Recipes: Kottu Rasam

Rasam is a favourite with BB & GG and they are happy to have it for every meal. But I don’t make it that often. Having said that, I had not made this Rasam as yet for the children. When I did make it, it was a huge hit. It does not take a long time to make and can be eaten with rice or as a soup. In my home, kottu Rasam is prepared for those who are not well. It is prepared without using dal and is lightly tempered.

Kottu Rasam

Ingredients:

  • 2 large tomatoes
  • 1 tsp ghee
  • ½ tsp mustard seeds
  • ½ tsp cumin seeds
  • 5-6 curry leaves
  • 1 tsp crushed ginger and green chilli paste
  • 1 small lemon-sized ball of tamarind
  • 1.5 tsp rasam powder
  • 1 tsp jaggery powder
  • Salt to taste
  • Finely chopped coriander leaves to garnish

Method:

  • Soak the tamarind in hot water for about 30 minutes. Then crush the tamarind pulp and drain, keeping the tamarind water aside.
  • Either finely chop the tomatoes or use a food processor and crush the tomatoes into fine pieces.
  • In a pan, heat the ghee and when it warms, add the mustard and cumin seeds and let them pop. Then add the crushed ginger and green chillis and stir for a couple of seconds.
  • Now, add the tomatoes, sprinkle some salt and let the tomatoes cook for about five minutes.
  • At this point, add the tamarind water, rasam powder, jaggery powder and any additional salt, if needed.
  • Let this cook for about 5-7 minutes, then switch off the flame. Garnish with finely chopped coriander leaves and serve hot.

Notes:

  • This is great as an accompaniment to rice or as a soup.
  • Instead of crushing the tomatoes, you could also use tomato puree for a more soup-like experience.
  • Tamarind paste or lemon juice could be substituted for tamarind water.

In My Hands Today…

Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-and What We Can Do About It – Jennifer Breheny Wallace

In the ever more competitive race to secure the best possible future, today’s students face unprecedented pressure to succeed. They jam-pack their schedules with AP classes, fill every waking hour with resume-padding activities, and even sabotage relationships with friends to “get ahead.” Family incomes and schedules are stretched to the breaking point by tutoring fees and athletic schedules. Yet this drive to optimize performance has only resulted in skyrocketing rates of anxiety, depression, and even self-harm in America’s highest achieving schools. Parents, educators, and community leaders are facing the same how can we teach our kids to strive towards excellence without crushing them?

In Never Enough, award-winning reporter Jennifer Breheny Wallace investigates the deep roots of toxic achievement culture, and finds out what we must do to fight back. Drawing on interviews with families, educators, and an original survey of nearly 6,000 parents, she exposes how the pressure to perform is not a matter of parental choice but baked in to our larger society and spurred by increasing income inequality and dwindling opportunities. As a result, children are increasingly absorbing the message that they have no value outside of their accomplishments, a message that is reinforced by the media and greater culture at large.

Through deep research and interviews with today’s leading child psychologists, Wallace shows what kids need from the adults in the room is not more pressure, but to feel like they matter , and have intrinsic self-worth not contingent upon external achievements. Parents and educators who adopt the language and values of mattering help children see themselves as a valuable contributor to a larger community. And in an ironic twist, kids who receive consistent feedback that they matter no matter what are more likely to have the resilience, self-confidence, and psychological security to thrive.

Packed with memorable stories and offering a powerful toolkit for positive change, Never Enough offers an urgent, humane view of the crisis plaguing today’s teens and a practical framework for how to help.

Adulting 101: Financial Literacy

As GG & BB turn 21 later this year (where did all the time go?), I decided to start a new series aimed at young adults. This series will have articles on what adulting is all about. So what is adulting? Adulting is simply doing things that an adult does – work, make and save money, buy or rent a home, etc. Today’s topic, the first in the series, will talk about a very important, perhaps the most important, aspect of adulting – financial literacy.

Being financially literate means having the knowledge and skills to make informed decisions about managing money effectively. This critical life skill empowers one to achieve their financial goals, build wealth, and secure their future.

What is financial literacy? Financial literacy encompasses understanding concepts like budgeting, saving, investing, credit, debt management, and risk protection through insurance. It involves being able to read and analyse financial statements, calculate interest rates, and comprehend the time value of money. Ultimately, financial literacy equips one with the ability to make sound financial choices that align with their short-term and long-term objectives.

Developing financial literacy early in one’s career is crucial for several reasons. Understanding credit, interest rates, and the consequences of overspending can help one steer clear of accumulating unmanageable debt, which can hinder their financial progress. Unexpected expenses like medical bills or job loss can derail finances. Financial literacy teaches the importance of setting aside funds for emergencies and providing a safety net. Whether it’s buying a home, funding retirement, or achieving other financial milestones, financial literacy empowers an individual to make informed decisions about saving and investing for their future goals. Lastly, being financially literate means understanding the role of insurance in protecting assets and income from potential risks, such as accidents, illness, or natural disasters.

