Memories: Grandmother Tales – 3

Sometime back I received a video on one of my family Whatsapp groups. This was a small documentary about Sanskrit scholars who had settled down in the villages on the banks of the Tamarabarani River in Tirunelveli district in Tamil Nadu a few centuries back. They were fleeing muslim invaders, most likely the Mughals and fled to preserve their culture and way of life. These scholars are today most likely known as the Tamil Brahmins who are my ancestors. When I saw this video, I was instantly taken back to a conversation I had with my paternal grandmother a few weeks before she passed away.

We were travelling back to Bangalore from Sringeri, after a wonderful trip to celebrate my cousin’s thread ceremony and we stopped at a place, whose name escapes me now for a break. That was when she told me, possibly in passing, that her ancestors originally came from either or someplace close to Nagpur in Maharashtra and then moved to someplace in Karnataka, where they settled down for a few centuries before finally moving down south to settle on the banks of the Tamarabarani in Tirunelveli district. So when I saw that video, I immediately thought of my ammama and was very sad that she passed away before I really got to know her as an adult. I did some research on this and this is probably true. I also found writings which said that Tamil brahmins probably came down to the south from either coastal Andhra Pradesh from the Godavari basin or coastal Karnataka. This ties in to what my ammama told me.

I was very close to her and I was her favourite, maybe necause I was her first grandchild and was named after her. I am also told I resemble her a lot, both in looks as well as in temperament and in the way we look at things. I have only seen her in the traditional tambram saree called the Madisar and when I wore one at my wedding, pretty much everyone in the room, including my parents and extended family said they felt I looked like her. She loved reading and was interested in history. I really wish we had some more time with her so I could get to know her as a person, speak with her as an adult and learn more about my family.

Unfortunately, we don’t have any written family history, and those who knew the oral history have passed away. This is a very sad thing and I wish I was interested in this a lot earlier, when I could have perhaps gotten to know my own ancestral history a bit more.

While this is not really memories of my grandmother, when I read about things like this, I remember her a at that point in time and have a happy smile the rest of the day.

2020 Week 29 Update

We’re done with another week of staying home. Sometimes when everyone are trying to work in a single room, it really gets to you as it happened to us this week.

Our air conditioning spoilt sometime in June and when we called the repair guy, we were told to change it, so off we went to the closest retailer and were told we could only get it installed earlier this week. Now, I really want to tell you all that in hot and extremely humid Singapore, air conditioning leans more towards a need rather than a luxury. Till our new airconditioners were installed, I had very bad and broken sleep as I would wake multiple times a night soaked in sweat! But back to our aircon installation. Since they were installing aircons in all our bedrooms, and it was a whole day affair, this ment that all four of us, were plonked in the living room doing our work, which included calls at various points of the day for each of us. This was seriously distracting as we had to be very mindful of making sure we did not walk into each other’s videos or make noise and disturb the others audio feeds. Anyway, all ends well that ends well.

India’s Covid cases continues to soar and each time I see the news, I am worried once again for my parents. With more than 1 million confirmed cases now, the country has the dubious distinction of being the third highest country, after the United States and Brazil. In India, my home state of Maharashtra has the largest number of cases with a mortality rate higher than the national average with less than average daily testing. This is very sad to me, especially when I know that living outside India, at this point, even if there is an emergency, I really don’t know how I can even be there for my parents. My parents and especially my father is also very conscious of this fact and makes sure he is not going outside. His take is that unless there is a vaccine for Covid, he will stay indoors. Both he and my mother have underlying issues, so coming down with the coronavirus can prove fatal to them.

That’s all from us this week folks! Stay safe and mask up as there are reports coming out of those countries which have started to have some sort of normalcy of new cases and spikes. So unless needed, stay indoors where you are much more safer.

2020 Week 28 Update

Yesterday, after more than two decades, I exercised my political right and responsibility and voted in Singapore’s general elections. The results were not too surprising, but this is not a political blog, so I will not go in there. The whole process was quite fast and in my opinion, seamless. We were in and out of the polling centre in less than thirty minutes, including queueing up to enter which took some time as they only allowed a certain number of people inside at a time.

