In My Hands Today…

The Art of Being Alone – Renuka Gavrani

Taylor Swift said once, “The scary news is, you are on your own now. But the cool news is, you are on your own now”

The fear of loneliness was injected into our minds since we were kids. We have learned that the kid who eats, sits, and has no friends is pathetic. In every book or movie, the kid who eats alone and has no friends is always featured as a weak character who needs to be saved. Pick any book or movie, and you will observe a common pattern around loneliness. These people were shown as easy targets or an object of your sympathy.

No one wants to be seen as a ‘weirdo’ hence, our dread of being alone. We don’t want people to think of us as someone who needs to be saved or mocked. Someone who is unwanted or doesn’t fit in with the cool kids. We don’t want people to think that no one chose us. So what do we do? We start becoming like an ideal version of whom everyone loves. And in the race of achieving people’s acceptance and love, you end up losing yourself.

The Art of Being Alone is not just another book. It’s a story of my life. I have been alone for the majority of my life. And I still am. The only difference is, earlier I used to wish for the kind of best friend who will save me and now I enjoy every day with myself, doing things that I always wanted to and using my ‘alone time’ to GROW MYSELF and build my dream life.

And through my book, I want to take you on the journey of being cool with being alone. I have spent most of my life wishing for people to stay or have fun with me while ignoring my soul waiting for me to pay attention to myself. I know it’s tough to be lonely. But I promise, it’s fun to be alone. And it’s even more amazing when you use your alone time to build your dream life, achieve your goals, and fall in love with yourself.

We fear loneliness because we have been manipulated into believing that loneliness is a curse. And in the hope of finding people, we often end up losing ourselves and doing things that we hated in the first place. Why? Why do you hate the idea of being with yourself so much that you are ready to settle for the bare minimum?

But enough is enough. I have divided this book into two sections. The first section is about transforming loneliness into solitude. And the second section is about how you can use your solitude to turn into your growth period. If you are ready to transform your perception around loneliness and if you are all set to achieve your goals using your ‘alone time’ then welcome to ‘The Art of Being Alone’

Festivals of India: Pana Sankranti

Also known as Maha Vishuba Sankranti, Pana Sankranti is a vibrant and culturally significant festival celebrated in Odisha. This auspicious occasion marks the traditional Odia New Year and heralds the arrival of spring, serving as a time for renewal, spiritual reflection, and communal joy. Falling on the first day of the Odia calendar month of Baisakha, typically around mid-April, Pana Sankranti coincides with the solar transit into the Mesha (Aries) Rashi, lending it cultural and astrological importance.

The roots of Pana Sankranti can be traced back to ancient times, with references found in various scriptures and texts. The festival’s origins are deeply intertwined with the agrarian culture of the region. Marking the beginning of the new agricultural year, the festival highlights its importance in the traditional Odia way of life.

One of the most significant aspects of Pana Sankranti is its association with Lord Jagannath, the presiding deity of the Puri Jagannath Temple. According to legend, Lord Jagannath created the Pana drink to remedy the scorching summer heat. Another mythological tale associated with Pana Sankranti involves Lord Vishnu’s incarnation as Varaha (the boar). It is believed that on this day, Lord Vishnu rescued the Earth from the demon Hiranyaksha, an act of divine intervention that is commemorated through various rituals and prayers during the festival.

Pana Sankranti is celebrated with great enthusiasm and fervour across Odisha, with each region adding its unique cultural flavour to the festivities. At the festival’s heart is the preparation and sharing of Pana, a special drink that gives the festival its name. This refreshing concoction is made from many ingredients, including water, jaggery, fruits, and sometimes milk or yoghurt. The Pana is not only a delicious treat but also serves a symbolic purpose, representing the essence of life and the spirit of sharing. It is offered to deities and distributed among family members, friends, and neighbours, fostering a sense of community and togetherness.

Devotees mark Pana Sankranti by visiting temples dedicated to various deities, with special emphasis on Lord Jagannath, Lord Shiva, and Goddess Tarini. The Tarini Temple near Brahmapur and the Cuttack Chandi are particularly popular pilgrimage sites during this time. One of the most spectacular rituals associated with Pana Sankranti is the Jhaamu Yatra at Sarala Temple, where priests walk across hot coals, demonstrating their devotion and faith. This awe-inspiring display draws many spectators and adds to the festival’s mystical atmosphere.

Pana Sankranti is also a time for vibrant cultural expression. One of the most notable traditions is the Danda Nacha, or Danda Jatra, an ancient dance form dedicated to Goddess Kali. Performed by a group of men known as Danduas, this dance is a testament to physical endurance and spiritual devotion, often involving acrobatic feats and rhythmic movements. In different parts of Odisha, various cultural events mark the occasion. For instance, in Chhatrapada, Bhadrak, the Patua Yatra festival spans from April 14th to April 21st, bringing communities together. Northern Odisha resonates with the festivities of Chadak Parva, while in the south, the Meru Yatra festival marks the culmination of the month-long Danda Nata dance festival.

