The Joy of Journaling

pexels-photo-256424.jpegThis post has been germinating in my head for a few weeks now and I have finally managed to put my thoughts down.

I’ve kept journals before, mostly physical diaries as a young girl, but then I’ve always had the fear that someone will open it up and read my innermost thoughts, and so after a few years of writing in them, I stopped.

After that, it was done in bits and pieces and I would write when and where I felt like. This blog is also an extension of that compulsion to jot down my thoughts and feelings. Then came social media and everyone started sharing their lives online, be it happiness, sadness or even rants and vents. But because I am a super private person, I find it hard to share on social media like many of my peers do. So most of the stuff I didn’t want to share here, on this blog were bottled up. I have done some writing and tearing it up techniques just to get rid of the feelings, but I have always felt it was not enough.

0a1ca130e30e35ae8ae825f85ad82cc9A couple of years back, I came across the idea of the bullet journal and was absolutely intrigued by this concept! Here was something that could document my entire life and I could plan months in advance and would never forget anything that needed to get done! I went and purchased a nice lined notebook and started planning my year (this was sometime in December 2016). Come January 2017, I started using the notebook as my bullet journal.

I lasted less than one month….

The bullet journal was not for me. I am the least creative person I know and can’t even draw a straight line without needing to use a ruler. This was because all the articles and videos I saw about how to effectively use a bullet journal was full of supremely talented and creative ideas which I had zero ideas to implement. I also could not write detailed notes without moving across pages in the book which hampered my journaling efforts a lot. But the deal breaker, at least to me, was the fact that I could not undo any mistakes in my journal. For a person who hates having things crossed out or cancelled, it made me squirmy and brought out all my latent tendencies! So that pretty much ended my bullet journaling journey.

So what next?

While I was using the bullet journal, I had also started using another space to document my daily life. This was nothing more than Google Docs. I started using it from January 2017 and am using it till now (and hopefully for a long time to come) as space where I document what goes on in my life on a day-to-day basis. What I do is very simple, every month is a fresh document and when I finish a year, I pull all the documents for that year into a folder named after the year. The individual files are named Year and month. That’s it. I use it almost every day and there’s no pressure to write long grandmother stories. Some days, it’s just a couple of lines and some days, yes, it’s a detailed description of what I did, ate, met and thought. I have also used it to document the steps I take each day, keep track of my eating and also any habits I am tracking at that particular time. I also love that since it’s on a cloud, I can use the space anywhere I am – where on my mobile device or on a physical computer. I also find it very cathartic when I am able to pen down my innermost thoughts and rants and when I put it down, I find my heart feel lighter and also am able to sleep well at night without having a multitude of thoughts chasing around my head.

I’ve gone a step ahead in 2018. In addition to my monthly Google Docs, I have also started using Google Sheets to track the progress of my habits and other data that I want to track this year. I have created graphs and this lets me see at a glance where I am with respect to those goals.

There are many benefits to keeping a daily diary or journal. It helps you stretch your language as you write every day and this, in turn, lets you challenge yourself with newer words and sentence structure. You are also able to keep track of your goals and lets you know where you are in terms of achieving them and you learn to improve communication skills, both written as well as oral. Also, as I wrote above, writing down your thoughts is cathartic and if you are disturbed either mentally or emotionally, the whole process allows you to make the experience more realistic, which in turns allows you heal faster. Studies have also shown that the emotional release from journaling lowers anxiety, stress, and induces better sleep.

Do you keep a journal or a diary? What has your experience been? Or perhaps you have been inspired to start a journal now? Do comment below and let me know, I’d love to hear from you….

 

Poem: Her Smile

pexels-photo-421884.jpegHer Smile

She saw me hovering over her
She was tired and sleepy, her eyes unfocused and a blur

She started to get cranky and angry
Her face starting to screw up and shout like a banshee

But then she got a good look at me and her face transformed
That’s when the magic started, the world lit up and warmed

She gave me the most magical gummy smile
One which warmed me from head to toe
And put in a state of glow from which I have yet to recover!

Poem: Writer’s Block

For the past week, I have been really struggling to write quality content. I have ideas, but when I start writing, everything seems to fizzle out. This poem is inspired by my struggles.

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Writer’s Block

 

I sit in front of my laptop, staring intently at the blank screen
Peering and poring over it, hoping to form words that come to mean

Sometimes I get a glimmer of an idea
It flits and floats, as if doing the cha-cha

The idea proves as elusive as a scent in the air
Trying to locate it proves to be as difficult as a prayer

I try to sip some coffee hoping for a spark
To ignite those neurons, fire up the quark

But words are still playing hide-and-seek with me
Wonder when they will give up and come to me?

