Life Lessons I Wish I Knew When I was Younger

As someone who has recently completed five decades, I have been thinking a lot about what I have and have not achieved in life. There’s a lot I wanted to do but for some reason, did not. So, there’s a lot I want to accomplish in the next few decades.

Plus, it’s the end of the year and this is a time of contemplation and retrospection so I thought I would post about this topic so others can learn from my life. So here are twelve pieces of life advice I would give my younger self.

Don’t take yourself too seriously. Life can be tough, but it’s important to remember to have fun and not take yourself too seriously. When you learn to laugh at yourself, you’ll find that life becomes a lot more enjoyable. You’ll also find that people are more drawn to you when you have a good sense of humour and don’t take yourself too seriously. So, the next time you make a mistake or do something silly, don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, laugh it off and move on.

Embrace your uniqueness. Everyone has quirks, and that’s what makes us unique. Instead of trying to hide them, embrace them! You’ll find that people will appreciate you more for being yourself. Don’t seek to blend in; celebrate what sets you apart. Your quirks and idiosyncrasies are what make you, well, you, stand out from the crowd, and they’re what make you interesting. In a world that often encourages conformity, it’s the outliers who bring innovation and fresh perspectives. Be confident in your individuality.

Travel as much as you can. Traveling is one of the best ways to broaden your horizons and learn about different cultures. It can also help you gain a new perspective on life and appreciate what you have. When you travel, you’ll learn about different customs, foods, and ways of life. You’ll also meet new people and make new friends. So, whether you’re travelling to a new country or just exploring a new part of your city, make sure to take advantage of every opportunity to travel.

Don’t be afraid to fail. Failure is a natural part of life, and it’s important to learn from your mistakes. Failure is not the end; it’s a stepping stone on the path to growth and achievement. Every setback carries lessons that will serve you in the future. It’s not about how many times you fall; it’s about how many times you rise. When you’re not afraid to fail, you’ll find that you’re more willing to take risks and try new things. You’ll also learn more from your failures than from your successes. So, the next time you’re faced with a challenge, don’t be afraid to take a risk. Even if you fail, you’ll learn something valuable that will help you in the future.

Be kind. The world can be a challenging place, and it’s easy to become jaded. But always remember the power of kindness. Be kind to others, and equally important, be kind to yourself. It’s easy to be hard on yourself, but it’s important to remember to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you would offer to a friend. When you’re kind to yourself, you’ll find that you’re happier and more confident. So, whether you’re dealing with a difficult situation or just having a bad day, remember to be kind to yourself.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own journey in life, and it’s important to remember that you’re on your path. Comparing yourself to others will only lead to disappointment and frustration. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your progress and growth. You’ll find that you’re much happier and more fulfilled when you’re not constantly comparing yourself to others.

Cherish your health. Your health is your most valuable asset and your body is your lifelong companion, so treat it with the respect it deserves. Make sure to eat well, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. When you take care of your body, you’ll find that you have more energy and feel better overall. You’ll also be less likely to get sick or develop health problems in the future. Health is a treasure too often appreciated only in its absence.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Don’t be afraid to reach out to others when you need support or guidance. Whether you’re dealing with a personal problem or a work-related issue, there’s no shame in asking for help. You’ll find that people are often more than willing to lend a helping hand.

Be open to new experiences and remain curious. Life is full of surprises, and it’s important to be open to new experiences. When you step outside of your comfort zone, you’ll find that you grow and learn more than you ever thought possible. Whether you’re trying a new food or learning a new skill, be open to new experiences and opportunities. Never let your curiosity wane. It’s the engine that drives personal and intellectual growth. Ask questions, seek answers, and remain inquisitive.

Cherish your relationships. Your relationships with family and friends are some of the most important things in life. Material possessions, though enticing, pale in comparison to the richness of meaningful relationships. Make sure to cherish them and make time for the people who matter most to you. Whether you’re spending time with your parents or catching up with an old friend, make sure to prioritize your relationships. Cultivate empathy and be there for those who matter most to you and life becomes so much richer and more fulfilling.

Be resilient. You are stronger than you realise. Resilience is a remarkable human trait and in moments of hardship and adversity, you realise that every challenge is an opportunity to learn, adapt, and grow. In the face of adversity, you will discover your inner strength and emerge wiser and more resilient.

