshera, the day of good and auspicious beginnings. I’m off on a holiday in the next two days and will spend the next 4-5 days mulling about this and when I am back the day before Dusshera, I will start by meditating a few minutes daily and also start a gratitude book. I am also going to talk BB & GG in trying this. This transition from Primary to Secondary school is the best to start such good practices which they should be able to do for the rest of their lives.
Hopefully, over the next few months, I will have a better mindset and my brain does the rest!

Here are some nice positivity quotes (more for me than you :-))

I like this one – I will choose happiness everyday!

Another great attitude to have in life!

Festivals of India: Navratri

With the Ghatasthapana, yesterday marked the start of the nine days of revelry that is the Navratri festival. This festival, which pays homage to the female energy or shakti is dedicated to the nine major Goddesses of the Hindu Pantheon.

Navratri translates to Nav or nine and ratri or nights in Sanskrit. During the nine nights of Navratri, nine forms of Devi or the female energy are worshipped. The tenth day is celebrated as Dusshera or Vijayadashami or The Day of Victory. This comes about as this was the day Lord Ram (of the celebrated Hindu epic, Ramayana) defeated the Demon Lord king Ravana in what is present day Sri Lanka and freed his wife Goddess Sita who was imprisoned by Ravana. The two, along with Lord Rama’s brother Lord Lakshmana who had accompanied his brother and sister-in-law in their exile, then left for home as this day had also ended their fourteen years of exile. The enter the city of Ayodhya in north India around twenty days later, which is celebrated as the festival of Diwali in north India.

Navaratri represents a celebration of the Goddess Amba, (the Power). Navaratri or Navadurga Parva happens to be the most auspicious and unique period of devotional sadhanas and worship of Shakti (the sublime, ultimate, absolute creative energy) of the Divine conceptualized as the Mother Goddess-Durga, whose worship dates back to prehistoric times before the dawn of the Vedic age.

A whole chapter in the tenth mandal of the Rigveda addresses the devotional sadhanas of Shakti. The “Devi Sukta” and “Isha Sukta” of the Rigveda and “Ratri Sukta” of the Samveda similarly sing paeans of praise of sadhanas of Shakti. In fact, before the beginning of the legendary war between the Pandavas and Kauravas in the Mahabharata – a foundational Sanskrit epic in the Hindu tradition – Lord Krishna worshipped Durga, the Goddess of Shakti, for the victory of the Pandvas.

The Navaratri commences on the first day (pratipada) of the bright fortnight of the lunar month of Ashwin. The festival is celebrated for nine nights once every year during the beginning of October, although as the dates of the festival are determined according to the lunar calendar, the festival may be held for a day more or a day less.
This is how Navratri is celebrated in most parts of India, specifically in the north. The first day of Navratri is the Pratipada or Ghatastapana pooja, the second day called Dwitya is the Chandra Darshan Brahmacharini Pujan. The third day is the Tritiya day and the pooja that day is the Sindoor Tritiya Chandraghanta Pujan while the fourth or Chaturti day is the Varad Vinayaka Chauth. The fifth or Panchami day is the Upang Lalita Vrat Skandamata Pujan, while the sixth or Shashti and seventh or Saptami is devoted to the Godess of Learning or Saraswati with the Saraswati Awahan Katyayani Pujan on the sixth day and the Saraswati Puja Kalaratri Pujan on the seventh day. The eighth day is called Ashtami and is the day the Goddess Durga is worshipped with the Durga Ashtami Mahagauri Pujan Sandhi Puja or Maha Ashtami. The last day of the Navratri is called Navami and this day is when you worship your implements of your profession and is called Ayudha Puja or Durga Visarjan or Maha Navami. So on this day, students and professionals will put their books in front of a portrait of Goddess Saraswati, IT guys will worship their computers, farmers will worship their plough, tractors, other professionals will worship what they use the most….you get the point….
Everyday of the nine days has a colour associated with it. Sunday is red/maroon, Monday is white or cream, Tuesday is orange, Wednesday is green, Thursday is yellow, Friday is silver and Saturday is blue or peacock. Most people will try to wear the above colours during the nine days. I remember when I was working in India, almost everyone in the office would be wearing uniform colours depending on the day! I too try to wear the colours as much as possible, but working means you can’t wear colours like silver, so I try to incorporate it somewhere as much as possible.

In our neighbouring state of Gujarat, the Navratri is a huge festival, with the nights reserved for dance. Every day, everyone, be you young or old, will flock to communal grounds and dance the Garba and the Dandiya Raas! This practice is also very popular in Mumbai and I am also nostalgic about this festival when you get a chance to dress up and go and dance the night away!

In Tamil Nadu, dolls and idols are set up on tiers of steps called Golu. Usually in the evening, women and girls are invited to the house of the host and they are given turmeric and betel leaves, called vathailay paaku and asked to sing for the Goddess. On the ninth day, as mentioned, Saraswati Pooja is done which I have blogged before. Books, computers, musical instruments are placed before the Goddess and worshipped.

On the next day, which is Vijayadashami when good overcomes evil, children are encouraged to read the books. The tenth day is also a day for beginings. Most new ventures will start this day. I remember we did BB & GG’s vidhyarambham or the day children formally start learning when they were around two years old on a trip to India during Dusshera day. That day parents make the children write a holy word on a mound of rice and this kind of starts their formal learning journey. Most parents do it just before their children start school, but we did it earlier than usual as the children were scheduled to start daycare a few months after Dusshera and that India trip.

