In My Hands Today…

Proto: How One Ancient Language Went Global – Laura Spinney

As the planet emerged from the last ice age, a language was born between Europe and Asia, by the Black Sea. This ancient tongue, which we call Proto-Indo-European, soon exploded out of its cradle, changing and fragmenting as it went, until its offspring were spoken from Scotland to China. Today, those descendants constitute the world’s largest language family, the thread that connects disparate languages, such as Dante’s Inferno and the Rig Veda, to the love poetry of Rumi and The Lord of the Rings. Indo-European languages are spoken by nearly half of the world’s population. How did this happen?

Laura Spinney set out to answer that question, retracing the Indo-European odyssey across continents and millennia. With her we travel the length of the steppe, navigating the Caucasus, the silk roads and the Hindu Kush. We follow in the footsteps of nomads and monks, Amazon warriors and lion kings – the ancient peoples who spread these languages far and wide. In the present, Spinney meets the scientists on a thrilling mission to retrieve those lost the linguists, archaeologists and geneticists who have reconstructed this ancient diaspora. What they have learned has vital implications for our modern world, as people and their languages are on the move again. Proto is a revelatory portrait of world history in its own words.

Beat the Quit: Outsmarting Quitters Day and Winning at Resolutions

Quitters Day, observed on the second Friday of January, has become a cultural milestone that spotlights a common challenge: keeping New Year’s resolutions.

What Is Quitters Day? Quitters Day refers to the day when most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions, typically falling on the second Friday of January. Coined through analysis of data from fitness apps such as Strava, this day marks the point at which enthusiasm for ambitious goals starts to diminish and the realities of daily life set in. While the name may seem tongue-in-cheek, Quitters Day represents a genuine phenomenon rooted in human behaviour and motivation.

The concept of setting goals for the new year dates back roughly 4,000 years to the ancient Babylonians, who made promises to gods at the start of their calendar year (which began in spring, not January). With time, this tradition evolved and became a global practice, with January 1 serving as a symbolic reset for millions.

Quitters Day’s specific origin is data-driven: In 2019, Strava analysed 800 million activities logged by users and found that most give up on their resolutions by the second Friday of January. Recognising a sharp drop-off in goal-oriented activity, Strava dubbed this day “Quitters Day.” Since then, the day has been covered by major media and wellness advocates as an opportunity not to mock, but to encourage reflection, refocusing, and resilience.

Why do we quit? The psychology behind giving up
Most people start the year with ambitious resolutions: lose weight, get fit, save money, or eat healthier, but the drive and novelty quickly dwindle as daily routines and challenges resume. Studies show that up to 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by February, and only about 6% of people persist through the year.

Common psychological barriers include:

  • Overambition: Setting unrealistic or overly broad goals leads to discouragement when progress is slow or setbacks occur.
  • Loss of motivation: The initial excitement wears off after a few weeks, making routines feel burdensome.
  • Lack of social support: Isolation makes it harder to stick to challenging habits, while support systems strengthen accountability.
  • Neglecting process: Focusing solely on outcomes rather than the daily habits that produce results can undermine motivation and adaptability.

Strategies to stay on track
Defeating Quitters Day and making resolutions last throughout the year is possible with intentional preparation, realistic goals, and proactive strategies. Below are proven tips and tricks:

  • Be picky with resolutions: Choose one or two meaningful goals rather than a long list. This prevents overwhelm and sets the stage for success. Being specific with resolutions, such as “go to the gym thrice a week” rather than “get fit,” also helps clarify the path forward.
  • Plan and prepare: Effective planning includes scheduling time for your goal, anticipating possible setbacks, and breaking down your resolution into smaller, actionable steps. For example, if quitting smoking is the target, research average timelines and expected withdrawal symptoms, and get support ready for tough moments.
  • Focus on process, not just outcomes: Success comes from developing daily habits rather than chasing distant results. Emphasise routines and create a supportive environment that fosters your goals: keep healthy snacks handy if you’re seeking to eat better, lay out workout clothes in advance for exercise objectives, and use reminders to keep commitments top-of-mind.
  • Create a supportive social network: Studies highlight that accountability and support strengthen the likelihood of sustaining habits. Join online communities, fitness groups, or simply share your goals with a friend or partner who can encourage and motivate you. Being part of a tribe lightens the emotional load and transforms challenges into collective endeavours.
  • Track progress and celebrate wins: Monitor your efforts and celebrate even the smallest successes. Use journals, apps, or planners to record achievements, reflect on setbacks, and measure growth over time. Small milestones, like completing a workout or resisting a craving, reinforce positive behaviour and keep motivation high.
  • Stay flexible and resilient: Anticipate setbacks and view them as learning opportunities, not failures. Life will disrupt routines and present temptations, but developing strategies for getting back on track is crucial. Recommit to your goal for a day, then a week; incremental recommitments compound into lasting habits.
  • Make goals specific and measurable: Use the SMART framework, which stands for specific, clear, and concrete goals; measurable and trackable outcomes; achievable and realistic expectations; relevant and personally meaningful; and time-bound deadlines or schedules set. Instead of “exercise more,” try “run 2 miles on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for 2 months,” a goal you can monitor and adjust.
  • Keep a written commitment: Write goals down and revisit them regularly. People who articulate their objectives are significantly more likely to achieve them. Posting notes, using digital reminders, or sharing commitments on social media can raise accountability and reinforce intentions.
  • Embrace positive self-talk: Replacing negative inner dialogues (“I’ll never stick with this”) with encouraging ones (“I’ve made it this far; I can continue”) helps maintain persistence. Visualise success, use affirmations, and focus on progress rather than perfection.
  • Return after slipping up: Missed workouts or momentary lapses don’t equal failure. View setbacks as inevitable and temporary. Instead, recommit immediately, focusing on short intervals, day by day or week by week, until momentum returns.

Countless individuals have turned around their Quitters Day experiences by leveraging these strategies. For example, some have found that exercise adherence improves dramatically when joining group classes or training with a partner. Others report that food journaling, regular reflection, and celebrating tiny victories create positive reinforcement loops that sustain motivation long-term.

From quitting to thriving
Quitters Day puts a spotlight on a widespread challenge but also creates opportunities for growth, reflection, and renewed determination. Use Quitters Day as a checkpoint: reassess, adapt your approach, and recommit with fresh energy and smarter tactics.

Success with New Year’s resolutions is not about avoiding setbacks but developing resilience, adaptability, and self-compassion in how goals are pursued. Each stumble can be a step toward long-term change if met with persistence and strategic adjustments.

Actionable Tips
Success with New Year’s resolutions relies on building strong habits and choosing achievable objectives. Start by setting realistic goals, focusing on just one or two key changes rather than tackling an overwhelming list. This approach streamlines attention and energy, making progress more attainable. Planning is pivotal; break goals into smaller, actionable steps and anticipate obstacles, preparing solutions in advance to boost follow-through.

Instead of placing all focus on future outcomes, prioritise the everyday processes that lead to change. Daily routines and thoughtful adjustments become the true drivers of long-term success, while building a supportive network elevates commitment and accountability. Whether teaming up with a friend or joining a group, sharing your goals increases motivation and helps overcome challenges.

Tracking progress and celebrating wins along the way reinforce good habits and maintain inspiration. Even small milestones warrant recognition, fostering positive momentum. By embracing setbacks and remaining flexible, recommitting after slips, individuals cultivate resilience and the capacity for growth. To further enhance commitment, write down goals in visible places and revisit them regularly; this practice helps reinforce intentions and clarifies priorities.

Positive self-talk is another powerful tool. Encouraging affirmations and a constructive mindset shape persistence as obstacles arise. Ultimately, returning to your aim after setbacks and narrowing your focus to short-term intervals helps regain momentum, proving that sustainable improvement is founded on resilience, adaptability, and self-compassion.

If the second Friday in January finds motivation waning and old habits creeping back, remember: Quitters Day isn’t an endpoint, but an invitation to pause, regroup, and press forward. With realistic planning, focus on process, enduring support, and flexibility, every resolution can become a sustainable new reality.

2026 Week 02 Update

It’s the second week of January, and it’s the time when New Year’s resolutions typically start to slacken. So my advice to you all is to stay the course. Try and stay with your resolutions for January, and you’ll soon see it becoming second nature.