Keep learning: Education is not confined to the walls of a classroom. Commit to a lifetime of learning and personal growth. Even in failure, there is a lesson to be learned. Seek knowledge, explore new interests, and challenge your preconceptions. The more you learn, the more you realize how little you know. Embrace this journey of intellectual discovery.

Wisdom comes as you grow older and learn life’s lessons. The younger me would have perhaps dismissed these lessons had they come from someone else, and I guess that’s the thinking of a younger brain. But hopefully, those who read this post will learn from my life and won’t make the same mistakes. Every life experience, good or bad, happy or challenging, contributes to us as individuals. Each step, each choice, and each lesson are part of the incredible mosaic that is your story. Embrace it, learn from it, and treasure every moment, for they are the chapters of the remarkable book of your life.

2023 Week 49 Update

Today’s quote is a Chinese proverb that underscores the importance of maintaining hope, aspirations, and a sense of purpose in life. This quote tells us that dreams are symbolic of one’s hopes, goals, and aspirations. They represent the things we strive for and the visions we have for our lives. Using the metaphor of a bird with broken wings suggests a state of incapacity or limitation. Without dreams, life may lack direction, purpose, and the motivation to soar to greater heights. The quote encourages individuals to cherish and pursue their dreams, recognising them as essential components of a fulfilling and meaningful life. Dreams provide motivation, and the pursuit of those dreams can instill resilience in the face of challenges. They serve as guiding lights during difficult times. In essence, this proverb conveys the idea that dreams are not only sources of inspiration but also crucial for personal growth and well-being. It emphasizes the transformative power of having a vision and the potential for a less fulfilling life without the pursuit of one’s aspirations.

As the year winds down, I am introspecting a lot more these days. I guess it’s a combination of the winding down of a year and the beginning of a new year, which is like starting anew. This is something many do, as it is an opportunity to learn from experiences, understand one’s thoughts and feelings, and make resolutions or set goals for the new year.

That’s all from me this week. I have things I want to share, but because things are still in flux and not firmed up, I can’t share them yet, but hopefully soon. Stay safe and stay positive!

In My Hands Today…

Rumours of Spring: A Girlhood in Kashmir – Farah Bashir

Rumours of Spring is the unforgettable account of Farah Bashir’s adolescence spent in Srinagar in the 1990s. As Indian troops and militants battle across the cityscape and violence becomes the new normal, a young schoolgirl finds that ordinary tasks—studying for exams, walking to the bus stop, combing her hair, falling asleep—are riddled with anxiety and fear.

With haunting simplicity, Farah Bashir captures moments of vitality and resilience from her girlhood amidst the increasing trauma and turmoil of passing years—secretly dancing to pop songs on banned radio stations; writing her first love letter; going to the cinema for the first time—with haunting simplicity. This deeply affecting coming-of-age memoir portrays how territorial conflict surreptitiously affects everyday lives in Kashmir.

Travel Bucket List: Malaysia Part 23 – Perak Part 1

Located on Malaysia’s west coast, the state of Perak borders Kedah to the north, Penang to the northwest, Kelantan and Pahang to the east, and Selangor to the south. Thailand’s Yala and Narathiwat provinces both lie to the northeast. Perak’s capital city, Ipoh, was known historically for its tin-mining activities until the price of the metal dropped, severely affecting the state’s economy. The royal capital remains Kuala Kangsar, where the palace of the Sultan of Perak is located. The state has diverse tropical rainforests and an equatorial climate with the state’s mountain ranges belonging to the Titiwangsa Mountains, part of the larger Tenasserim Hills system that connects Myanmar, Thailand and Malaysia.

The discovery of an ancient skeleton in Perak supplied missing information on the migration of Homo sapiens from mainland Asia through Southeast Asia to the Australian continent. Known as Perak Man, the skeleton is dated at around 10,000 years old. An early Hindu or Buddhist kingdom, followed by several other minor kingdoms, existed before the arrival of Islam. By 1528, a Muslim sultanate began to emerge in Perak, out of the remnants of the Malaccan Sultanate. Although able to resist Siamese occupation for more than two hundred years, the Sultanate was partly controlled by the Sumatra-based Aceh Sultanate. With the arrival of the Dutch East India Company (VOC), and the VOC’s increasing conflicts with Aceh, Perak began to distance itself from Acehnese control. The presence of the English East India Company (EIC) in the nearby Straits Settlements of Penang provided additional protection for the state, with further Siamese attempts to conquer Perak thwarted by British expeditionary forces.