One of the fundamental principles of financial literacy is the importance of saving. Developing the habit of saving early can have a profound impact on long-term financial well-being. Here are some reasons why saving should be a priority:

  1. Emergency fund: as mentioned earlier, an emergency fund can provide a financial cushion during unexpected events, preventing one from going into debt or depleting their long-term savings.
  • Retirement planning: compound interest is a powerful force that can help retirement savings grow exponentially over time. Starting to save for retirement early, even with small amounts, can make a significant difference in future financial security.
  • Achieving financial goals: Whether it’s buying a house, starting a business, or taking a dream vacation, saving consistently can help one achieve their financial goals more quickly.

Here are some tips for starting on a financial literacy journey:

  1. Create a budget to track income and expenses to understand where the money is going. Budgeting is the foundation of effective money management.
  • Build an emergency fund and aim to save at least three to six months’ worth of living expenses for unexpected emergencies.
  • Educate oneself by reading books, attending workshops, or taking online courses to improve one’s financial knowledge. Understanding concepts like compound interest, credit scores, and investment strategies can empower one to make better financial decisions.
  • Automate savings by setting up automatic transfers from salary and other commonly used accounts to a dedicated savings account, making saving a habit and reducing the temptation to spend.
  • Seeking professional advice by working with a financial advisor, especially for more complex financial matters like retirement planning or investment strategies. One should look for fee-only advisors who act as fiduciaries, putting one’s interests first.
  • Once an emergency fund has been established and high-interest debts have been paid off, one should consider investing in diversified portfolios like mutual funds or exchange-traded funds (ETFs) to build long-term wealth.

The key things to focus on in building emergency funds are setting realistic goals, making saving automatic and consistent, cutting expenses where possible, and taking advantage of opportunities to direct extra money towards the emergency fund. Building the habit and making it a priority from a young age will pay off tremendously. To build an emergency fund, here are some effective ways to start:

  1. Start small and set achievable goals: Begin by saving the first $1,000 (or an equivalent amount in your currency) as an initial emergency fund target. Set small, realistic goals like saving $20-$100 per month until that first $1,000 is reached. Having an achievable initial goal will help one stay motivated and build the habit of saving.
  • Set up automatic transfers: Automate savings by setting up recurring transfers from the main account to a dedicated high-yield savings account for the emergency fund. Treat these automatic transfers like a recurring bill that gets paid first before other expenses. Automating the process makes it easier to save consistently without having to think about it.
  • Cut back on unnecessary expenses: Identify and reduce discretionary spending on things like eating out, entertainment, subscriptions, etc. Cook at home, find free/low-cost hobbies, and cancel unused memberships. Redirect the money saved from cutting expenses into the emergency fund.
  • Use windfalls and pay raises: When one receives tax refunds, bonuses, gifted money or pay raises, allocate a portion towards the emergency fund. Don’t treat windfalls as extra spending money; instead, prioritise saving some of it.

Developing financial literacy is an ongoing journey, but the sooner you start, the better prepared you’ll be to navigate the financial challenges and opportunities that lie ahead. Embrace financial education, cultivate healthy money habits, and take control of your financial future from the very beginning of your career.

2024 Week 26 Update

Where did the first half of 2024 go? It seemed like the year just began and in the blink of an eye, we were staring at the second half of the year. I hope the second half of the year is better than the first half for all of us.

Today’s quote emphasises the importance of finding joy and fulfilment in the process rather than just focusing on the end goal. The quote suggests that the experiences, efforts, and moments along the way are as important as the outcome. Enjoying the journey means appreciating the learning, growth, and small successes that occur along the path to your destination. It implies that if one is unhappy or dissatisfied during the process of achieving a goal, simply reaching the goal may not bring the happiness or satisfaction one expects. True fulfilment comes from finding joy in the everyday actions and challenges that lead one to their ultimate aim. The quote encourages living in the moment and being present, finding pleasure and meaning in the current steps one is taking rather than postponing happiness until one reaches a specific milestone. By emphasising the importance of enjoying the journey, this quote encourages a more holistic and fulfilling approach to pursuing goals and dreams.

After a long time, I attended a wedding of some extended family in Singapore and it was nice to dress up and meet family and friends whom we had not seen in a while. It was nice, but my social battery was depleted by the time I was back home!

That’s all this week. Stay positive and keep smiling 😊

In My Hands Today…

The Gran Tour: Travels with my Elders – Ben Aitken

When Ben Aitken- a millennial Bill Bryson- learnt that his gran had enjoyed a four-night holiday including four three-course dinners, four cooked breakfasts, four games of bingo, a pair of excursions, sixteen pints of lager and luxury return coach travel, all for a hundred pounds, he thought, that’s the life, and signed himself up.

Six times over. Good value aside, what Ben was really after was the company of his elders – those with more chapters under their belt, with the wisdom granted by experience, the candour gifted by time, and the hard-earned ability to live each day like it’s nearly their last.

A series of coach holidays ensued – from Scarborough to St Ives, Killarney to Lake Como – during which Ben attempts to shake off his thirty-something blues by getting old as soon as possible.