The festival is a time for strengthening social bonds. In urban areas, Odia families often gather in community halls to celebrate together, while in rural settings, the festival takes on a more traditional flavour with community-wide celebrations. These gatherings often feature feasts where traditional delicacies are shared, further reinforcing the sense of community and shared cultural heritage.

Pana Sankranti holds deep significance in Odia culture, embodying various symbolic meanings and cultural values. As the traditional New Year, Pana Sankranti symbolises new beginnings and fresh starts. It’s a time for people to clean their homes, wear new clothes, and set positive intentions for the year ahead. This reflects the universal desire for renewal and the opportunity to begin anew. Pana Sankranti marks the beginning of the new agricultural year. This connection to the land reminds people of the importance of agriculture in their lives and the need to maintain harmony with nature. The festival provides an opportunity for spiritual reflection and devotion. The various rituals, temple visits, and prayers associated with Pana Sankranti allow people to connect with their spiritual beliefs and seek divine blessings for the coming year.

Several myths and legends are associated with Pana Sankranti, adding depth and richness to the festival’s cultural significance. According to one legend, Pana Sankranti is linked to the story of Lord Vishnu’s incarnation as Lord Jagannath. It is believed that on this day, Lord Jagannath, with his siblings Lord Balabhadra and Devi Subhadra, embarked on their annual journey to the Gundicha Temple in Puri, known as the Ratha Yatra. The legend of Lord Jagannath creating the Pana drink as a remedy for the summer heat explains the origin of this central element of the festival and emphasises the belief in divine intervention in everyday life. The myth of Lord Vishnu, in his Varaha avatar, rescuing the Earth from the demon Hiranyaksha on this day adds a cosmic dimension to the festival. This story symbolises the triumph of good over evil and the restoration of cosmic order, themes that resonate with the idea of new beginnings associated with the New Year.

While Pana Sankranti is primarily celebrated in Odisha, similar festivals marking the solar New Year are observed across South and Southeast Asia. These include Vaisakhi in North and Central India and Nepal, Bohag Bihu in Assam, Pohela Boishakh in Bengal, and Puthandu in Tamil Nadu. Each of these festivals shares common themes of renewal and celebration while incorporating unique regional traditions and customs.

In Odisha, the celebration of Pana Sankranti can vary from region to region, with each area adding its local flavour to the festivities. In the Taratarini Temple area, the festival coincides with the Chaitra Yatra, drawing large crowds of devotees. In Northern Odisha, the Chadak Parva is a significant part of the Pana Sankranti celebrations. The Meru Yatra festival in Southern Odisha marks the end of the month-long Danda Nata dance festival, coinciding with Pana Sankranti. These regional variations highlight the diversity within Odisha’s cultural landscape and demonstrate how a single festival can take on different forms while maintaining its core significance.

As with many traditional festivals, the celebration of Pana Sankranti has evolved, adapting to changing social structures and urban lifestyles. In cities, community halls often become the focal point of celebrations, where Odia families gather to observe the festival. This adaptation allows urban dwellers to maintain cultural connections even in modern settings. The preparation and sharing of Pana remain central to the festival, but the recipe might vary from household to household, with some incorporating modern ingredients or adapting the drink to suit contemporary tastes. However, the spirit of sharing and community bonding remains intact.

Pana Sankranti plays a significant role in preserving and promoting Odia culture. The festival serves as a platform for showcasing traditional art forms, music, and dance, helping to pass these cultural treasures on to younger generations. The Danda Nacha, for instance, not only entertains but also educates people about ancient rituals and beliefs. Economically, the festival boosts local businesses. The demand for traditional foods, new clothes, and items used in rituals increased during this time, benefiting local traders and artisans. Additionally, the influx of visitors to temples and pilgrimage sites during Pana Sankranti contributes to the local tourism industry.

In recent years, there has been a growing awareness of the environmental impact of festivals. While Pana Sankranti is generally an eco-friendly celebration, with its focus on natural ingredients and traditional practices, efforts are being made to make it even more sustainable. For instance, some communities are promoting the use of biodegradable materials for decorations and encouraging the responsible disposal of waste generated during the festivities. The tradition of offering water to the Tulsi plant and the symbolic representation of rain through the Pana-filled earthen pot also serve as reminders of the importance of water conservation, especially relevant as the festival marks the beginning of summer.