The Anglo-Dutch Treaty of 1824 was signed to prevent further conflict between the British and the Dutch which enabled the British to expand their control in the Malay Peninsula without interference from other foreign powers. The 1874 Pangkor Treaty provided for direct British intervention, with Perak appointing a British Resident. Following Perak’s subsequent absorption into the Federated Malay States (FMS), the British reformed administration of the sultanate through a new style of government, actively promoting a market-driven economy and maintaining law and order while combatting the slavery widely practised across Perak at the time.

The three-year Japanese occupation in World War II halted further progress. After the war, Perak became part of the temporary Malayan Union, before being absorbed into the Federation of Malaya. It gained full independence through the Federation, which subsequently became Malaysia on 16 September 1963.

Perak is ethnically, culturally, and linguistically diverse. The state is known for several traditional dances, including bubu, dabus, and labu sayong, the latter name also referring to Perak’s unique traditional pottery. The head of state is the Sultan of Perak, and the head of government is the Menteri Besar. Islam is the state religion, and Malay and English are recognised as the official languages of Perak. Perak’s economy is mainly based on services and manufacturing.

There are many theories about the origin of the name Perak. The most popular theory is silver, which is what Perak means in Malay and is associated with tin mining from the state’s large mineral deposits, reflecting Perak’s position as one of the world’s largest sources of tin. Some local historians have suggested that Perak was named after Malacca’s bendahara, Tun Perak. Other historians believe that the name Perak derives from the Malay phrase kilatan ikan dalam air or the glimmer of fish in water, which looks like silver. Perak has been translated into Arabic as Dār al-Riḍwān, or the abode of grace.

Bukit Bunuh and Kota Tampan are ancient lakeside sites, with the geology of Bukit Bunuh showing evidence of a meteoric impact. The 10,000-year-old skeleton known as Perak Man was found inside the Bukit Gunung Runtuh cave at Bukit Kepala Gajah. Ancient tools discovered in the area of Kota Tampan, including anvils, cores, debitage, and hammerstones, provide information on the migrations of Homo sapiens.

In 1959, a British artillery officer stationed at an inland army base during the Malayan Emergency discovered the Tambun rock art, identified by archaeologists as the largest rock art site in the Malay Peninsula. Most of the paintings are located high above the cave floor, at an elevation of 6–10 metres. Seashells and coral fragments scattered along the cave floor are evidence that the area was once underwater.

The significant numbers of statues of Hindu deities and of the Buddha found in Bidor, Kuala Selensing, Jalong, and Pengkalan Pegoh indicate that, before the arrival of Islam, the inhabitants of Perak were mainly Hindu or Buddhist. The influence of Indian culture and beliefs on society and values in the Malay Peninsula from early times is believed to have culminated in the semi-legendary Gangga Negara kingdom, which, according to the Malay Annals, fell under Siamese rule once upon a time before Raja Suran of Thailand sailed further south down the Malay Peninsula.

By the 15th century, a kingdom named Beruas had come into existence. Inscriptions found on early tombstones of the period show a clear Islamic influence, believed to have originated from the Sultanate of Malacca, the east coast of the Malay Peninsula, and the rural areas of the Perak River. With the spread of Islam, a sultanate subsequently emerged in Perak; the second-oldest Muslim kingdom in the Malay Peninsula after the neighbouring Kedah Sultanate. The Perak Sultanate was formed in the early 16th century on the banks of the Perak River by the eldest son of Mahmud Shah, the 8th Sultan of Malacca, who ascended to the throne as Muzaffar Shah I, the first sultan of Perak, after surviving the capture of Malacca by the Portuguese in 1511 and living quietly for a period in Siak on the island of Sumatra. Perak’s administration became more organised after the Sultanate was established. With the opening of Perak in the 16th century, the state became a source of tin ore and anyone was free to trade in the commodity, although the tin trade did not attract significant attention until the 1610s.