Today’s quote by Marie Ray, a writer and poet whose work often explored themes of presence, creativity, and the urgency of living authentically, is a gentle but firm reminder of life’s urgency. It speaks to how easily we postpone the things that matter, convincing ourselves there will be more time later. More clarity. More courage. A better moment. Ray cuts through that illusion. There is no endless runway ahead of us. There is only now. The quote balances beauty with truth. Calling the present moment “sparkling like a star” reminds us how precious and alive it is. At the same time, describing it as “melting like a snowflake” highlights how fleeting it can be. The moment you notice it, it’s already slipping away. This isn’t meant to create panic, but awareness. When you truly grasp how temporary each moment is, procrastination starts to feel costly.

Ray isn’t asking for reckless action or dramatic leaps. She’s pointing toward honest movement. Start where you are. Do the small version of the thing you keep delaying. Write the first paragraph. Make the call. Say the truth. Choose the life-aligned option instead of the safe one. Waiting for certainty often becomes a way of avoiding responsibility for our own happiness. At its core, the quote is about presence and courage. When you act now, you honour both the fragility and the brilliance of being alive. You stop living as though time is guaranteed and start living as though this moment matters. Because it does.

Life is ongoing, and while 2025 did not end the way I hoped it would, 2026 has begun with hope and the promise of a better year. GG has started her internship and is thriving in her chosen field. This is a graduation requirement, but she still has a few courses that she will take this semester. BB is at home, trying to figure out what he wants to do next. He is also applying for university and will get his driver’s license while waiting.

Today’s verse slices straight through comparison culture. The Gita makes it clear: you can win someone else’s race and still lose your life’s meaning. Your dharma isn’t your job title, your résumé, or your social status. It’s your inner compass, your natural blend of talents, tendencies, and temperament. When you imitate someone else’s path because it looks safer, shinier, or socially approved, you lose the steady foundation that comes from authenticity. Imitation always carries anxiety, because you’re operating with borrowed choices.

Following your own path, even clumsily, is the only route to growth that actually transforms you. Imperfection becomes a teacher, not a threat. Fear dissolves because you’re not pretending anymore. This verse is a reminder that your life is not supposed to look like anyone else’s timeline. Your dharma is not mass-produced. It is handcrafted by your story, your struggles, and your strengths. Live it. Even messily, especially messily. That’s where real progress begins.

And in the same vein, the light within you can never be extinguished. This inner source of power guides you through even the darkest moments of your life, allowing you to choose love and trust over fear. On the days you feel lost, remind yourself that this light is your constant source of strength, and nothing can ever take away what lives at your core. You have the power to endure and rise after even the fiercest storms. No setback or obstacle has the power to keep you from what is inherently yours. What belongs to you cannot be lost; it will always come back to you.

With those words, here’s to a beautiful second half of January!

In My Hands Today…

Persians: The Age of the Great Kings – Lloyd Llewellyn-Jones

The Achaemenid Persian kings ruled over the largest empire of antiquity, stretching from Libya to the steppes of Asia and from Ethiopia to Pakistan. From the palace-city of Persepolis, Cyrus the Great, Darius, Xerxes, and their heirs reigned supreme for centuries until the conquests of Alexander of Macedon brought the empire to a swift and unexpected end in the late 330s BCE.

In Persians, historian Lloyd Llewellyn-Jones tells the epic story of this dynasty and the world it ruled. Drawing on Iranian inscriptions, cuneiform tablets, art, and archaeology, he shows how the Achaemenid Persian Empire was the world’s first superpower—one built, despite its imperial ambition, on cooperation and tolerance. This is the definitive history of the Achaemenid dynasty and its legacies in modern-day Iran, a book that completely reshapes our understanding of the ancient world.

Sacred Stones, Spaces, and Stories: Jyotirlingas Part 1

In the vast and intricate tapestry of Indian spirituality, certain symbols resound across centuries, uniting story, devotion, architecture, and memory. Among these, the concept of Jyotirlinga occupies a place of deep reverence. These are not simply temples, not merely shrines, but radiant embodiments of the infinite cosmic light of Lord Shiva, that manifest in forms that bridge the seen and unseen, the earthly and transcendent.

In Sanskrit, Jyoti means “light” and Linga means “mark” or “sign.” Thus, a Jyotirlinga is the “radiant sign of Shiva.” Devotees believe that these shrines are not representations of Shiva crafted by human effort but are rather natural manifestations of his infinite energy, breaking through the earthly veil as columns of light.