In the evening of “Vijayadasami”, any one doll from the “Kolu” is symbolically put to sleep and the Kalasa is moved a bit towards North to mark the end of that year’s Navaratri Kolu. Prayers are offered to thank God for the successful completion of that year’s Kolu and with a hope of a successful one the next year. Then the Kolu is dismantled and packed up for the next year.

Mysore, in the state of Karnataka is very well-known for it’s Navratri festivities, which is the state festival, with the royal family taking part whole heartedly. On the ninth day of Dasara, called Mahanavami, the royal sword is worshipped and is taken on a procession of decorated elephants, camels and horses. On the tenth day, called Vijayadashami, the traditional Dasara procession (locally known as Jumboo Savari) is held on the streets of Mysore. An image of the Goddess Chamundeshwari is placed on a golden howdah on the back of a decorated elephant and taken on a procession, accompanied by tableaux, dance groups, music bands, decorated elephants, horses and camels. The procession starts from the Mysore Palace and culminates at a place called Bannimantapa, where the banni tree is worshipped. The Dasara festivities culminate on the night of Vijayadashami with a torchlight parade, known locally as Panjina Kavayatthu.

In the eastern state of West Begal, the last four days of Navaratri are particularly celebrated as Durga Puja. This is the biggest festival of the year in this state and exquisitely crafted and decorated life-size clay idols of the Goddess Durga depicting her slaying the demon Mahishasura are set up in temples and other places. These idols are then worshiped for five days and immersed in the river on the fifth day. People in the state go puja mandal hopping and try to make it home irrespective of where they are in the world for the pooja!

2015 Week 40 Update

I stayed at home for the first two days of the week and went back to work after nearly 10 days. Felt like I was going back after a holiday!

I’ve decided to seriously start looking for a new position and in the meantime give my all here. I want them to seriously miss me when I leave….

On Monday, after lunch, I started having so much problems with my company issued laptop, so much that I was unable to send or receive emails. Apparently, my laptop no longer has space in the hard disk and this is a new laptop, which was issued to me less than six months back! The zinger is that because I had a similar problem in my previous laptop, I transferred all files into an external drive and so other than some random files in the desktop, there is nothing I have saved here…..

Since I was working from home, I could only take it to our IT on Wednesday. Turned out that it was actually not that big a problem. When the technician who took my call on Monday did something to my laptop’s email application, he didn’t delete the old stuff which resulted in all the problems I was having!

On Tuesday after the final PSLE paper ended, we decided to go to the library as BB & GG had not borrowed books in a while. What made this trip to the library special was that the National Library Board was celebrating 20 years this year and decided to let everyone borrow 20 books per card! We’re in book heaven now after borrowing loads of books! Happy 20th Birthday NLB! Also did some other non-clothes shopping. The kids had friends over our home on Friday. They’ve known these friends forever! They are also a pair of boy/girl twins like BB & GG, just a couple of months older. They used to stay in the same estate as us, in the opposite building. We met when BB & GG were around a year old and they’ve been playing together since then. It’s so much fun to see them grow together…

Then I made it a shopping day on Sunday! The three of us (S had to go to a temple with his mom, so joined us later) left home around 10ish and went to a few malls to have lunch and shop! It was great fun now that the kids are older. We should do this more often. We had dinner at our regular restaurant near our place and came home tired but happy 🙂

Tween/Teen Angst: An Episode

As BB & GG are completing a phase in life and moving on to Secondary school, this brings to my mind that they are not children anymore. They are on the brink of being teens, mini adults, complete with the tears and tantrums that go with it.

Last week on Friday, as we were celebrating being halfway down to the end of the PSLE exams, my helper told both of them that the day after their exams end, they need to start clearing their rooms and putting away books and toys. They should also go through unwanted books and toys and sort them into two piles – to throw and to donate. GG looked up and said she can’t do that as she is going for a movie with a friend. Well, this was news to me and I said so!

That started a flood of tears and shouts about how she is not a baby anymore and that I don’t allow her to go out on her own to see movies with her friends. Actually, that is not 100% true. I have allowed her to go out twice with her friends, once though with an adult present. But it’s this ‘new’ friend that I am a bit leery about. For some reason, based on the Whatsapp conversations I’ve seen between her and GG and the limited interactions I’ve had with that girl, my mind tingles and I feel something off-kilter! I’ve learnt to listen to my intuition and so decided to be firm here. My helper also said she didn’t like the girl and also that she felt something off….

After a lot of tantrums and crying, GG gave in when I explained my reasons. But she still is most probably going to get her way. She has now decided to go see a movie with two friends from Hindi school. I’ve told her, I need to see evidence of parental consent from both girls before I allow. Also I will send BB as well so that both can then come home together after the movie!

BB & GG have a list of movies they want to see – after this above movie, they have another movie this week with their tuiton teacher and one with us also!

Well, they’ve finished their big exams and deserve this bit of fun and games before they start a new life journey.

As a parent, I need to start adjusting to the fact that they are growing up and I need to loosen the apron strings —- a lot more than I am comfortable with 😦

2015 Week 39 Update

Another boring week where I worked on a bit of work-stuff and mostly on our post-PSLE trip!

I’ve also realised that there is no place for me in this organisation, atleast in the role I envision for myself. Thus the only alternative is to leave. The two days I am home this week and also moving on, I’ve decided to work on my CV more and start applying. Hopefully I will get something in my hands before my contract is due for renewal in the first quarter of 2016….

The rest of the week was mostly stressing over the PSLE exams and helping BB & GG with their work. Today is the penultimate paper and tomorrow is the last one…Then freedom for GG & BB!

After that, the worrying about the results start….Hopefully they do well enough that they get to choose their schools and not let the schools choose them. Meaning they do well enough that they have enough points to have choices rather than restrict options to schools that will take them in 😦