Throughout the 1570s, the Sultanate of Aceh subjected most parts of the Malay Peninsula to continual harassment. Sultan Mansur Shah I’s eldest son, Raja Alauddin Mansur Syah, married an Acehnese princess and subsequently became Sultan of Aceh. The Sultanate of Perak was left without a ruling monarch, and Perak nobles journeyed to Aceh in the same year to ask the new Sultan Alauddin for a successor, who sent his younger brother to become Perak’s third monarch. Sultan Ahmad Tajuddin Shah ruled Perak for seven years, maintaining the unbroken lineage of the Malacca dynasty. Although Perak did fall under the authority of the Acehnese Sultanate, it remained entirely independent of Siamese control for over two hundred years, from 1612. In 1620, the Acehnese sultanate invaded Perak and captured its sultan. After Sultan Sallehuddin Riayat Shah died without an heir in 1635, Aceh’s Sultan Iskandar Thani sent his relative, Raja Sulong, to become the new Perak Sultan Muzaffar Shah II. Aceh’s influence on Perak began to wane when the Dutch East India Company (VOC) arrived in the mid-17th century.

When Perak refused to enter into a contract with the VOC as its northern neighbours had done, a blockade of the Perak River halted the tin trade, causing suffering among Aceh’s merchants. In 1650, Aceh’s Sultana Taj ul-Alam ordered Perak to sign an agreement with the VOC, on condition that the tin trade would be conducted exclusively with Aceh’s merchants. By the following year, 1651, the VOC had secured a monopoly over the tin trade, setting up a store in Perak. Following long competition between Aceh and the VOC over Perak’s tin trade, on 15 December 1653, the two parties jointly signed a treaty with Perak granting the Dutch exclusive rights to tin extracted from mines located in the state.

The early 18th century started with 40 years of civil war where rival princes were bolstered by local chiefs, the Bugis and the Minang, all fighting for a share of tin revenues. The Bugis and several Perak chiefs were successful in ousting the Perak ruler, Sultan Muzaffar Riayat Shah III in 1743. The mid-18th century saw the rule of Sultan Muzaffar ruling inland Perak while the coastal region was ruled by Raja Iskandar, animosity grew between the two as Raja Iskandar was unable to reach the tin-bearing highlands while the sultan had restricted access to the strait. Reconciliation occurred later with Iskandar’s marriage to the sultan’s daughter. His accession in 1752 saw unprecedented peace in Perak, especially due to an alliance, which lasted until 1795 with the Dutch to protect Perak against external attacks. When repeated Burmese invasions resulted in the destruction and defeat of the Siamese Ayutthaya Kingdom in 1767 by the Burmese Konbaung dynasty, neighbouring Malay tributary states began to assert their independence from Siam. To further develop Perak’s tin mines, the Dutch administration suggested that its 17th Sultan, Alauddin Mansur Shah Iskandar Muda, should allow in Chinese miners.

The Fourth Anglo-Dutch War in 1780 adversely affected the tin trade in Perak, and many Chinese miners left. In a move which angered the Siamese court, neighbouring Kedah’s Sultan Abdullah Mukarram Shah then entered into an agreement with the English East India Company, ceding Penang Island to the British in 1786 in exchange for protection.

In 1818, the Dutch monopoly over the tin trade in Perak was renewed, with the signing of a new recognition treaty. The same year, when Perak refused to send a bunga mas tribute to the Siamese court, Rama II of Siam forced Kedah to attack Perak. Siam’s tributary Malay state, the Kingdom of Reman, then illegally operated tin mines in Klian Intan, angering the Sultan of Perak and provoking a dispute that escalated into civil war. Reman, aided by Siam, succeeded in controlling several inland districts. In 1821, Siam invaded and conquered the Sultanate of Kedah, angered by a breach of trust. Siam’s subsequent plan to extend its conquests to the southern territory of Perak[40][65][68] failed after Perak defeated the Siamese forces with the aid of mixed Bugis and Malay reinforcements from the Sultanate of Selangor. As an expression of gratitude to Selangor, Perak authorised Raja Hasan of Selangor to collect taxes and revenue in its territory. This power, however, was soon misused, causing conflict between the two sultanates.