What Makes a Good Manager?

beagoodmanager-722x1024In my years of being in the workforce, I’ve had many managers, good, bad and even indifferent, but I don’t think I’ve had one as the one I reported to in my last short-lived job. This person, who was a nice person by nature, exemplified everything that a manager should not be. It was not because this person was being a manager for the first time, this person had been a good 40 odd years in the workforce and probably had been a manager for at least half that time. But the traits the person brought to the table as someone overseeing a team were traits that do not make a good manager. I kept thinking back to how this person treated people and this became the fodder for this blog post.

So what are the traits that exemplify a good manager? Keep reading….

'A good leader can lead them to water, but a great leader can also make them drink.'Leadership:
A good manager should not just manage the people under them, they should inspire and lead them. They should be emotionally stable, have enthusiasm for the work they and their team does and learn to take failures as well as success. A good leader also shares credit for a job well done and does not throw any member of their team under the bus just to save their skin.

Communication:
A good manager is someone who is able to communicate well. Managers communicate in a 360 degree, from employees who report to them, peers, clients and their own managers. This can be in person, via phone or even written communication through email. What they say should not be evasive or unintelligible, but should be clear and concise and not have any room for ambiguity. Another important communication is non-verbal communication, especially when dealing with subordinates.

Planning:
Good managers are organized. They know what needs to be done and when it needs to be done. A good manager not only knows the long-term goals of the organisation but also know what they and the team they supervise need to do to achieve those goals. A good manager will not only plan and schedule the team but will also have a good grasp of the departmental budget.

'How good are you at throwing money?'Problem-Solving:
Good managers are able to identify and solve problems. Whether it’s a personnel issue, an upset customer or a difficult vendor, good managers can think of creative solutions to problems, then execute the solutions. Good managers also take responsibility for problems that arise rather than seeing them as someone else’s responsibility and take an ethical approach to problem-solving. Great managers know in addition to being a leader, they are also teammates. They don’t just give feedback on problems; they help with implementing the solutions. These managers are very clear and realistic when it comes setting and communicating goals. Along the way, they get their hands dirty and put in the work to ensure their direct reports are set up for success. They show them how to be successful if they are falling behind and demonstrate best practices to help guide them along.

Attitude:
What sets every good manager that I’ve had over the years is simply nothing more than a good attitude. Attitude really is everything and great managers know that their energy and attitude set the pace for the day. A great manager knows when to hold certain situations lightly and when to drive certain situations with a high degree of urgency. Their communication is not hard to read or understand. A good manager never over-reacts and keep calm even under immense fire. They are always cool in the office and always have a smile on their face even under exceptional circumstances.

Transparent:
You cannot be a great manager if you sugarcoat things. They must know how to speak to their reports in a way that is direct, factual and straightforward — especially when it comes to bad news. They also get to the point quickly and transition into solution-based thinking (versus wallowing). Top-notch managers must also be transparent. This trait helps drive away any potential rumour mills before they open. They foster a culture of candour, making it easier for people to give meaningful real-time feedback.

toon473Flexible:
Great managers know that it is not all about them; it is all about the people. When things get bumpy they embrace ambiguity and make others comfortable in dealing with change. They also know that no two employees are the same and spend the time getting to know what motivates and challenges people. They ask questions and listen so they can set up a working relationship that is tailored to the specific needs of an employee (as appropriate and reasonable as possible).

Accountability:
Remarkable managers are obsessed with accountability. They realize that the success of their direct reports is their success. On the flipside, they share in failures and mistakes. They hold regular one-on-one meetings with their direct reports and reinforce the outcomes they and the team are responsible for. They are vested in driving solution-based cultures and strive to build an environment of continued learning (versus finger pointing). Also, to keep staff focused, they make sure to handle and manage accountability conflicts as they come up (instead of letting things fester).

Develop great talent:
A great manager is very good at spotting potential not only among their own team members but also among the other employees in the organisation and using the spotted talent to the best of their ability. They are able to get the right people in the right roles at the right time. They do this through the encouragement of mentorship opportunities and the implementation of a proactive plan for addressing career development interests, needs and desires. Great managers care about the future as much as they care about the present for both the business and the individual.

 

Decision Making:
If supervisors can’t make decisions for their team, how can they expect to guide them towards the finish line for projects or goals? The truth is, they can’t. That’s why the best managers have the ability to make decisions with a wealth of information — in a short amount of time — to get the best results from their team. The best managers are hard to come by, and with good reason: they have to be emotionally intelligent, honest and hold their team to the same performance and accountability standards that they hold themselves to.

These are the traits that I found that make up a good manager. I am going to use this as a guide when I become a manager.

What has your experiences been either as a manager or under a manager? I’d love to hear in the comments section below.

Life is like a Game

Life is like a game, you win some, you lose some

Sometimes the dice throws you a six, sometimes  it makes you glum

There are times you move up the ladder of life

But there are also times life gives you loads of strife

You have to dust it off and get up and go forth be unafraid

Because when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade

Life is just like a game, you win some, you lose some

Just enjoy the life you have, don’t become life’s victim