The Paradox of our Time

I came across this beautiful speech/poem by His Holiness the XIV Dalai Lama and it resonated with me.

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Here’s another, similar speech by Dr. Bob Moorehead, which is worth a read!

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more but learn less. We plan more but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you and a time when you can choose either to share this insight or to just hit delete…

Remember, to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person might not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.”

Today, most people live in bigger homes (per person per square feet), but who is there at home? Most families are nuclear in nature and even with just three or four people at home, the house is just that – rarely a home as with people’s schedules, there are just a handful of times when everyone is at home together. We don’t make time for the extended family, even during festivities and occasions.

With more disposable incomes, especially in countries like Singapore, the tendency to buy for the sake of buying something is very common. Hashtags like #buybuy are very common on social media platforms and the flaunting of new possessions seems to be a case of ‘keeping up with the Joneses and doing it one step more’! This in contrast, to some people who seem to adopt a minimalist attitude. I would like to go this route and so for the time being, I am stopping all non-essential purchases, preferring to buy from my closet and stash. I will only buy when I am completely out of the product.

We’re more connected than ever in the history of the world, but ironically we’re more alone than ever. As of June 2016, there are more than 1 billion Whatsapp groups in the world and more than 64 billion messages were sent using Whatsapp in one day at its peak! The normal Whatsapp traffic is approximately 42 billion messages per day, though I am not sure if this includes the voice and video messages. But how many of us actually take the time to speak to a loved one on a regular basis? It’s so much easier being in touch through a keyboard, though how much time does it take to take the same phone and dial a number. Even if you do not or cannot use international dialing, all you need to do is install one of the free apps like Skype or Viber and speak to your loved ones!

 

I am going to make a call to speak to my loved ones just as soon as I finish this post, will you?

 

2016 Week 29 Update

It’s a new week, so happy Monday folks! I hope this week is good for you.

My days are running into each other and each week seems to be pretty much like the previous week.

I’ve sent out something like around a hundred resumes till date, but there’s been no response at all from any employer. Day-by-day, I feel my confidence deteriorating and there are times when I seriously think about my employability status and wonder whether I should just chuck it and become a SAHM permanently. I also need to take a decision about my helper R. Her contract ends sometime in mid-September and I need to figure out whether to continue the contract or let her go. I am in two minds about this – if I let her go and I secure a new position, I would really feel her absence as she is a very good worker. But then the other question is can I afford her salary, especially when I am at home these days and there’s not much work for her to do. Hopefully, this week will be better for me than the previous week.

I’ve been creating a lot of content for both this blog and In My Hands Today, so this is what keeps me busy all day!

Have a great week guys!

 

 

2016 Week 28 Update

Another boring week for us, though it was a short week for BB & GG and S also had a break in the middle of the week.

Whenever we get a holiday in the middle of the week, I get reminded of an old friend, who loved hump day holidays! She loved the idea of a break in the middle of the week, a reset of sorts, and every time there’s a holiday on a Wednesday, I always think of her!

I didn’t have a good week career-wise though. The one place I went for an initial interview, didn’t shortlist me for the next round. I must have applied to atleast 50-60 places since May, but there has not been even a single interview. I was thinking about this and realised, another colleague who was in a similar situation (like me, her position also got eliminated, but she was pregnant, so she left when her contract ended which was in her last trimester). She’s much younger than me and with a degree with a better market value and is still unemployed! When I started thinking about her, I felt even more bad – someone like her is still unemployed and where does that make me stand?

Enough of this depressing thoughts! On to happier thoughts this Monday! Hope you have a great week….

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2016 Week 27 Update

We’re done with half of 2016! I can’t believe how fast this year is going. Also the first half of this year has not been very good to me, so here’s hoping the second half more than compensates for the bad first half.

This was a ho-hum week for me, with nothing of note. I’ve been sending out resumes almost everyday, but so far, there’s nothing, nada on the radar. The recruitment consultant I spoke about told me I made their cut and the company will now screen the resumes they sent to them to decide whom they want to meet. So far, there’s nothing yet, so not much hopes there too…

I was pretty much at home this week, with just a visit to the temple on Friday. My sister-in-law’s new baby is apparently sick a lot, so my mother-in-law had some prayers in the temple for him. We spent a couple of hours in the temple and then also did a food donation to the visitors there and then had lunch before coming back home…

That, my readers, was the highlight of my week! It’s so pathetic, even if I say so…

Oh, I need to update my reading challenge for the year. My original challenge at the beginning of the year was to read 125 books. Somewhere around the 100 mark, I moved the goalpost further to 150 books by December 31 and as of today, I’ve exceeded my original goal and have read…..drumroll…..126 books! Hopefully I will exceed the target of 150 books also soon….

With a public holiday this week, let’s see what it brings to me…

Wishing all muslims a very Happy Id….Selamat Hari Raya Adilfitri (as they say in southeast Asia) and Id Mubarak as it’s said in India!!

2016 Week 26 Update

Another boring week this turned out to be….

I don’t even know why I bother updating weekly when my days segue into each other.

On the job front, I’ve been applying as usual, but nothing has come up yet. Well, not really, because for the first time, I got called by a consultant who called me for a chat for a job she had advertised and I had responded to. I do not have much hopes for that position as one of the key experiences the company needs, I don’t have. But I went thinking maybe they may have other opportunities available. So let’s see….

I also lost my atm card this week! We were going to watch Finding Dory and the train was supposed to come in 2 minutes. I also had to top up mine and BB’s fare cards and all this in the 2 minutes before the train arrives. After the top-ups, either I left the card in the machine or dropped it somewhere in the platform. I only realised it after the movie was over and I wanted to buy something from a store in the mall! Luckily I had some cash with me for the purchase. I quickly cancelled the card and over the weekend, went and got a new one done….

Happy Monday people and I hope this week is a great one for you all. As for me, please pray that the consultant comes back with some positive news for me…