Meditation

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One of the habits I have decided to track this year is meditating daily. But this is one habit I am not able to sustain on a daily basis. I decided to see what could be the reason for this and thought this post could then help someone else with the same problem as me.

My usual meditation routine is at night – just before I nod off. This worked earlier, but these days, I find myself sleeping off before I am able to meditate for even five minutes. I wonder what I am doing wrong. I have tried the Calm app before but wanted to try free form meditation this time around and do a proper meditation as opposed to depending on an external source to ground me.

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There is plenty of evidence floating around, including scientific evidence, about how meditation is good for you. Some of the benefits include the reduction of stress, which in turn helps in the sleep cycle, dispels depression and anxiety, reduces blood pressure, helps in the alleviation of fatigue and cloudy thinking and controls anxiety.

You also become more self-aware with the help of meditation and that in turn helps you to develop a stronger understanding of yourself and how you relate to those around you, thus helping you grow into your best self. The infographic above is an excellent condensation of the benefits of meditation.

So now that we know why meditation is good, what’s the best time to meditate. Most studies show that meditating twice a day – once as soon as you wake up and once just before you sleep is the best. You can also try meditating in bits and pieces throughout the day (in tranches of one to five minutes each) if that’s what you prefer.

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To start meditating, choose a quiet place, one where you are sure not to be disturbed when you are doing your practice (however short it may be). Sit on the floor cross-legged or if you can’t do that, sit in a straight-backed chair. I usually just use the timer off my phone and set the time I want to meditate and start the timer when I am ready. Now close your eyes and start to concentrate on your breathing. Your mind will start wandering at this point and thoughts will start crowding your head, especially undone tasks. When this happens, and your mind starts to wander, just bring it back into the breath and start focusing on it again. As you improve your practice, you will find this interval between the times your mind starts wandering lengthening and after some time you may be able to go your whole session without the mind not wandering even once!

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I walk a lot. I try to get 10,000 steps in a day and this means I spend at least a couple of hours over the course of my day walking to clock in the steps. I had heard of walking meditation and this is something I am trying to see if I can do – it will allow me to incorporate my daily meditation when I am walking and as a bonus, help me alleviate the boredom that sometimes comes when you walk alone.

So what is walking meditation? It is simply meditation in action. It is being aware of yourself as you walk. Actually, when I read about it, I realised I was already practising it all along. So for those who want to do walking meditation, here’s how you do it.

Find a space where you can comfortably walk. This space can be either indoors or outdoors. Start at one point and before you start, anchor yourself. This means you take a deep breath and focus on your body. Feel the ground beneath your feet and feel it. Become aware of the different sensations and feelings in your body and also take note of your thoughts and feelings at that point.

Start by walking slower than usual with a relaxed and natural gait. Be mindful of every step you take and when you reach the end of the path, pause for a second to centre yourself before you start walking back. Increase your pace after a couple of rounds to a pace that you are comfortable with. Keep your mind focussed on your feet and the steps they take. As with the traditional meditation, when you feel your mind wandering (as it definitely will), gently guide it back. Walk for around ten to twenty minutes before you stop. When you are ready to end the session, pause for a moment and become aware of the world with a show of thanks ending the session.

As you become more adept at walking meditation, you can then start to utilise your senses to the world around you, especially if you are doing this outdoors. See, sense and feel the world, the wind, the air, the colours and smells around you as you become aware of what is around you.

I really see myself doing a fair bit of walking meditation now. What about you? For those on the fence, is meditation something you plan to take up soon? I have written about meditation earlier. You can read my previous articles here and here. Hopefully, this will allow me to come back and report that my meditation practice is going great guns!

In My Hands Today…

The Wangs vs. the World – Jade Chang

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Charles Wang is mad at America. A brash, lovable immigrant businessman who built a cosmetics empire and made a fortune, he’s just been ruined by the financial crisis. Now all Charles wants is to get his kids safely stowed away so that he can go to China and attempt to reclaim his family’s ancestral lands—and his pride.