Pana Sankranti stands as a testament to the rich cultural heritage of Odisha, blending spiritual devotion, communal harmony, and joyous celebration. This festival, with its deep-rooted traditions and evolving practices, continues to play a vital role in the cultural and social fabric of Odia society. As a celebration of new beginnings, Pana Sankranti offers a moment for reflection, renewal, and community bonding. It serves as a bridge between the past and the present, allowing people to honour their traditions while adapting to the changing world around them.

In an increasingly globalised world, festivals like Pana Sankranti play a crucial role in maintaining cultural distinctiveness while fostering a sense of unity and shared heritage. The enduring popularity and significance of Pana Sankranti demonstrate the power of cultural traditions to adapt and thrive, even in the face of rapid social change. As long as people continue to find meaning and joy in coming together to celebrate new beginnings, share in age-old customs, and reaffirm their cultural identity, Pana Sankranti will continue to be a vibrant and integral part of Odia life for generations to come.

In My Hands Today…

The Greatest Nobodies of History: Minor Characters from Major Moments – Adrian Bliss

History belongs to the heroes. But to get the full story, sometimes you have to ask the side characters.

The lives of Leonardo da Vinci, Henry VIII and Queen Victoria fill bookshelves and fascinate scholars all over the world. But little attention is given to the ferret who posed for the renaissance master, the servant who oversaw the Tudor’s toilet time, or the famous horse who thrilled the miserable old monarch.

These supporting cast members have been waiting in the wings for too long, and Adrian Bliss thinks it’s high time they join their glory-hogging contemporaries in the spotlight. Fortunately, – thanks to some recently discovered ancient complaint letters, court transcripts and memoirs in bottles – now they can.

Equal parts fascinating and hilarious, the Greatest Nobodies of History is a surreal love letter to life’s forgotten heroes featuring hitherto undocumented accounts from Ancient Greece to the frontlines of the Great Emu War.

All that follows really happened, and some of it could even be true

Adulting 101: The Importance of Sleep for Young Adults

Sleep is often one of the first sacrifices young adults make in today’s fast-paced world. With busy schedules filled with classes, work, social activities, and the constant allure of technology, many find themselves prioritising everything but rest. However, understanding the importance of sleep and establishing a good sleep schedule is crucial for overall health and well-being.

Sleep is a natural state of rest characterised by altered consciousness, reduced sensory activity, inhibition of voluntary muscles, and decreased interactions with the environment. It plays a vital role in physical health, mental well-being, and cognitive function.

Sleep consists of several stages that cycle throughout the night. NREM or Non-Rapid Eye Movement Sleep consists of three stages. Stage 1 is the light sleep stage where one drifts in and out of sleep; it is easy to wake up during this stage. Stage 2 is the slightly deeper sleep; the heart rate slows down, and body temperature drops. Stage 3 is the deep sleep stage. This stage is crucial for physical recovery and growth.

The REM or Rapid Eye Movement Sleep stage occurs after about 90 minutes of sleep. During REM sleep, the brain is active, dreams occur, and the body experiences temporary paralysis to prevent acting out dreams. REM sleep is essential for memory consolidation and emotional processing.

A typical sleep cycle lasts about 90 minutes and includes both NREM and REM stages. Most adults require 7-9 hours of sleep per night to complete several cycles effectively. Understanding this cycle can help young adults appreciate the importance of uninterrupted sleep.

A good sleep schedule is very important for physical and mental health as good academic performance, social interactions, and long-term health risks.

Adequate sleep is essential for maintaining physical health. Sleep plays a critical role in immune system function. Lack of sleep can weaken the immune response, making individuals more susceptible to illness. During deep sleep, the body releases growth hormones that aid in tissue growth and muscle repair. Poor sleep can disrupt hormones that regulate appetite, leading to weight gain and obesity.

Sleep has a profound impact on mental well-being. Insufficient sleep can lead to irritability, mood swings, anxiety, and depression. Sleep is vital for cognitive processes such as attention, memory consolidation, problem-solving skills, and decision-making abilities.

For students, good sleep is directly linked to academic success. Adequate rest enhances focus and concentration in class or while studying. Sleep helps consolidate memories learned during the day, making it easier to recall information during exams.

Sleep deprivation can affect social skills. Lack of sleep can lead to increased stress levels and irritability, which may strain relationships with peers and family members. Feeling tired can reduce motivation to engage in social activities or maintain friendships.

Chronic sleep deprivation has been linked to various long-term health issues. Inadequate sleep increases the risk of heart disease and hypertension. Poor sleep patterns are associated with insulin resistance and increased risk of type 2 diabetes. Long-term lack of quality sleep can contribute to serious mental health conditions such as anxiety disorders or depression.

Many young adults believe that sacrificing sleep for productivity or social activities is a sign of strength or ambition. However, this mindset can be detrimental. Society often glorifies busyness and productivity at the expense of self-care. It’s essential to challenge this narrative by recognizing that rest is not a weakness but a necessity for optimal performance.