There is a famous story in the puranic tradition: once, the gods Vishnu and Brahma debated the supremacy of creation and preservation. To settle their disagreement, Shiva manifested as an endless pillar of light, extending beyond all measure. No beginning, no end, just infinite brilliance. Brahma and Vishnu, even with all their might, failed to find its origin or terminus. That boundless beam is the essence of the Jyotirlinga.

Each Jyotirlinga temple is thus not merely a place of worship but a cosmic reminder that divinity cannot be contained, only glimpsed. While many Shiva temples exist across the subcontinent, thousands upon thousands, the twelve Jyotirlingas are especially sacred, each considered a direct site where Shiva revealed himself as light.

The Shiva Mahapurana recounts that originally Shiva manifested in innumerable Jyotirlingas, but twelve came to hold supreme prominence. These are spread across India, forming not a neat geographical circle but a sacred web binding disparate landscapes into a single spiritual network.

The 12 Jyotirlingas are traditionally named as: Somnath, Mallikarjuna, Mahakaleshwar, Omkareshwar, Kedarnath, Bhimashankar, Vishwanath (Kashi Vishwanath), Trimbakeshwar, Vaidyanath, Nageshwar, Rameshwaram, and Grishneshwar.

Each has its unique legends, but collectively, they narrate a larger cultural truth: the omnipresence of Lord Shiva. From the Himalayan slopes of Kedarnath to the coastal waves of Rameshwaram, from the deserts of Gujarat to the dense temples of Maharashtra, the Jyotirlingas embody the principle that divinity pervades all terrain, all time, all people.

Unlike pilgrimages that cluster around one region, the circuit of Jyotirlingas cuts across the entire Indian subcontinent. This makes them not only holy destinations but also cultural highways through which stories, practices, and communities travelled.

North and South: Kedarnath rises in the snow-clad Himalayas, while Rameshwaram marks the southern reach of the Tamil coast.
East and West: Vaidyanath lies in today’s Jharkhand, while Somnath shines on Gujarat’s western shoreline, carrying centuries of resilience in the face of invasions.
The Central Heartland: Madhya Pradesh hosts temples like Omkareshwar and Mahakaleshwar, where Narmada and timeless cityscapes converge.

In this way, the Jyotirlingas collectively become not just a religious map but also a civilizational geography, showcasing the range of India’s landscapes, heritage, and local traditions. For pilgrims over centuries, undertaking journeys to one, several, or all of the Jyotirlingas was not just about devotion but about experiencing the vastness of their own homeland: mountain, river, plain, forest, desert, and sea, each sanctified by Shiva’s light.

At the heart of every Jyotirlinga is a story. But unlike fixed myths, these narratives exist in multiple versions, layered and adapted across regions. Somnath tells of the moon god’s relief from a curse; Omkareshwar emerges from the tale of divine contest on the Narmada; Kedarnath is linked with the penance of the Pandavas after Kurukshetra; Rameshwaram connects to Rama’s journey before crossing the sea to Lanka. In these stories, we glimpse a pattern: the Jyotirlinga shrines don’t emerge only from abstract theology but are deeply entwined with epic history, cosmic events, and moral lessons. Some legends highlight the consequences of pride, others the power of repentance, still others the compassion of Shiva as healer, protector, or cosmic witness. These stories also underscore a uniquely Indian way of sacralising geography: temples are not arbitrary but spring from mythic episodes rooted in the very soil, waters, or mountain where the shrine arose.

Though united in sanctity, the Jyotirlinga temples are strikingly diverse in architectural style. This diversity mirrors India’s regional creativity with each temple absorbing the styles of dynasties, local artisans, and materials at hand. Somnath rebuilt multiple times, embodies defiance and renewal, its sandstone spire rising against the Arabian Sea. Mahakaleshwar holds its sanctum underground, where rituals unfold in the raw intimacy of stone. Kedarnath, perched high in the Himalayas, stands austere and unyielding amid glacier and storm. Rameshwaram is famed for its magnificent corridors, among the longest in the world, echoing with chant and silence. Grishneshwar, smaller in scale, radiates intimacy with its sculpted beauty.

In each, stone becomes story, architecture becomes theology. Shikhara towers stretch skyward like frozen prayers. Mandapas receive wandering pilgrims. Intricate carvings unfold symbolic worlds: snakes, lotuses, cosmic wheels—all testifying to Shiva’s manifold nature.