Singapore’s community cases have been increasing with the lifting of the circuit breaker, but I guess this was inevitable. Now we need to see what will happen. With a total of more than 45,000 cases, we don’t seem to see the light of the tunnel anytime soon. India’s cases seems to have surged and the country is now the third most affected country after the United States and Brazil.

Some countries which had successes have reported fresh cases which is cause for concern since they had opened up their economies and does not bode too well for the rest of the world which are considering doing the same.

I have been seriously meditating now for about a hundred days or about as long as since the beginning of the circuit breaker and it is now I really realise the benefits I derive from it. I used to meditate at night, but I started to see the the real benefits when I switched to meditating in the mornings. I like to wake up early, before everyone else and meditate in that silence, mostly in the darkness as well. So if there is anyone who is still on the fence about meditation, please go ahead and give it a try, you will not regret it. S also has started to meditate now, though not as consistent as me. But then it took me a few years of inconsistent meditation to start doing it consistently, so I have hopes for him too.

That’s all from my side this week. Stay home, stay safe and stay masked everyone!

2020 Week 27 Update

R is back in my home after some drama with her ex employer’s agent. It is such a huge relief to have someone help me in my morning and cooking chores. Mornings are much pleasanter and now that GG & BB will start going to school more regularly, it means I would have lost my helpers at home. Actually doing all this work is not really a big deal, what is a big deal is that I usually start work by 8:30 am and have to rush to finish my household chores by then which used to really tire me out. Maybe I am so used to having help that doing things on my own is now slightly hard. It also does not help that I am getting older and am not as agile and have the kind of energy I had in my twenties or even in my early thirties.

Anyway, with COVID positive community cases coming down, things are easing up in Singapore. Even though we have more than 44,000 cases, most of these seem to be from workers with usually single digit community cases on a daily basis. So places like restaurants, cinemas and libraries have started to open up, with strict measures in place.

I had been having some pain and redness in my right eye for a while now and last week, I finally went to see a doctor. Apparently it was some kind of a parasitic infection, but they are still not sure. I have no idea how this came into my system since I have been more or less housebound for the past few months. The doctor who initially checked me thought it may have come from my trip to India in December when we went down south, but I am flabbergasted that it only hit me and that too flared up after almost six months! Anyway, with some treatment, it has been contained to a very large extent, but there is still some trace left and I was told that there will be a permanent scar in my cornea.

Singapore will be having it’s general elections next week and I am super excited that I will be voting for the first time here after becoming a citizen. When I was in India, I used to make sure I voted in each and every election, be it local, state or national because I knew it was my duty as a citizen. So yes, to exercise my constitutional right after a very long time is going to be something special.

That’a all our news for this week folks! Stay home and stay safe and make sure you mask up each time you leave the house.

2020 Week 26 Update

Half the year has gone and it does not feel like it. I guess because most of us are home bound and working or studying from home, it feels like we have not achieved anything, yet half the year is over!

Singapore is now slowly moving on and trying to get back to a new normal. Schools will reopen fully from tomorrow and both BB & GG will start to ease back to going back to school slowly. BB already has started going back to school twice a week for lab and some lessons, but GG has yet to step foot into campus.

In other news, my helper R will be back with us this week. We parted in very good terms and once we were back to normal, she was supposed to come back once a week to meet us on her off day. But she was very uncomfortable at her new employment. She just could not sleep at night and felt something off there. It is not to say she was not treated well, but she was not happy. She called me a couple of times to complain and each time I would counsel her that it is due to a change in the environment and she will adjust gradually. Early in the week, she called me almost in tears and asked me if I can employ her again. I discussed it with S and we felt sorry for her and so we said yes. Then everything happened very fast. One day in the week, she asked me to apply for her permit and it was approved the same day. Her current employer also decided to let her go since she was so uncomfortable and unhappy and long story short, she will come back mid-week.

So that’s our news this week. Stay safe people!