Understanding the science behind why we need sleep can help shift perspectives. Quality rest improves cognitive function, creativity, and problem-solving skills—key attributes for success in both academic and professional settings. Well-rested individuals are better equipped to handle stressors and challenges effectively.

Tips for Establishing a Healthy Sleep Schedule

Creating a consistent sleep schedule is crucial for reaping the benefits of restorative rest. Here are some tips for young adults looking to improve their sleeping habits:

  • Set a consistent sleep schedule: Aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day—even on weekends—to regulate the body’s internal clock.
  • Create a relaxing bedtime routine: Establish calming pre-sleep rituals such as reading a book, practising relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation, or taking a warm bath to create the best way to start a sleep schedule.
  • Limit screen time before bed: Avoid screens like phones, computers, and TVs at least an hour before bedtime, as blue light interferes with melatonin production—a hormone that regulates sleep.
  • Optimise the sleep environment: Invest in a comfortable mattress and pillows that support restful sleep. Use blackout curtains to keep the room dark; consider earplugs or white noise machines if noise disrupts your rest.
  • Be mindful of food and drink intake: Limit caffeine consumption after mid-afternoon, as it can interfere with the ability to fall asleep. If hungry before bed, opt for light snacks rather than heavy meals that may cause discomfort during the night.
  • Incorporate physical activity: Engage in physical activity during the day; however, avoid vigorous exercise close to bedtime as it may energise instead of helping to wind down.
  • Manage stress levels: Incorporate mindfulness practices like yoga or meditation into the daily routine to help manage stress effectively.
  • Seek professional help if needed: If one continues to experience difficulties with sleeping despite implementing these strategies, seek guidance from a doctor or specialist who can provide insights into potential underlying issues affecting the ability to rest well.

Understanding the importance of quality sleep is essential for young adults navigating their academic pursuits or early careers; prioritising healthy sleeping habits leads to improved physical health but also enhanced mental clarity & emotional resilience! By establishing consistent routines while creating optimal environments conducive towards restful slumber, young individuals will find themselves better equipped both personally & professionally!

Remember—it’s not merely about getting enough hours in bed; it’s about ensuring those hours are restorative! By embracing these tips & strategies, young adults who are embarking on their journey towards better sleeping patterns, their future self will thank them! Prioritise rest today so that one can thrive tomorrow!

2025 Week 15 Update

This week, many communities across India will celebrate their New Year. The Tamil New Year is tomorrow, as is Baisakhi or the Punjabi New Year. Vishnu, the new year in Kerala, Bissau Parba of the Tulu people, Buisu of the state of Tripura, Bwisagu of the Bodo people, Pana Sankranti in Odisha, Bohag Bibu of the Assamese, Pahela Baishakh of the Bengali people, Jur Sital of the people of Mithila in Bihar, Sangken of the people from Arunachal Pradesh, Bizhu for the people of parts of Mizoram and Arunachal Pradesh, and Mesha Sankranti for people of Uttarakhand and those of Nepali descent also fall in this period. Here’s wishing everyone whose new year falls this week a very happy solar new year!

Today’s quote is from French-Cuban-American diarist, essayist, and writer of fiction Anaïs Nin, best known for her intimate and lyrical personal journals that span several decades of her life. Anaïs Nin’s quote is a powerful metaphor about growth, transformation, and the courage to change. The image of a bud represents a person staying closed off or confined, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually, perhaps due to fear, comfort, or uncertainty. At first, staying in that safe, familiar state may feel less risky. But over time, it becomes stifling. The pain of not evolving, not expressing your true self, or not stepping into your full potential eventually outweighs the fear of leaping into the unknown. Nin’s quote speaks to that pivotal moment when a person chooses growth over comfort, even if growth is uncertain or difficult.

Blossoming involves risk; it means being vulnerable, seen, and open to failure and beauty. But the alternative is staying hidden and never fully alive. Many people experience this in relationships, careers, or personal development. The quote encourages embracing change and trusting the process of becoming. It reminds us that transformation often starts with discomfort and that the first step toward fulfillment comes when we allow ourselves to feel that discomfort rather than avoid it. Personal growth involves moving through fear, and this movement, like a flower blooming, is both a release and a revelation. Nin’s words are empowering for those at the edge of a major life decision. They remind us that change may be scary, but stagnation can be even more painful. Blossoming might be risky, but it is where life truly begins.

Life is going on as usual. GG is super busy with exams, and even though she may be at home, I barely see her. BB is busy with his work and hopefully has started thinking of plans for post-national service. This week, I was reminded that they are legal adults, so I can’t say too much about where they go and why.

Anyway, that was all there is this week. Stay positive, keep smiling, and I will check back next week!