The Jyotirlinga temples remain not relics of the past but vibrant centres of living tradition. Daily rituals unfold in sequence: dawn abhisheka with waters, milk, and flowers; chants of Vedic mantras; fragrance of incense; the rhythmic ringing of bells. Pilgrims arrive with hopes, vows, burdens, and gratitude. Water from sacred rivers is poured over the linga. Ashes are smeared on brows. Offerings are carried with devotion in baskets of marigold and bilva leaves. Nights resound with hymns and processions.

Beyond individual worship, festivals magnify the spirit of the Jyotirlingas: Mahashivaratri, in particular, transforms each temple into a vibrant ocean of chanting and fasting devotees, who hold vigil through the night to honour Lord Shiva’s cosmic dance.

The core symbolism of Jyotirlinga worship is profound. Where icons depict form, the Jyotirlinga signifies the formless infinite. The lingam is not an idol in the conventional sense but a symbol, a reminder of the ineffable, suggesting that the divine cannot be confined within anthropomorphic imagery. The idea of Shiva as formless light aligns with deep philosophical currents in Indian thought, especially Advaita philosophy: reality as one without a second, beyond image, beyond time, infinite like light itself. Worship of the Jyotirlinga thus becomes not just an act of bhakti or devotion, but also a gateway into contemplative realisation: the one who bows before the linga is also bowing before the boundless within themselves.

Perhaps one of the most remarkable aspects of the Jyotirlinga temples is their resilience. They have faced invasions, destruction, natural calamities, and yet have been rebuilt time and again, symbolising not just survival but renewal of faith. Somnath, for example, was desecrated multiple times across centuries, yet always rose anew. Kedarnath witnessed devastating floods, but continues to be a magnet of devotion. Rameshwaram has absorbed tidal rhythms of history and faith.

In this resilience lies a lesson: that the sacred, even when broken, is never truly destroyed. Faith finds ways to rebuild, to sing, to remember, to sanctify again. The Jyotirlingas are living examples of this civilisational continuity.

The Jyotirlingas are not only pilgrimage sites but cultural fountains. They have inspired poetry, devotional songs, art, and ritual practices across centuries. Saints and mystics, such as Tulsidas, Adi Shankaracharya, and countless regional poets, have sung of Shiva’s presence in these sacred shrines. Economically, the temples have long sustained communities of artisans, priests, and pilgrims. Socially, they facilitate gatherings that dissolve barriers: rich and poor, scholar and villager, all queue together to pour water over the same linga. They also serve as cultural markers: to say one has walked to Somnath, climbed to Kedarnath, bathed at Rameshwaram, is not only to claim devotional merit but to claim a deeper cultural identity.

In today’s world of fast travel, the Jyotirlinga circuit has taken new shapes. Devotees sometimes attempt to visit all twelve within a single journey, aided by trains, flights, and tour packages. For others, the pilgrimage is spread across a lifetime, an unfolding quest where each temple marks a personal milestone. Yet, even amidst modernity, the essence remains untouched: to travel to a Jyotirlinga is to step outside ordinary routine, to participate in a timeless cycle, to stand beneath stone spires and remember the infinite light.

Finally, the significance of the Jyotirlingas is not limited to geographical shrines. Many teachers remind us that the truest Jyotirlinga resides within, as the spark of consciousness and light at the core of being. The pilgrim’s outer journey, through dust roads and mountain passes, is mirrored by an inward journey, through meditation and realisation. The twelve Jyotirlingas may be seen as stations of the larger inner pilgrimage: toward recognizing the self as shaped by nothing but light, infinite and eternal.

The Jyotirlinga temples are not twelve stones scattered across India. They are twelve flames in a greater fire, twelve windows into infinity, twelve markers reminding us of the endless dance of destruction and renewal that is Shiva himself. To reflect on them is to reflect on a civilisation’s memory, on resilience against time, and on humanity’s longing to touch the infinite. So follow me along, as together we will walk more slowly into each temple’s world, pausing to hear its legends, study its architecture, savor its rituals, and glimpse how community and culture intertwine around its sacred space.

For now, let us hold this wider vision: that across mountains, coasts, rivers, forests, and deserts, the Jyotirlinga temples stand as luminous testimonies to the eternal light of Lord Shiva: stones that carry story, spaces that breathe devotion, shrines that forever point beyond themselves to the formless, radiant source of all.