Charles pulls Andrew, his aspiring comedian son, and Grace, his style-obsessed daughter, out of schools he can no longer afford. Together with their stepmother, Barbra, they embark on a cross-country road trip from their foreclosed Bel-Air home to the upstate New York hideout of the eldest daughter, disgraced art world it-girl Saina. But with his son waylaid by a temptress in New Orleans, his wife ready to defect for a set of 1,000-thread-count sheets, and an epic smash-up in North Carolina, Charles may have to choose between the old world and the new, between keeping his family intact and finally fulfilling his dream of starting anew in China.

2019 Week 4 Weekly Update

This was a bit of a busy week for me and I was actually surprised when Friday came around.

I went for an interview this week after a fairly long time, as it turns out. Actually I was sure I would not go to this interview. What happened was someone from this organisation called me last week and asked me if I was free this week for the interview. Normally, a call is always followed up with an email confirming the interview and the details. But the email never came until a day before the supposed interview date and after I had given up on this organisation for being rude and disrespectful of me and my time. When the email came, I was surprised that the employee handbook and a detailed job description (along with targets and KPI) were sent. This intrigued me enough to actually go for the interview. As of now, I am still undecided if this is the right fit for me, but I have decided to keep an open mind for now. They are seeing others, obviously and will let me know if I have to go down for a second round. The interviewers were also interested in the fact that I blog and wanted me to send them links to this space. I declined since I blog anonymously and don’t want my privacy shot. The price I pay for privacy! Should I privatise these updates posts and share the rest with people? I am still on the fence on this.

On other sad news, last Friday, I heard of the demise of one of my managers. I have now known him for more than a decade and he was too young to go, he was in his mid fifties only! I learned that he had been sick for a while now and was hospitalised in a bigger city around 170 km from his hometown. He died fifteen minutes after he was sent by ambulance to his home surrounded by his wife, children, parents and siblings due to multiple organ failure. He was a good human being and a boss who cared for his subordinates so I was quite upset when I heard the news on social media. May his soul Rest In Peace.

We will enter February later this week and I can’t help but want this year to go slow. We have the GCSE exams at the end of the year and I am just not ready for it.

On that note, have a great and productive week folks!

2019 Secondary 4 Week 4 Update

We are in the last week of January and I can’t believe that one month is over.

The children are busy with school and their schedules have been quite tight these days. They hardly have time to even go for tuitions and I’ve been quite busy trying to reschedule timings.

We also went to GG’s school for a parents night and I was quite surprised to not see enough sec 4/5 parents around. After all, this is one of the most important years for their children. I didn’t really learn more at the session, but it was good to see the principal and vice principal who are both new to the school.

The school also has been pushing the direct admission scheme to the polys and junior colleges, and while I am happy that the school is doing this, I feel this will increase competition to the courses that BB & GG are applying to.

The week after is the Chinese New Year and will be a short work and school week for everyone. I am for one, looking forward to the CNY break.

Have a wonderful Sunday folks!

In My Hands Today…

The Alchemist’s Secret – Scott Mariani

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Ben Hope is a former elite SAS soldier tortured by a tragedy from his past, who now devotes his life to rescuing kidnapped children.

But when Ben is recruited to locate an ancient manuscript which could save a dying child, he embarks on the deadliest quest of his life.

The document is alleged to contain the formula for the elixir of life, discovered by the brilliant alchemist Fulcanelli decades before. But it soon becomes apparent that others are hunting this most precious of treasures – for far more evil ends. It seems that everyone – from the Nazis of the past to the shadowy modern organisation known as Gladius Domini – wants to uncover the secrets of immortality.

Teaming up with attractive American scientist Dr Roberta Ryder, Ben is led on a wild and dangerous trail from Paris to the ancient Cathar strongholds of the Languedoc, where an astonishing secret has lain hidden for centuries…