In 1823, the Sultanates of Perak and Selangor signed a joint agreement to block the Dutch tin monopoly in their territories and the EIC policy shifted with the First Anglo-Burmese War in 1824, Siam then becoming an important ally.

In 1873, the ruler of one of Perak’s two local Malay factions, Raja Abdullah Muhammad Shah II, wrote to the Governor of the British Straits Settlements, Andrew Clarke, requesting British assistance, resulting in the Treaty of Pangkor, signed on Pangkor Island on 20 January 1874, under which the British recognised Abdullah as the legitimate Sultan of Perak. In return, the treaty provided for direct British intervention through the appointment of a Resident who would advise the sultan on all matters except religion and customs, and oversee revenue collection and general administration, including maintenance of peace and order. The treaty marked the introduction of a British residential system, with Perak going on to become part of the Federated Malay States (FMS) in 1895.

Under the Anglo-Siamese Treaty, Siam ceded to Great Britain its northern Malay tributary states of Kedah, Kelantan, Perlis, and Terengganu and nearby islands. Exceptions were the Patani region, which remained under Siamese rule, and Perak, which regained the previously lost inland territory that became the Hulu Perak District.
During World War II, the Japanese occupied all of Malaya and Singapore. Under a reform plan proposed by Tokugawa Yoshichika, the five kingdoms of Johor, Terengganu, Kelantan, Kedah-Penang, and Perlis would be restored and federated. Johor would control Perak, Selangor, Negeri Sembilan, and Malacca. An 800-square-mile area in southern Johor would be incorporated into Singapore for defence purposes.

In 1943 the Empire of Japan restored to Thailand the former Malay tributary states of Kedah, Kelantan, Perlis, and Terengganu, which had been ceded by the then-named Siam to the British under the 1909 treaty. The indigenous Orang Asli stayed in the interior during the occupation. Much of their community was befriended by Malayan Communist Party guerrillas, who protected them from outsiders in return for information on the Japanese and their food supplies. Strong resistance came mainly from the ethnic Chinese community, some Malays preferring to collaborate with the Japanese through the Kesatuan Melayu Muda (KMM) movement for Malayan independence.

In 1961, the Prime Minister of the Federation of Malaya, Tunku Abdul Rahman, sought to unite Malaya with the British colonies of North Borneo, Sarawak, and Singapore. Despite opposition from the governments of both Indonesia and the Philippines, the Federation came into being on 16 September 1963. With the end of British rule in Malaya and the subsequent formation of the Federation of Malaysia, new factories were built and many new suburbs developed in Perak.

Perak is the second largest Malaysian state on the Malay Peninsula, and the fourth largest in Malaysia. Mangrove forests grow along most of Perak’s coast, except for Pangkor Island, with its rich flora and fauna, where several of the country’s forest reserves are located. Perak’s geology is characterised by eruptive masses, which form its hills and mountain ranges. The state is divided by three mountain chains into the three plains of Kinta, Larut and Perak, running parallel to the coast. An extensive network of rivers originates from the inland mountain ranges and hills. The jungles of Perak are highly biodiverse.

The tertiary sector is Perak’s main economic sector. In 2018, the state was the second most popular destination for domestic tourists in Malaysia, after the state of Pahang. The state also contains several natural attractions, including bird sanctuaries, caves, forest reserves, islands, limestone cliffs, mountains, and white sandy beaches.

In the next part, let’s learn more about Perak’s capital, Ipoh.

In My Hands Today…

my Hanuman Chalisa – Devdutt Pattanaik

Reflecting on one of Hinduism’s most popular prayer for positive energy
Acclaimed mythologist Devdutt Pattanaik demystifies the Hanuman Chalisa for the contemporary reader. His unique approach makes the ancient hymn accessible, combined as it is with his trademark illustrations.

Every time we experience negativity in the world and within ourselves, every time we encounter jealousy, rage, and frustration manifesting as violation and violence, we hear, or read, the Hanuman Chalisa. Composed over four hundred years ago by Tulsidas, its simple words in Awadhi, a dialect of Hindi, and its simple metre, musically and very potently evoke the mythology, history, and mystery of Hanuman, the much-loved Hindu deity, through whom Vedic wisdom reached the masses. As verse follows verse, our frightened, crumpled mind begins to expand with knowledge and insight, and our faith in humanity, both within and without, is restored.