2016 Week 31 Update

 

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We’re on the first day of August and as of today, I’ve completed three months of unemployment and being a SAHM.Hopefully August is a better month for me than the last three. I’ve enjoyed this time, but now I am more than ready to go back to being a productive member of society!

Last week, I met some old colleagues for dinner. My old ex-boss was down in Singapore for some meetings and so we decided to meet him and some of the others who were still in touch for a catch-up. It was a fun evening, reminiscing and gossiping about old friends. I and another colleague who stays not too far from my place decided to leave around 10:30 pm, but the others were still at it till later than 11 pm.

My ex-boss also asked me to send him my CV and said he will put me in touch with some people he knows who may need someone with my skills. So hopefully something clicks soon.

The latest Harry Potter book, Harry Potter and the Cursed Child released yesterday and all three of us, GG, BB and I were super excited about it. We had pre-ordered the book and so went down to collect it from the store. Both BB & GG were fighting about who gets to read it first and I had to give in! But, since they are in school now, it’s all mine today. I’m off to read the book now, so catch you later….

Have a fantastic week people!

 

2016 Week 30 Update

Another week is gone….

I am really feeling my age and more these days. On Saturday we went to see and support GG for her show choir performance and by the time we were back home it was past 11 pm. Even though I only went there and sat down to enjoy the show, I was so tired when we came home and needed a good part of Sunday to recover!

The latest update on our troublesome neighbours is that we have to change the ceiling fans on two of our bedrooms. This whole episode (and it’s not over yet) has left a real bad taste in my mouth and I have a sneaking suspicion that we have been victims of very subtle racial discrimination. When the estate manager came to check, his assistant initially told me that there was no noise, but the estate manager (EM) told me otherwise. Initially, I wanted to go upstairs and see for myself which the EM agreed. But later when he came down, he told me that since they were from the government agency and he had checked, there was no need for me to do the same. Why I really wonder? If there was the loud noise as they claim, then they should be eager to show it to me to prove me wrong, right? Something didn’t seem right to me. I let it go as I didn’t want to create a scene….

Anyway here’s hoping this week is much better than the last one and the week is awesome for you all  too….

 

The Paradox of our Time

I came across this beautiful speech/poem by His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama and it resonated with me.

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Here’s another, similar speech by Dr. Bob Moorehead, which is worth a read!

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more but learn less. We plan more but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you and a time when you can choose either to share this insight or to just hit delete…

Remember, to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person might not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.”

Today, most people live in bigger homes (per person per square feet), but who is there at home? Most families are nuclear in nature and even with just three or four people at home, the house is just that – rarely a home as with people’s schedules, there are just a handful of times when everyone is at home together. We don’t make time for the extended family, even during festivities and occasions.

With more disposable incomes, especially in countries like Singapore, the tendency to buy for the sake of buying something is very common. Hashtags like #buybuy are very common on social media platforms and the flaunting of new possessions seems to be a case of ‘keeping up with the Joneses and doing it one step more’! This in contrast, to some people who seem to adopt a minimalist attitude. I would like to go this route and so for the time being, I am stopping all non-essential purchases, preferring to buy from my closet and stash. I will only buy when I am completely out of the product.

We’re more connected than ever in the history of the world, but ironically we’re more alone than ever. As of June 2016, there are more than 1 billion Whatsapp groups in the world and more than 64 billion messages were sent using Whatsapp in one day at its peak! The normal Whatsapp traffic is approximately 42 billion messages per day, though I am not sure if this includes the voice and video messages. But how many of us actually take the time to speak to a loved one on a regular basis? It’s so much easier being in touch through a keyboard, though how much time does it take to take the same phone and dial a number. Even if you do not or cannot use international dialing, all you need to do is install one of the free apps like Skype or Viber and speak to your loved ones!

 

I am going to make a call to speak to my loved ones just as soon as I finish this post, will you?

 

2016 Week 29 Update

It’s a new week, so happy Monday folks! I hope this week is good for you.

My days are running into each other and each week seems to be pretty much like the previous week.

I’ve sent out something like around a hundred resumes till date, but there’s been no response at all from any employer. Day-by-day, I feel my confidence deteriorating and there are times when I seriously think about my employability status and wonder whether I should just chuck it and become a SAHM permanently. I also need to take a decision about my helper R. Her contract ends sometime in mid-September and I need to figure out whether to continue the contract or let her go. I am in two minds about this – if I let her go and I secure a new position, I would really feel her absence as she is a very good worker. But then the other question is can I afford her salary, especially when I am at home these days and there’s not much work for her to do. Hopefully, this week will be better for me than the previous week.

I’ve been creating a lot of content for both this blog and In My Hands Today, so this is what keeps me busy all day!

Have a great week guys!

 

 

2016 Week 28 Update

Another boring week for us, though it was a short week for BB & GG and S also had a break in the middle of the week.

Whenever we get a holiday in the middle of the week, I get reminded of an old friend, who loved hump day holidays! She loved the idea of a break in the middle of the week, a reset of sorts, and every time there’s a holiday on a Wednesday, I always think of her!

I didn’t have a good week career-wise though. The one place I went for an initial interview, didn’t shortlist me for the next round. I must have applied to atleast 50-60 places since May, but there has not been even a single interview. I was thinking about this and realised, another colleague who was in a similar situation (like me, her position also got eliminated, but she was pregnant, so she left when her contract ended which was in her last trimester). She’s much younger than me and with a degree with a better market value and is still unemployed! When I started thinking about her, I felt even more bad – someone like her is still unemployed and where does that make me stand?

Enough of this depressing thoughts! On to happier thoughts this Monday! Hope you have a great week….

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